I was chatting with someone this week who was stymied by his lack of progress in getting help from others. He shared his email communication with me and he was clearly asking for more than the new relationship could support. What became clear to both of us was that his too big request was literally sending the person away, derailing the hope of a connection, and compromising the reputation of the askee.
So, before you request something, be sure you are asking the right person and what you are asking for is appropriate for the relationship at that stage – along with it being REALLY easy for the person to say “yes”. When you do, both parties will feel good about the interchange and be open to sharing more – now and into the future.
Have a great weekend,