Gardening Your Network

How’s your network?

Networks are like gardens. They need to be planted and cultivated long before you want to dine on the harvest.

So don’t delay. Initiate relationships; give them thoughtful attention; and reciprocate. Then your network will be there when you need it.



The Power of Following Through

Do you make determinations to do things and fail to follow through?

As a start, look at the promises that you make to yourself. If you are failing to achieve your own goals, are your expectations realistic? If not, how can you set goals that are reasonable for you?

Each doable step you achieve along the way is a source of celebration, success, and confidence.

Do it now,

Valuing Others Can Help You

How do you treat people who can no longer give you something important? Are they relegated to a dusty shelf somewhere or do elevate them to an even higher status?

Which approach you take might just predict how healthy you will be during your lifetime. Researchers from Temple University found that individuals who view people at replaceable as the latest and greatest device are likely to suffer from a variety of health problems even if they live a so-called “healthy” life.

Embracing and finding the continuing value in each person’s life can be a priceless elixir. Drink up.


Don’t Wait for a Crisis

“I feel like I went to my funeral and then lived,” a colleague shared recently.

After friends and colleagues found out that he had been diagnosed with a deadly disease, many told him how they felt about him. “I was extremely joyful, yet humbled by all they said,” he told me. I could tell that it meant a lot to him. Who knows – the comments could have been a powerful “medicine” that has helped with his recovery.

So don’t wait for a “crisis” to tell those you care about how much they mean to you, call or write to someone today – and when people tell you good things about you, listen up.

Enjoy your day and life,

Overcoming First Misimpressions

People often make up their minds up others based on where that person is today.

Consider an alternative. The next time you meet someone ask yourself the following: “How did this person reach his starting point in the first place?”

Your answers will be more fun, joyful, and allow you to tap into your imagination. Then you can get to know the other person and find out the truth.

Have a great day,

Getting Unstuck

What do you do when you feel stuck?

My usual MO is to push and push and attempt to “figure out” the problem, write down a whole bunch of possible solutions, and create a list of the resources I need to “make things happen”.

While this approach often does work, not always. In fact, sometimes the more I push and plan and strategize – the most stuck I feel. That’s when I give up – not quit, but give up my idea of how things “should” work out.

Have a great day,

Are You Stalling?

Do you ever find that you really want to move ahead, but you aren’t doing what needs to get done?

Hectic schedules can be a good “excuse”, but there’s usually more to it. Fear, doubt, and/or not seeing a clear pathway could be underlying reasons. Yet there are solutions.

First, decide that you really want to do the thing that is stalled. Second, recommit to it. Third, find things that you are willing to do and feel capable of completing. Finally, move at the pace that feels comfortable for you. Then being stalled will become a thing of the past.

Act even a little today,


Your Living Mission

It has been said: “Everyone has a unique mission.” While I believe this in the depths of my life, understanding my specific mission is another story.

On one particularly frustrating day I quizzed a wise friend about my mission “confusion”. “Anita,” Jay told me, “your mission is not confined to one place or activity. Start with a dream.  Add your strengths. Apply them at home and at work. You will experience your mission.”

“Okay,” I replied not really believing Jay. Yet I still gave it a shot – and Jay was right. My home, work, and community are great places to live my mission. You can, too.

Take one action toward your dream today and observe how your mission can unfold.


Are You Intimidated by Your Goals?

It was once said, “The ocean is made of drops.” So are your dreams.

If there is something that you really desire but are intimidated by, all that stands between you and your dream.

Realize that you control the pace. You can take lots of steps or just a few at a time. It’s all up to you. Either way, you will make progress as long as you exert yourself each and every day.

Enjoy your progress today,

12000 Volts of Encouragement

While recovering in the hospital after being crushed by an elevator, I met an extraordinary man. Melvin’s both arms and legs had been burned off after 12000 volts of electricity went through his body.

During an interview for a local cable show I wondered how he kept up his own spirits. “Anita,” he told me, “I was feeling really sorry for myself just this morning. I momentarily wished I had died. I stopped myself and wheeled myself down the hall to cheer up someone else. I made his day and that made my day.”

So the next time you are feeling sorry for yourself, pick up the phone or walk down the hall or street and say hello to someone who could just need to hear from you. You’ll likely make her day and yours in the process.

Enjoy your day,