The Matter of Mattering

Some time ago, I moderated a panel with a stellar group of students from the University of Chicago Booth School of Business. As I am known to do, I wrote a thank you note (with a little card inside with a second note) to each student. About a week later, I received an email from a student that went on and on and on about the card I sent to him.

I was very curious as to why he had such a strong reaction. This was from a person who is all about artificial intelligence, machine learning, and virtual reality. One more piece of information about him – he has a great life, home, family, and work.

A few days later, he and I sat down and I asked him about the card. He talked about that it was paper, the message was specific to him, and it was done at all. I wanted to know how it made him feel. He told me that it made him feel like he matters.

What I learned that day is that no matter how much we have in our life, that doesn’t mean we don’t want to know we matter. So let others you care about know they matter to you.

Small action, big potential impact!

Have a great day,
Anita

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Your Greatest Weakness

The place of our greatest weakness is often invisible to us. I believe that we only begin to notice it when things don’t go according to how we hope they would – not landing a job, finding a relationship, or getting funding for our venture.

This weakness emerges where you lack confidence and you “demonstrate” that something is not quite right. This could be big or small. What I know for sure is that others will follow your lead and not where you want to go.

So how does one transform this weakness? By acknowledging it and understanding how to transform it enough to not get in your way – even if it never becomes a strength.

Have a good day,
Anita

Why Change

Change is ever-present, so we need to get on board or be left behind.

I personally find change a bit scary until I actually take a step. So to make it easy on yourself. I suggest that you find something you control and you feel capable, comfortable, and even excited about doing.

This will give you a start and the courage to do more.

Have a great day,
Anita

Just Don’t Do It

There may be times when it seems easy to give up on a person who is just too difficult to deal with. Yet, don’t do it. At that moment, you have an opportunity to grow enough to help the person, and in doing so, create a better life for both of you.

Warmly,
Anita

Speak Up

Many people say that if you don’t ask, you can’t give people the opportunity to help you. So speak up. Graciously let others know what you want and need and be a resource to others – early and often.

Have a great day,

Anita

The Benefits of Being Shy

I know that probably no one who knows me would think I am shy, but in my heart I am. I have training myself to be more outgoing and I did it from a place of low risk and safety. I learned this from one of my aunts.

Many years ago, my Aunt Sylvia, was trying to help me come out of my shell – which was challenging for her. You see, I was the kid, who loved physics. Need I say more.

Aunt Syl shares her own shyness story with me, which was life-changing for me. When she was a young woman, she had a mentor who kept taking her to events where the guest list are names in business and the arts you would likely know. Here was Aunt Syl, too shy to say a word. Yet her mentor gave her some sage advice: use your shyness to your advantage – do your homework, listen, and appreciate each person.

Good guidance regardless of who you are.

Warmly,
Anita

Between Hope and Challenge

I was with a group of friends yesterday and the conversation veered in the direction of the interplay of hope and challenge. While hope is a great motivator and starting point, it’s important to keep in mind that challenges will come – if for no other reason than to help you grow.

The questions become – how prepared are you for the obstacles and do you shrink away from them or are excited and elevated by them?

So, how can you make challenges your friend and not a fiend?

Have a great day,
Anita

The Allure of Complaining

It is so easy to complain and really easy to get others to jump on board and create a “complaint circle”. I think we’ve each been there at one time or another (Me, too unfortunately!). I have found that it’s possible to build connections around complaining (albeit, negative ones) and yet the impact leads to nothing good.

So instead of complaining, take action on the things you want to change. This approach can elevate your credibility, opportunities, and happiness.

Warmly,
Anita

You Are the Game Changer

Think about this – you could be the game changer in your life, another person’s life, and even an organization. It really only takes one person and one action to get the ball rolling.

Several years ago, a young girl hated the nets used to fish tuna and the negative consequences to other life in the ocean. She stood up and used her voice – as scary and that must of been for her. Despite the fact that she was one person, without power and influence, she got the companies producing the tuna, to force those catching the tuna to change the nets. This created a positive rippling impact.

So what about you?

Warmly,
Anita

Where All Change Begin

It would make life so much “easier” if only the other person would change. How convenient that would be! That said, the world doesn’t work that way and believing it so creates tremendous frustration, disappointment, and even resentment (which makes what is not great even worse).

Instead, look within and see where you can make even a tiny change. As you do, you will feel better about your life and it might just see a positive ripple in your environment.

Experiment and let us know what happens.

Warmly,
Anita