Philippe Vernier once said, “Do not wait for great strength before setting out, for immobility will weaken you further.”
This certainly applies to my friend, Andy, and may apply to you. Andy is a great guy. He is self-confident, competent, and successful on his own terms. Yet several years ago Andy ran into a rough patch. One day he stopped by. “Hey Anita, how are you?” he asked.
There was something funny in his voice. “What’s up?” I wanted to know.
“I don’t know what’s wrong with me,” he confessed. “I can’t even believe that I’m telling you this. I feel like a big loser. I’m not getting much done. I don’t feel capable anymore. I keep hoping that I’ll feel stronger tomorrow if I rest today, but all this rest is exhausting.”
I almost laughed because Andy was always making jokes. Something made me stop, and as I looked into his eyes instead of delight, I saw sadness, frustration, and a bit of self-contempt. “Andy,” I said, “I have a suggestion. Without putting any undue pressure on yourself, would you be willing to set aside just 15 minutes each day?”
“Okay, I guess,” he replied.
“Your enthusiasm underwhelms me,” I said and smiled. Andy smiled back – a good sign.
“Now Andy,” I continued, “You can spend more than 15 minutes. Think of 15 minutes as your base. It’s a great start because virtually anybody can carve out 15 minutes sometime during the day.”
“So,” he pondered, “what could I do during that time? I guess a nap would be nice. Only kidding!”
“Andy, you can choose to do whatever you desire,” I said, “but here is what I’ve seen work. Initially, others use that time to decide what they are ready, willing, and able to do next. That’s the dream, goal, or intention. Then I would suggest that you choose a tiny step that you can absolutely do. After you complete it, you’ll see the next tiny step to complete and so on. Just don’t wait. Waiting is robbing you of your joy, vitality, and sense of self-worth.”
“All right, Anita,” he said, “My choices are . . . give this a shot or you’ll keep talking until I do.”
“You got it!” We both laughed – a great sign.
Have a wonderful weekend,
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