“But” is a often used word, especially if you want to look agreeable while criticizing whatever is on the table. If you listen to others’ words, the word “but” will show up shockingly often.
So why is this a problem you may wonder? “But” is a stopper word. No matter what else you may say, “but” negates everything that comes before it. For example, “I like your idea, but . . ..” Contrast this with “I like your idea and . . .” The first one can be viewed as lacking positive acknowledgement and holding lots of criticism – shutting down dialogue.. The second shows you value what the person is saying and you made have suggestions on how to make it even better – which lends itself to collaboration and a potentially stronger relationship.
Something to think about.
Enjoy your day,