Get Reinvigorated

I was chatting with a group of friends who seemed to be in a bit of a malaise – which is stalling out their progress. The challenge is that a lack progress can lead to frustration, resentment, and complaining. All of the those things deplete your energy and lead to more of negative emotions – a vicious cycle. Ugh!

So what is a person to do?

Here is an answer that may surprise you: reach out and help another person with his or her goals. The very act of making a contribution will boost all of those feel good chemicals in your brain, increase your confidence, and expand your sense of well-being. In the process you will be reinvigorated. If you also reconnect to your sense of purpose, you will be unstoppable.

Have a great day,
Anita

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Transform This Cause of Failure

Many people won’t admit to failing. Those who do, blame it on a lack of resources – time, money, opportunities, contacts, and more. Yet not enough or this or that is almost never the source of failure. Instead, it is a lack or unwillingness to commit to a goal and use your vision, determination, and tenacity to bring out your unlimited potential to mobilize yourself and others.

If knowing this could really be the case, how will you approach the next goal you pursue?

Warmly,
Anita

Do You Advocate for Yourself?

I was thinking about this recently – what does it mean to advocate for yourself in your career?

While there are many things, two keep circling back in my brain. The first is, it is essential to have a concrete and specific goal that is understandable to you and others. The second is to have at least one action you can take consistently (with a specific amount of time you can commit to it) that is completely under your control.

Once you have these two things you are able to guide others on how to advocate for you.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

Self Empathy

I was chatting with someone recently and he said something I hadn’t really thought about before.

It’s this: If you want to improve yourself, your community, and your world, you must have empathy and feel compassion for others. Yet this is impossible if you don’t feel empathy and compassion for yourself. It all starts with you.

That is the locus of change, power, and benefit.

Warmly,
Anita

Attitudes Are Contagious – What Are You Catching?

I have been reading a book for a work assignment and the author talked about how attitudes, emotions, and feelings are contagious. While this makes perfect sense, I never really thought about it in quite that way.

After a bit of reflection, I remembered two things:

The people closest to you shape your life. So, choose carefully and know that you may have to remove individuals from your life if their influence is taking you in a direction that is unhealthy or worse.

You shape other people’s lives. You words can encourage, inspire, and motivate or crush the other person. So be kind, compassionate, and sometimes strict. You owe it to yourself and the other person.

Have a great day,
Anita

Listening to Succeed

Many people listen less than 50% of the time. It’s so easy to be distracted by random thoughts, interruptions, and our ever-present devices. The consequences can be anything from showing up for a meeting at the wrong time to failing to achieve a goal because you have lost the support of other people. What a waste of time, energy, and a whole variety of resources.

So pause, give yourself a break, and take a babystep toward more in-depth listening. First, make an effort to actually give the other person your full attention. It’s fine to disagree. Listening to disagree to actually a step up from not listening or listening to wait for the other person to take a breath so you can jump in and make your point.

Ultimately, you want to listen to understand – have an authentic dialogue. That’s the big win – for you, the other person, and creating greater value for both of you.

Have a great day,
Anita

Need a Jumpstart?

Do you feel that you need a jumpstart boost? It’s really easy to feel that way if everything is status quo and you are eager to accelerate your advancement. Or, maybe you are in the midst of making a change in your life and it’s slower than you would prefer.

Either way, action is in order. Here are three things to help you create a jumpstart:

  • Ask yourself: why you want whatever you are pursuing? The answer to this question is crucial to up your game, create sustainable momentum, and remember the reasons you want to accomplish this change.
  • Make your goal concrete, specific, and most importantly UNDERSTANDABLE. For others to help you, they need to know what you want to achieve.
  • Create one “Performance Babystep” that you can do today. It needs to be completely under your control, with a specific amount of time you can absolutely devote to it, and will move you closer to your goal.

Start with what’s in front of you and move from there.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

The Power of “Winter”

I was in a very interesting conversation last evening and to say the group was eclectic is an understatement. Yet, we absolutely agreed on a few things:

  • Winter, or the challenges of life, are not permanent – even if they feel that way.
  • Challenges allow us to develop capacities we didn’t even know we had.
  • When we transform our “winters”, we give hope, encouragement, and a positive example to others.

Even if it’s not how we prefer to have things unfold, winter can be a powerful source of growth, success, and happiness.

Warmly,
Anita

Find the Deeper Value

It’s SO easy to get discouraged when things don’t go the way you hoped, that people aren’t supportive, and your momentum is heading in the wrong direction.

While it’s a natural reaction is to want to escape into an activity that helps you “forget” the disappointment, this is precisely the time to become a “value detective” and find the good things (or dare I say “gifts”) below the surface.

When you do, your perspective about your situation will change – and then you will have the focus. determination, and tenacity to achieve what you wanted to in the first place.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

Manage Your Mindset

Your mindset will direct how much you succeed in your career and life. So how can you use your approach, perspective, and wisdom to guide you toward your success and happiness while using any challenges to expand your capacity, courage, and confidence?

Warmly,
Anita