Last night, I notice how testy I can get inside my head. I rarely yell or scream, but in my thoughts I get annoyed, frustrated, and upset. I was heading home after getting together with a group of friends. Once I leave a place, I am a person on a mission to get the bus and get home. So, I started complaining to myself how slowly people were walking. Then as we were steps away from the bus stop, the bus cruised on by. Ugh! Ugh! Ugh! If only “they” had walked faster. So I began to head north on Broadway all by myself (boo hoo.) I decided to walk to Addison and because the next bus there was 28 minutes (according to the very reliable bus tracker,) I would then catch a cab.
As I raced north, my head was filled with complaint and my mood was rapidly declining. Much to my surprise, there was a bus approaching the stop. I waiting a nanosecond, got on the bus, and was quickly home.
Of course, the inner complaining stopped and I paused – what was the lesson here? Am I dawdling in some areas of my life? Was I cosmically moved out of harm’s way? While those are interesting ideas, I think my lesson is more basic. For me, complaining in my head (even if I am completely justified in doing so) doesn’t help. Compassion, action, and appreciation do – at least for me.
Have a great Tuesday,
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