My Greatest Opportunity

I find that I allow fear to make me procrastinate from doing certain things – personally and professionally. Yet, I don’t think fear is my real impediment: it’s actually believing that every challenge has to be dead serious – as well as its solution.

I have friends who take the opposite approach. While they take obstacles seriously, the don’t believe that solutions have to be. They create positive results with fun, joy, and a bit of mischievousness. I am learning to be less humorless and sullen and more lively and joyful. Please note: I am a work in progress.

Thanks,
Anita

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Tell Your Power Story

What story do you tell about yourself, your career, and life? It is either one of advancement, victory, and growth or one that ends in loss, discouragement, and defeat. Two stories, yet often one set of circumstances. How others perceive your story depends on what you focus and whether you are the victor or victim.

Have a good day,
Anita

Refuse to Let “No” Be Your Driver

I was working with someone recently who sat slumped in a chair in my office. When I asked the person (Let’s call him, Todd) what was wrong. Todd told me someone who he really respects told him his goal was impossible and to give it up.

While the “expert” could be right (based on his past experience), he also could be absolutely wrong. Yet Todd took the expert’s opinion as fact and was about to give up on his startup venture. I’m glad he didn’t.

Have a good day,
Anita

The Power of a Random Act of Kindness

Yesterday, I had a wonderful surprise – a visit from a student where he shared his time, an amazing card, and a couple of tasty delights. Here is a person who consistently helps others, makes individuals feel valued, and has the behavior of a person who treats others with dignity and respect.

I am honored to know him and his gesture is a reminder to me to share a random acts of kindness as they can make a person’s day. I know from first-hand experience.

Have a great day,
Anita

Find Your Success Threshold

I was chatting with a friend (let’s call her Jamie – not her name) last week and she was stressed about not having enough willpower. When I told her I don’t believe in willpower, Jamie looked stunned. It isn’t that I don’t believe it effort, work, and tenacity, it’s that I feel that finding your threshold beats willpower every time.

Here is my approach – when I have a goal, I start by finding an action that I can take – that is under my control and doesn’t stress me out. Each time I complete my task, I build up my confidence to succeed at it. In relatively short order, the action becomes a habit and willpower isn’t needed. This works for me and it could just work for you.

Something to consider.

Warmly,
Anita

Collaborate and Compete

I used to think that the only way to succeed was to compete, gain the resources I needed, and to leverage them as completely as possible, I have come to realize that almost every important goal needs a team – to collaborate, gain the best from each other, and exceed your own expectations.

Thank you to those on my team. I deeply appreciate each of you.

Have a great day,
Anita

Clear Out Your Mental Gunk

Recently, I was struggling to make time to complete a personal project that is important to me. When I shared this dilemma with a close friend, she told me I needed to do a bit of gunk cleaning. Now she didn’t mean cleaning out my junk drawer (which also isn’t a bad idea), my friend was referring to the mental gunk (i.e. negativity) that was sucking my energy and diverting time that could be used for my project.

Just like most people, clearing gunk is a work in progress. My babystep is noticing when gunk surfaces and I cleaning it out fast.

Thanks so much for reading this,
Anita

Make More “Mistakes”

I was working with someone recently who was having a very hard time at work. She was paralyzed with fear and so not doing a great job in her role. Work has become a vicious cycle of fear, procrastination, not providing high quality deliverables, critical feedback, and more fear.

When we spoke, this individual decided to chat with her manager and explain the situation before it was too late and she lost her job. The outcome was surprising to her and very positive. Her manager wants this woman to stretch herself to the point where she makes a mistake here and there (in lower risk environments) so she can expand her courage, confidence, and capacity.

So where can you make “safe mistakes” to stretch yourself?

Warmly,
Anita

Gratitude is the Secret Sauce of Success

As I think back to this day (2.16), many years ago, when I was crushed by an elevator, my life was a struggle until I was able to feel gratitude. While is was far from easy, without it, I would be living in that loss instead of creating an even better life.

Thank you for all who helped me see what was possible.

Warmly,
Anita

Success Engagement

If you are like me, you find something you want to learn about and dive deeply into finding the person who can help you. My enthusiasm can take over and I need to remind myself that the person is an actual human being – way more than just a conduit to the resources and information I want and need.

When you authentically demonstrate that you value the other person – with care, respect, and appreciation – your opportunities can expand exponentially and you will feel wonderful in the process.

Have a great day,
Anita

Anita