I was chatting with a student who was rather discouraged about his job search. He had been out of work for awhile and was not getting the traction he hoped for.
I have known him for more than a year and he was rather negative (not his usual M.O.) As we chatted more, we both realized that he was asking questions that could only yield more negativity like: What’s wrong with me? Am I a loser? You and I can both see why the responses would yield answers going nowhere good.
Yet, this student didn’t realize the damage he was doing to his already fragile confidence – until we reversed roles and he could hear the questions and answers from outside of himself.
My lesson is this: the questions can be even more important than the answers because they will shape them.
Have a great day,