Give or Not – Just Choose

We make a life by what we give.  Winston Churchill

What if this is actually true? How would you choose to live your life.

Here’s a thought: choose to give and then give fully or choose not to give. Just choose one way or the other – rather than saying “yes” and meaning  “no,” feeling resentful, and withholding part of yourself.

You will make things better for others and yourself!

Enjoy making choices today,


Success Connecting

At this time of year, I spend a lot of time with individuals planning and driving toward their next career and role. I believe they have a “secret” wish to be given the perfect contact who can give them the job of their dreams.

Yet the focus is backwards. Instead, think of who you need to become to be ready for someone else to put his or her reputation on the line for you. When you do, you increase the chances of having someone endorse you exponentially.

Who knows -you could land that dream job after all!

Happy connecting,

Bonus Break

What do you do when you need a breather?

When you feel overwhelmed, take a break from whatever is causing the pressure and do a task that will please you and bring instant gratification.

Have a cup of coffee. Organize a stack of papers. Practice deep breathing.

You can then return to the bigger tasks with renewed energy, confidence, and a sense of accomplishment. Use these feelings and attitude to succeed at whatever you do next.


Happiness Found

Look for ways to be happy, things to be happy about. If you don’t even notice the sources of happiness in your life, how can you enjoy them? Some people focus on their problems. It’s important to be aware of all the good things in your life. Take 5 minutes each day to count your blessings.


Self-Fulfilling Talk

You have to talk to yourself the right way.

So how do you talk to yourself?

Do you punish yourself for having shortcomings?  Each minute your make yourself miserable could be far more profitably spent. Face it, if self-punishment worked, we’d all be perfect now. Devote a few minutes each day talking lovingly to yourself.  We all need love, even you.


Beyond the Impasse

When I feel stuck, I sometimes “forget” that I am not alone. I am not the only person to be at an impasse.

This is important for a few reasons: 1. There is comfort in having company. 2. A person who has been there can be a good example on how to get beyond the impasse. 3. As you leverage the other person’s experience, you can create renewed momentum.

Oh – one more thing – your getting beyond the impasse can encourage and inspire someone else to do the same. So share your story.

Have a great day,

Inspire Courage

It is essential to have (even a little) courage to achieve your goals and dreams.

To accelerate your advancement, start with a small goal, a bit of courage, and sustainable action. Once you make progress, share your story with others.

When you do, you can revitalize your own motivation, commitment, and determination – and inspire courageous action in others.

Have a great day,

The Answer is: Encourage Someone NOW!

Whenever I find myself down, I tend to default to self-absorption and even wallowing. While this can feel better in the moment, it doesn’t really help at all.

What I have come to realize is that if I pause a moment and think about who I can help – doing so brightens my day and gives me hope. This creates a positive spiral which benefits me and those around me.

Have a great day,

Missing the Prize

I am taking a class this week on “Marketing the Startup” for fun – okay, I am a full-fledged geek. I own this.

That said, yesterday the professor shared a story about a VERY successful venture capitalist who was hounded by the CFO of a tech startup looking for funding. The venture capitalist wasn’t interested because he didn’t think there was room for another company in the space. He was wrong and didn’t invest in Facebook in the early days.

What can we learn from his mistake:

No one (no matter how amazing) gets everything right – good news for me.
Keep an open mind when you are presented with things that seem an obvious no

Class is about to start.

More to learn,

Roll With It

Life is a funny thing. Even though I know that there will be twists and turns, when I experience one it can be unsettling. So, I may resist – which clearly makes things worse and drags out there parts I don’t like.

This happened to me on a trip by helicopter. The CEO of the startup I worked for told me to roll with it. I couldn’t and promptly threw up. Not pretty.

I can’t say I’ve completely changed, but I roll with it more. I have better (and less embarrassing) outcomes overall.

Have a great day,