Stand Up For What You Really Want

I was working on a project with someone. I invested a lot time during the process. When I received the output of our collaboration, I was deeply disappointed and no longer wanted to participate. This was especially true when the originator of the project brushed off my concerns as “no big deal”. With prompting from a smart associate, I realized that I could make my portion of the project what I wanted it to be. I sat down and rewrote it and felt much better when I did. Now, I don’t know if it will be accepted. If it is, great. If it isn’t, then I believe what I wrote will create more value somewhere else.

Honor yourself, your values, and your ideas.

Have a good day,
Anita

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Failure (and Success) Happen in Small Things

Some people believe that failure or success happen in big leaps. It’s NOT true. Success and failure are the result of tiny things you do or don’t do. So as you plan to move toward your goal, map your actions with care, commitment, and courage.

Have a great day,
Anita

Success Means “Know Thyself”

I was working with someone today who is succeeding in ways that he couldn’t even imagine.

Why?

Because he spent a lot of time understanding himself, embracing his values, and choosing a path that honors what was most important to him.

Cool, huh?

Warmly,
Anita

Narrow is Key to Success

I was chatting with someone today who has BIG plans that are not being achieved. The more I spoke to him, the clearer it became to me that his success was in direct proportion to his willingness to narrow his message and connect to the audience who could become deeply committed to his product.

I think narrow is the most direct path to success – if you have the courage.

Warmly,
Anita

High Performing Success

I was chatting with someone recently who was moving so fast, his life seemed like a blur. This could have been fun if he was achieving his goals, but he was not. When we chatted, it became clear that he was doing so many things, he “forgot” to prioritize his actions. The funny thing is action of any kind, can feel like progress – but it isn’t necessarily so.

So now, he evaluates his to-do list before committing to anything – and his progress is better than even he expected.

Warmly,
Anita

Gratitude Without Strings

The next time someone says “thank you” for something you did for that person, it doesn’t mean that person will reciprocate – EVER. So give without expecting anything in return. You will save yourself a lot of aggravation, resentment, and even grudges. If you happen to receive something, it’s a bonus.

Have a great day,
Anita

Success on the Other Side

I was chatting with someone, let’s call her Laney, who was incredibly frustrated by a colleague who just couldn’t see her point of view. As Laney and I talked, it became clear to both of us that she was doing the same thing to her colleague that she believed he was doing to her – not listening and closed to having her mind changed. The next time the two of them met, Laney really listened and found a tiny bit of common ground. That became a foundation for more to follow.

Success can be found in places that seem unlikely, at best, if you listen with an open mind and heart and be determined to find areas of agreement and value.

Warmly,
Anita

Reactivate Your Success

Right after dinner, I received a phone call – a bit out of the blue. At the other end of the line was a friend I really enjoy talking with. The last time we spoke, she was more than a bit defeated by an uncooperative Board of a non-profit. Her role as President didn’t seem to carry weight and everyone expected her to do the heavy lifting for just about everything.

The call last night had a very different tone – it was one of hope, positive expectation, and massive amounts of energy and enthusiasm. What was the difference? My friend saw the situation and the people in it – in a brand new way – by seeing them from another person’s point of view. This fresh beginning inspired her on so many levels.

So if feel stuck (even a little), ask someone to be your eyes and ears for a day.

Warmly,
Anita

Don’t Stop Too Soon

I was meeting with someone today who has had a dream for a long time and yet never completed the first major step to completing it. Today was a different story (and very encouraging story): she broke down the actions she needed to take and made them small enough not to overwhelm her.

A good lesson for each of us.

Thanks,
Anita