The Power of Real Recognition

I am the type of person who really appreciates being recognized when I add value to a person, team, or project – and I don’t need tons of specificity for me to feel good about the experience.

That said, I was working with a woman this week who felt decidedly unappreciated at her job. When I asked this individual about the circumstances, it was clear that there were many times where she was praised, yet those comments didn’t count because they were general in tone. “Good Job!” and “We really appreciate your efforts.” not only weren’t meaningful, they seemed fake.

Two lessons from this:

1. If you are feeling unappreciated or receive general recognition, say thank you and if it’s appropriate, ask for a few specifics.

2. If you are giving praise for a job well done, include some details. That can give your words more power and impact.

Have a great weekend,
Anita

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The Thrill of Authenticity

This morning I interviewed someone for the podcast I host and produce. While the topic was interesting, the impact of the conversation on me was remarkable. When I hung up the phone, I was inspired, exhilarated, and ready to jump in what was next. I actually noticed this shift and it made pause and ask why did I feel so good? Now, don’t get me wrong, I wasn’t tempted the fates, I was just curious.

My conclusion was this: I was really authentic during the interview because it is part of what I am meant to do. I don’t have to be someone I am not and that in itself is thrilling.

I encourage you to discover something where who is are is embraced, valued, and celebrated – and while I know is can be hard to find, it’s so worth the effort.

Have a great day,
Anita

The Tiny Launch

I was working with a former colleague a few weeks ago who had been researching a business idea for quite a while (a few years to be exact). She is currently a stay-at-home mom and wanted to get back in the workforce. Her research and business plan took on a life of them own and it was hard for her to just start.

As we talked, she “confessed” that we was so unsure of yourself that it was hard to just GO. I can certainly understand this. We crafted a game plan where my former colleague could launch a tiny part of her overall business – and this is what she has done. A tiny launch was just the right size for her and I am happy to report that her product has begun selling at a brisk pace.

Start small. Even a tiny launch can move your forward.

Have a great day,
Anita

A Tuesday Question

If you could jump up your courage a little bit, what would do that you have been putting off?

Enjoy your life,
Anita

Are You Going to Win?

I was chatting with a friend yesterday and it was ironic how our state of mind matched perfectly. I wish I could tell you that we were both soaring with delight, but that was not the case. There are times when doubt creeps in and it can “take over”, creating an atmosphere where negativity can grow and blossom.

Well, I know that neither my friend nor myself wants that. Life is victory or defeat and who wants a life with the “D” word front and center – NOT me.

Music is a positive influence on me and so I listened to Win, a song filled with exactly what I needed to hear.

Enjoy the song and honor your value.

Have a great day,
Anita

New Can Be (A lot) Better

I was working on a round table discussion with a friend this week – which we presented last evening. It was intended to be a bit of actual presentation and much more group discussion. My friend wanted to break up the 15-20 people into small groups so that everyone would have a chance to contribute to the conversation. Yet, there was some resistance from a few of the people in the group when we planned the activity.

Well, my friend and I decided to be bold and do the small group discussion and it was a HUGE success!

My lesson, new can be a lot better if you have the courage to implement change.

Have a great weekend,
Anita

“Gotta Get Going”

I was chatting with someone recently and he was really stressed about a goal he was pursuing. He was clearly taking action and yet, every few minutes, he would say, “I gotta get going.”

Finally at the end of our conversation, I paused and said, “You are going. If you think you ‘gotta get going,’ you will never feel satisfaction, a sense of accomplishment, or good about yourself. Even more, your confidence, commitment, and energy could really decline.”

He seemed shocked by his own behavior and is now keeping track of what he is achieving – even the little stuff.

Have a great day,
Anita

The Big Success Blocker

I was chatting with a friend last night about a time that no matter what I did, I kept ending up in the same (dare I say, negative) place. It wasn’t that I didn’t work hard, have a good heart, or want to help other people. I did all that and more – which only made my lack of progress SO frustrating and discouraging.

At one point, I felt that I had pushed as far as I could go – and to be honest, I was exhausted. One of my wise friends offered up some advice – which I immediately rejected. She told me that I had negativity, resentment, and even grudges in my heart and it was blocking the good things from getting to me. I kept thinking that my friend, although kind, didn’t understand my situation – how unfair things were and how I should be rewarded for my extraordinary effort alone. Clearly, she wasn’t buying it.

Her final comment to me that day was, “It’s really up to you. You can transform the resentment inside of you or you can wear it like a very costly anchor. I guarantee that you won’t get very far carrying around that weight, no matter how right and justified you feel.”

I wasn’t thrilled with my friend’s advice, but as things did not get better, I began to look for something in seemingly negative people and circumstances to move me to a more appreciative place.

All I can say it that it fundamentally changed my life and it could change yours.

Have a great day,
Anita

True Courage

I was recently with a friend who has a condition that makes walking a challenge to the point where she had become a bit self-conscious about walking with others. She doesn’t want to slow them down.

Chatting with her encouraged me tremendously. Within this challenge, she was determined to find ways to overcome her obstacle with courage. Fear is a funny things – it can stop you cold. Or, if you look it in the eye and stare it down, it can inspire you to grow your inner capacity to weaken and eclipse the fear.

Thank you friend for your courage, conviction, and heart.

Have a great day,
Anita

Power: Inside Out

I had brunch with a group of people yesterday – some people I knew and a few individuals that I was glad to meet. Our conversation turned to how to overcome challenges and weaknesses.

One of the biggest takeaways for the group (including me) was the reminder that obstacles start in our heart. While this may sounds a little ephemeral, it is not. In fact, it’s a perspective that can help you in real, concrete, and practical ways. Once you are able to see the “problem” as something you can change by changing yourself, there is a power shift. No longer are you a victim of circumstances, you have the ability to direct your actions in ways that help create positive movement forward.

Have a great day,

Anita