I was with a group of friends last night and we discussed many things. Given that is is December, we also did a quick review of the year in our lives and our goals for 2014.
I was so encouraged by my friends – from the goals they achieved, to fears they overcame, to transforming life-threatening situations, to finding the best in themselves in the most unlikely circumstances. The best can be created exactly where you are.
At the same time, as paradoxical as this may sound, the best is also yet to come. The goals I heard last night were about career, love, health, family, finances, and world peace. The most inspiring part was not the goals themselves, but that each person believes that the locus of change starts in their hearts. Assuming responsibility, instead of blaming anyone, will take them far. I can’t wait to hear all they accomplish in 2014.
I am taking the next couple of weeks to review, refine, and rejuvenate.
Thank you so much for being there and I look forward to 2014 with you.
Happy New Year,
I was just chatting with a student who is talented, dynamic, and committed. When I asked her about her long-term dream (if money was no object), she didn’t think for more than a nanosecond. She is enamored by data and turning complex sets of information into graphs. That’s her dream. Fortunately, she has the opportunity to do this at work, but she also does it on weekends as a stimulating recreational activity.
I must admit that her answer surprised me a bit – not because it wasn’t a great answer, it was. It was just very different than the broad, conceptual visions I usually hear.
This student’s clarity and thrill of the narrow will make her a huge player in her field and an inspiration to me – perhaps to you, too.
Have a great day,
Last night before I went to sleep, I asked myself an important question and wanted to wake up with a big answer. Well, at about 1:42am I was wide awake with a definitive response clear in my mind. At a visceral level, I felt that my sub-conscious gave me the answer I was looking for. It wasn’t what I expected, but the gut feeling was strong, powerful, and positive.
I went back to sleep feeling pretty good about things. Then I woke up and thought about the impact of implementing what had come to me in the middle of the night – it is far-reaching. I will admit that it scared me a little.
I am contemplating my next steps – which will be of the BabyStep variety so I can comfortably move ahead with this Big Stuff.
If you ask for the big stuff, be ready to receive it.
More to follow,
It’s so easy to be comparing ourselves, progress, and lives with others and then feel less than good about ourselves. While it’s important to have goals and benchmark our advancement, it’s crucial to compete less with others and more with ourselves. When we seek to perfect our skills, talents, and character, we give ourselves a great advantage – not just for today, but for years to come.
I must admit that big decisions scare me and that I am usually happy once I have taken a stand on an issue and moved ahead.
If this sounds like you, here’s something that has helped me. I give myself a specific amount of time to think things through, do a bit of research and analysis, and see what part of the decision I am ready and willing to make at that moment.That’s not scary to me, so I act. Each action moves me ahead and in a relatively short time, I have made the whole decision and I am off to the next Big one.
Have a great day,
What are your goals for 2014?
Start by writing them down.
Make them clear, concrete, and measurable. Include why this goal is important to you.
Please share them to friends, family, trusted advisors – and me if you are open to it.
Last night was brutally cold (well below zero) with the windchill. Yet I had an amazingly experience filled with warmth, encouragement, and smiles all around.
I was with a group of friends, and towards the end of the evening we shared some of our successes from 2013. The experiences were as varied as landing a new job, developing a level of confidence that transformed her family, and having the compassion to seek the best for even ever-present competitors. One person even talked about how his life fell apart at the beginning of 2013 (personally and professionally) and now, almost a year later, he is happier than he has ever been.
While I was inspired by each of my friend’s successes, what struck me most was how each took responsibility, refused to expect anyone to change (other than him/herself), and found a success that was meaningful and inspiring to them, too.
Congrats my friends!
I was chatting with a colleague recently and she shared the story of a transition earlier in her career. She was in a job and personal situation that were the direct opposite of supportive and by the time both ended, her confidence and sense of self-worth was nearly non-existent.
The more I listened to her story, the more encouraged I become. She is clearly a source of inspiration – not the poofy kind, the practical – succeed beyond your wildest dreams within the constraints of your life kind. No superheroes needed.
Where can you be the inspiration?
Often breakthrough thinking comes less from thinking and speaking and more from listening. Now I am not referring to the cursory listening that comes when you are waiting for your turn to speak next. It’s a deep listening with your head and heart that help you understand the other person’s perspective, see what can be gained from it, extrapolate from that point to something you may never have envisioned.
Have a great day,
I was chatting with a friend today who hit a number of speedbumps over the last year. When I asked her how she was able to not just cope but advance, a huge smile came across her face. “It’s not rocket science,” she said. “It’s more about being able to bounce – to be resilient.”
While I didn’t roll my eyes, I did think to myself, “Easy for you to say, but not so for everyone.”
She must of read my mind because she added, “Being resilient isn’t easy. It takes practice and even more, it requires that you hang out with people who are able to see the upside within a situation and encourage you accordingly. These friends pushed me to make the most out of what I faced instead of complaining about it. If anyone wants to be resilient rich, choose your friends and associates wisely.”
When I looked back at my friend, she was beaming. Given how she transformed her career setback into a powerful new job, her approach to resilience is definitely working.
A lesson for us all.
Have a great day,