The Biggest Regret

The biggest regret is likely not what you might think. It has little to do with money, fame, and fancy titles. At the core, it is all about people. Regrets come when you speak ill of another person, yell in anger, or worst of all indifference.

Take a moment today to acknowledge the good in someone – especially if that good stuff is hard to find.

Warmly,
Anita

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The Fastest Way to Get Motivated

Motivation is an elusive thing. When life is happily zipping along, you have all of the motivation you need. Life is good, so why not keep doing what you have been doing.

On the other hand, if you hit a speed bump motivation can disappear in a nanosecond and can feel impossible to re-activate. What I have found is that when I am in a negative mindset, I am more than likely too self-absorbed. So when I take a step back and reach out to another person, I am often able to encourage that individual Then I am both encouraged and re-motivated.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

The Two Faces of Gratitude

Gratitude is a funny thing. It must be felt, respected, and shared – or it loses its impact.

The other thing is that there are two faces of gratitude – one that finds and acknowledges the value in others and the second that looks in the mirror and sees and recognizes the good stuff in you. One is not better than the other and both are absolutely needed for you to be happy and successful.

Warmly,
Anita

The Important Little Stretch

I used to think that advancement needed to come in big actions. Otherwise, they weren’t important enough to invest my time.

Yet, I now take a different stance. From my experience, those people who take small, accessible, and consistent action achieve a lot more than those who take a big step once in a while.

So today, stretch a little – not to the point where is hurts, but where you achieve a bit more and are ready to go back and do it again tomorrow and so on.

Warmly,
Anita

The Powerful Ripple of Encouragement

Recently, I wrote a note to a student at Chicago Booth acknowledging his commitment to connecting with others in a clearly authentic way. Doing this had been a challenge for him and yet with resolve, determination, and a lot of resilience he is getting better and better at it. So I wrote a note to encourage him.

This morning, I received an extraordinary email from him – that was more than I could ever imagined. It made my week – and this was not even 7 a.m. on Monday. I even shared his kind and humbling words and another person who was also encouraged. The path of encouragement continues as I share my appreciation for this with others.

When you encourage one person, the ripple can go on and on. Do it and just see. You will be making a difference that can travel the world and back.

Have a great day,
Anita

Change Scares Me – You?

When I hear of a change, a tiny wave of fear, bubbles up from inside of me. It’s not that I don’t like growth, innovation, and advancement, it’s just that the idea of them makes me nervous.

What I have learned is to take a step back and separate out my immediate, visceral reaction from the likely risks and benefits. When I do, I warm up to the change and often help facilitate it.

Enjoy change as it is inevitable. As a result, you might as well use it to create progress, success, and happiness.

Have a great day,
Anita

If You Can’t Grow Your Life, Grow a Plant

I was just in my Toastmasters meeting and we were doing 1-2 minutes off the cuff speeches. This time, we were given an object and told to “sell” it to the audience. One of my colleagues was handed a tiny flower plot. Her pitch was: if you are struggling in your life and can’t seem to grow, grow a plant.

While her approach was hilarious, there was also something really profound about her message. To advance in your own life, you can really start anywhere with commitment, enthusiasm, and a bit of humor. When you move forward, even a little, the world can open up to you and those around you.

Thanks for the wisdom, Megan!

Warmly,
Anita

Start Something

It’s time to start something, create something, or expand something. While this may seem obvious, many people wait for the perfect time, circumstances, and situation – myself included at times. Yet doing so is a source of frustration, self-deprecation, and regret.

So instead seeking the perfect action before moving ahead, experiment. When one experiments, there is no failure – only information on how to add, subtract, and/or tweak things to make the next step even better.

Warmly,
Anita

The Hope of Gratitude

Gratitude is a funny thing. It’s really easy to feel and express when what you receive exactly the good stuff you want. From my experience, it’s much harder for me to feel appreciative for things that I never wanted or “signed up for”.

Yet those seemingly negative experiences can be of value when you are able to hang in there long enough to find the benefit – not easy, but can be life changing on the positive side.

Yet those seemingly negative experiences can be of value when you are able to hang in there long enough to find the benefit – not easy, but can be life changing on the positive side.

When you can find even a tiny kernel of gratitude, hope will come along with it. This power couple can help you be happy, successful, and more, right where you are.

Thank you,
Anita

Only Commit to One Step

I have been known to set really big goals and then not take action because I get scared, discouraged, and/or overwhelmed. Those are the moments when I take a step back and ask myself – what is the smallest thing I am willing to do at this time?. When I give myself permission to do just one tiny thing, I do it, build momentum, and increase my confidence.

So today, just commit to one thing. One step is enough.

Warmly,
Anita