Is Pursuing Your Passion a Waste of Time?

I have been hearing for years that you owe it to yourself to pursue your passion. Otherwise, the experts say, you will have an unfulfilling career and life. This point of view leaves many struggling to find the one thing that will help them create the “perfect” career.

Wow! That’s a ton of pressure. On top of that, recent research shows that perhaps we have it backwards. Instead of following your passion, bring it with you to everything you do. So instead of chasing it and invariably not quite catching it, it is always with you to inspire others and yourself.

Have a great day,
Anita

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Incremental Courage Pays Off

I spoke to a new friend today. She had been out of the workforce for 12 years and was ready to jump back in. However, there were many barriers – some external (like employers’ perception of her stay-at-home role) and others internal (like fear and lack of confidence).

That said, she broke through by building her courage bit by bit. The great news is that she landed a new job and is off and running.

Way to go friend!

Have a great weekend,
Anita

Be Your Best TODAY

What if today was the only day you would shine and succeed? How would you act and what would be your behavior as a human begin?

Go for it,
Anita

Listen for Success

I have been known to give an answer (often my opinion) before a question is even asked. Even if I am “right”, my being presumptuous could invalidate my contribution.

Questions can clearly lead us to greater success and happiness, if we pause and listen to question, really think about the answer, and share what we want to say with humility. Then your brilliance can shine. You can create significant value, make the other person feel good, and who knows – you could uncover something really special.

Have a great day,
Anita

Yes Power

I was with a large group of people last Friday and there were two distinct types of conversations. One was all about how things couldn’t and wouldn’t work out and with “no” and “but” the top preferred choice of words. The other group focused on the possibility with “yes” and “also” used a lot.

It could be that I only heard unrepresentative snippets of the conversations, yet I think not.

The first group was clearly discouraged, unhappy, and skewed to the negative – and I suspect their results will be unremarkable (if left to their own devices).

The second group is more like Jim Carrey’s character in the movie “Yes Man”. He kept saying yes to everything and while he went to some places that were not good in the short term, in the long term he really won.

Most people will sit somewhere in the middle of yes and no. From all of the research I have read, getting closer to yes is the way to go.

 

Food for thought,

Anita

Where Are You a Source of Value?

For this week, please think about where you are a source of value and to whom. Start a list with at least five items.

Then, spend five minutes each day adding to your list.

Expand, enjoy, and celebrate.

Best regards,
Anita

Swayed From Success

I was meeting with a student this week and the day before he got together with individuals in his dream career path of Banking They painted a rather bleak picture of his chances of entering the field and the student left rather discouraged.

By the time he sat down in my office, this student was so swayed by his new “friends” that he had given up. Each time we discussed a possible point of entry, this student told me why it couldn’t happen.

So we stopped the conversation and I asked him if he was still interested in the role in Banking. When he told me he was, we talked about while it’s important to know the reality of the situation not let it determine his outcome.

It’s so easy to be swayed by others. Be sure that you have a solid grounding in why your goal is important to you and then look for ways to make it happen. And, if you get shut down in one direction – find another path to your success.

Have a great weekend,
Anita

If Your Goal is Stalled

If you find that you are not making the progress you want to on your goals, ask yourself the following:

  1. Do you still want to achieve goal?
    • If yes, why is it important to you?
    • If no, then what goal would be important to you?
  2. Are you taking actions that you can actually do?
  3. Are you measuring your progress? Reread what you have accomplished periodically as a wonderful reminder.
  4. Are you letting others know how they have helped you?
  5. Are you holding on the an expectation that hasn’t been met and turned into a resentment or grudge? This is actually a big derailer of goals. Examine how to re-align your expectations and let go of the grudge.

This is a good place to start.

Also, let us know what works for you when you get stalled.

Have a great day,
Anita

Go for the Big One

I was talking to my friend, Sam, a few weeks ago and I was sharing my plans for another book. He listened very attentively, smiled, and said, “Too small! Too small! Why are you wasting your talents on something without a global reach?”

“Don’t even tell me you can’t do this,” he continued. “I just want to know how you will achieve this – and you better make it BIG.”

“Okay then” I thought. Knowing me, you will realize that I need to go BIG incrementally – which is what I am doing.

Consider going BIG yourself.

Have a great day,
Anita

Prepare Before You Ask

I was working with someone recently who was anxious about finding a job. While it is important to take action toward your goals, it’s critical that you are prepared. My acquaintance got off the phone with me and jumped in and asked a friend of his for a connection into a specific company. Unfortunately, even though my acquaintance received the referral into the company – he missed the mark.

While he is capable, qualified, and talented – he didn’t land the job because he failed to find out what the company needed and “sold” what they didn’t want or find relevant.

So the next time you have an opportunity, pause long enough to do your research, find the problem where you are the solution, and share the value you can provide accordingly.

Best regards,
Anita