Lighten the Challenge of Change

I will admit it – I really dislike the idea of change and am often happy (and even inspired) once the change is implemented.

So when I notice that am disconcerted by a new or upcoming change, I pause and remind myself of the benefits of changes in the past. When I do, I lighten the load and feel happier and onboard all the sooner – which is good for me and everyone around me.

Warmly,
Anita

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Need a Restart?

It’s a funny thing about goals. They are so exciting at the beginning and both thrilling (and sometimes a bit of a letdown) at the end. Yet, the middle can be grueling, tiresome, and evening boring.

What helps me is a restart – a time to rethink, regroup, and even pivot a bit. What this does is provide a new beginning while staying the course with your goal. You can honor your commitment while increasing your enthusiasm.

Have a great day,
Anita

Encouragement Begins with the Person in Front of You

The world can be a rather discouraging place there days and I am not alone in this feeling. So what can one person do?

What I have learned from my mentor is to encourage the person right in front of you. This is super easy if the person is approachable, receptive, and friendly. The “harder”ones are those individuals who ignore, snicker, or even yell at you. Not fun. Yet don’t give up.

One super rewarding experience I had was with a bus driver who each time I got on the bus, said “hello”, and thanked him. He acted as though I didn’t exist and I will admit – it hurt my feelings. Can’t tell you why, but it did. Yet I didn’t stop greeting and thanking him.

After nearly a year, one day he looked at me see and said, “good to see you.” I couldn’t believe it! In fact, recently I got on the bus and told me he misses seeing me and thought I have move. What a turnaround!

So today, encourage the person in front of you.

Warmly,
Anita

When Struggles Slow You Down

Struggles can really intimidate me when I see them as an impervious, monolithic obstacle. At those times, my curiosity, resourcefulness, and many other of my strengths seem tiny compared with the struggle.

To get going again, I shift my perspective to a growth mindset where I become excited about finding a solution or positive outcome – with the insight that I can and will learn something cool and use it – now and into the future. Then my skills, knowledge, and talents help me create positive momentum to zoom ahead.

Might just work for you, too!

Have a great day,
Anita

Up Your Game in Bits

Most people want to grow, advance, and expand their capacity, opportunities, and accomplishments. So why do so few people actually succeed on their own terms?

I believe that they choose actions, that while exciting, are not sustainable. So if you want to achieve even a big goal, start with a small action you can absolutely complete and over which you have complete control.

No action is too tiny – your primary objective is that your action is doable. With this approach, who knows how far you can go.

Much success,
Anita

Those Pesky Challenges

Challenges are needed for us to grow – and they are not always fun or pleasant. Yet they are essential. This is true even though my go to reaction to a challenge, especially when it appears to be negative, is to hate it.

Then I pause and ask myself two things: 1. What are the “gifts” in this situation with this person? and 2. How can I (and the other person) be victorious? When I pause, I give myself perspective and the opportunity to learn, grow, and win over myself and the situation.

Warmly,
Anita

Gratitude From Growth

As a teenager, I was told that I was ungrateful. At the time, it didn’t feel that way. I didn’t think I needed to express gratitude when people gave me things that demonstrated that they didn’t know who I was, much less even care.

You might chalk this up to teenage angst, but I believe it was something quite a bit deeper. My lack of gratitude came from a general lack of appreciation for myself – and as it said, you can’t give what you don’t have.

Over the years, as I appreciate myself more I am able to be genuinely grateful for the people, organizations, and circumstances in my life. I also attribute this having a mentor who exemplifies gratitude and my own openness to grow. This is not to say that I have a perfect “score” on gratitude. I know it’s time to grow a bit more when my complaining increases and my appreciation declines. For me, I jump in and write a few more cards – or even give the bus driver a wooden token of appreciation.

Thank you for reading this,
Anita

Inside Out Success

Many people I work with look for ways to change the people in their lives, the specific circumstances, and the environment. They wish each of those things would suddenly become more helpful, supportive, and positive.

Yet, I’ve never seen it work that way. Success (and happiness) begins on the inside. When we start with ourselves – changing our own behavior first – this leads to changes external to us. It’s not magic, but a function our ability to see more options – in terms of how we think, perceive, and act.

Have a great day,
Anita

The Platinum Rule

It used to be that you treat others the way you wanted to be treated – this was the Golden Rule. Today I learned another “rule” known as the Platinum Rule. With the Platinum Rule – treat others as they want to be treated. This means that you will need to get to know the other person and build at least the beginnings of a relationship. Could be a big win on both sides.

Warmly,
Anita

The Power of Goals on Sticky Notes

I have a young friend, Yoshi, who is a rockstar. I know that word is overused, but in this case it absolutely applies – and may not even be strong enough. He is a person of growth, integrity, and courage with a strong vow to make the world a much better place, firmly planted in his heart and mind.

He talks a big game with actions that exceed the talk – and as the story goes, he has a wall of sticky notes in his home with his goals. These goals inspire, drive, and I suspect even scare him a little. This is the point – whether on sticky notes, apps, or in your head – choose the big goals that help you become the type of person, like Yoshi, who can move mountains of change and peace.

Way to go, friend!

Have a great day,
Anita