Stir Change

Change can seem like a scary thing at times, especially when you are not the driver. In today’s world, change seems like the only constant – so what is a person to do?

My friend, Penny, once told me that with change, “if you can’t control it, jump in to be part of the change, and help others manage it.” This has proven to be rather sage advice. You can be the protagonist of change – and if you take the lead, you can powerfully influence the outcome you want to see.

Have a great day,
Anita

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All or Nothing ≠ Success

I was talking to a former colleague who is awesome and often hard to work with because he is an all or nothing person. When work is good, it is excellent. On the other hand, if even one thing doesn’t go the way he thinks it should, he complains, blames others, and gets angry. You might imagine that I was sympathetic, yet not surprised when he told me that he had lost his job.

He is very competent, yet that is not enough for his co-workers and managers. They want someone who can certainly take a stand and yet is flexible and supportive around others’ missteps. After all, if we are to act like a team – we will occasionally pick up the slack for others as they do for us.

Have a good day,
Anita

Jump In and Help

I was recently in a situation where I knew a friend needed help with something, yet I had had a really long week and wanted to go home. I actually thought heading out, climbing on the bus number one, and getting on bus number 2 without a pause. Yet, I just couldn’t. It wasn’t out of guilt or a “should”, but out an inner commitment to assist someone who clearly needed my help.

“So was it worth it?” you may ask. Absolutely. Absolutely. Absolutely. I bet that I actually gained more than my friend. I think it works that way a lot of time.

So if you need a boost – lend someone else a hand.

Have a great day,

Anita

Encouragement is Crucial

There are things that we can survive without, yet I believe that encouragement isn’t one of them. Encouragement could be the only thing standing between a person driving forward and giving up.

Be the person who is a source of encouragement for others and the impact of your efforts could go way farther than you might ever imagine.

Just do it today, tomorrow, and for years to come.

Warmly,
Anita

Your Difference is Your Advantage

Some people try to hide their differences and just blend it. They might change their style of clothing, voice, and more. Yet, it’s the things that make us different that give us an edge in work, relationships, and general happiness. The real you can lead you to what you want in each area of like.

So be your special self.

Have a great day,
Anita

Who is the Center of the Universe?

I have a few friends who joke about being at the center of the universe. I admit that, at times, I act as if I am.

The reality is that none of us ia and all of us are that the center of the universe.

If this could be true, how would you alter your behavior to make the world a better place?

Do it.

Have a great day,
Anita

Acceptance and Success

Since I was a child (until about 10 years ago), I struggled with my weight. One day, my mother told me something I just wasn’t willing to hear – and that I needed to accept myself as I was at that time. I told her I would accept myself once I was thin. Clearly, I didn’t get the point.

What I have learned is that acceptance doesn’t mean that we aren’t striving to improve. It just means that if we start from a place of appreciation of where we are and from where we have come, we will have power, confidence, and strength to achieve our goals and dreams.

Have a great day,
Anita

Set a Bigger Goal

Recently, I was struggling to achieve a specific goal I had been working on for a long time. I couldn’t for the life of me figure out what was wrong. I blamed myself – too lazy, not committed, missing something to carry things through to the finish.

While my self-assessment may have been accurate, it wasn’t the whole story. I soon realized that my goal was too tiny and didn’t inspire me. So I made my goal bigger – not impossible, but enough of a stretch to drive me ahead.

Updates to follow.

Have a great day,
Anita

The Courage Continuum

I speak to people who tell me they lack the courage to pursue a goal or dream. Yet, they have taken courageous action in other areas of their lives. What we often both conclude it that it’s not really “missing” courage, but taking on too much, too soon.

Once they are able to take a tiny step that takes courage, they make progress toward their goal. In the end, they become a person who sets and achieves even bigger goals.

Just start with one tiny absolutely doable step and you will expand your courage, capacity, and confidence.

Warmly,
Anita

Divisiveness Starts From Within

I hear again and again: that the world is divisive. Some people believe that this serious discord is caused by our institutions and if only they would change, the world would be better. At some level, those individuals are right – and it’s far from the whole story.

Organizations are made up of people, so what if each of us looks at any “disunity” inside our own heart? I have seen when the change emanates from within, the environment changes for the better.

Do it as an experiment.

Warmly,
Anita