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Friends Who Care

Early last month I wrote that I was struggling, largely with my own negativity. For me, this can be a painful “battle”.

After sharing this, something wonderful happened. I received calls, texts, and email checking in on me. Some people reached out multiple days in a row. Each message meant the world to me.

One, in particular, really stood out. When I picked up the phone and mentioned that it was great to hear from you. Her response was this, “I read that you were feeling challenged and I want you to know I care and am here if you need anything at all!”

That’s what real friends do.

WOW. Thank you, KG.

Warmly,
Anita

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The Lift From a Challenge

 

I am the first to admit it: I don’t like, welcome, or easily embrace challenging obstacles. In fact, if I could banish them from my life forever, I’d do it.

Clearly that’s not possible or even desirable. Without challenges you can’t grow, create beyond today’s perceived limitations, or make important, positive, and lasting contributions to yourself, your family, and even broader society.

While I’m not suggesting that you have to change the world, I do believe that those seemingly annoying and scary challenges can be the impetus for improving your life. When we do, you serve to give others courage, hope, and confidence.

Have a great day,
Anita

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I Get My Best Ideas . . .

To be perfectly honest, I get ideas in a lot of places – from talking to others to meditating. Yet my top two are: listening when others are presenting and riding the bus. While on the surface,\ these look very different, if you dig a bit deeper they have more than a little in common:

  • First, I’m quiet and taking in what’s all around me. In those moments, one part of my brain is still and the creative side had room to be “speak up”. The ideas come fast and in considerable quantity. While they’re not all brilliant, I usually get the start of something on which to build a pretty cool concept.
  • Second, I automatically relax, as no one is expecting me to do anything – just be.
  • Finally (for now), the judging side of my brain takes a short vacation.

In the end, it’s a close finish. Yet when it comes down to it, I really like the bus for ideation. As is said, the wheels on the bus (and in my brain) go round and round, yielding some of my best ideas. It works for me and maybe it will work for you.

Experiment in low risk ways.

Have a great day,
Anita

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The Benefit of Being a Little Nervous

This week I had two activities in one day that both required me to give my full attention, be completely engaged, and do a really good job.

One was a global webinar. While I love the topic of social impact, more than 100 questions can in and we had twenty minutes of Q&A. I wanted to be sure that the people who submitted questions felt heard without the program going on for hours. A clear dilemma

The second was an interview for CareerCast, a podcast I do at Chicago Booth. The guest was a super cool serial entrepreneur who was on his seventh successful venture. No pressure there…hahaha.

So I was a little nervous times two.

What this made me do was focus, read everything cover to cover, and care. This was my benefit.

The outcome was two really wonderful activities that seemed to hit the mark!

Oh yeah, it was fun, too!

Enjoy your day,
Anita

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Don’t Skip the Bonus

 

I work with MBA students and alumni who are bright, determined, and clearly talented. Yet many of them make a costly mistake when they reach out to others seeking information, support, and even opportunities.

Don’t get me wrong – outreach is good. What is not so great is that these students and alumni “forget” to thank and acknowledge those with whom they spend time. Or, these individuals don’t believe they gained enough to express appreciation. Either way, they often forfeit the potential “bonus” of greater access to a whole bunch of career and life building opportunities that those who express appreciation gain, time and again.

Have a great day and get the “bonus”,
Anita

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Kindness and More in Curry

I had a meeting this week with an incredible human being. He is a person of integrity, creativity, and a generosity of spirit. When I saw him, what was so obvious is that he is also an individual who looks to himself to affect change, instead of believing someone else needs to become different for him to be happy and successful.

On top of all of this, my friend kind, thoughtful, and appreciative. He brought me some really delicious Thai curry chicken – that he cooked himself that includes so many things I enjoy. Yum and thank you!

Wait! Wait! There’s one more thing: my friend is a tech entrepreneur who is building a tool to bring people together to create positive value. What could be better than that?

Have a great day,
Anita

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Success = Information Plus a “Secret” Sauce

Okay, there is really nothing secret about what’s missing in the “formula” for success and happiness.

If there was a secret, you wouldn’t have innumerable new books coming out each year – promising everything if you only follow their methodology without deviating a bit.

I have never been able to make those approaches work no matter how much I work at it. I’m not perfect and I miss, drop out, or refuse to do each action exactly how they are “prescribed”. Even if you or I did complete the action plan perfectly, it likely won’t give us the outcome we want.

Here’s why: no matter how much excellent information you receive, if you don’t start the solution internally – with an inner transformation – your goal or dream will be inaccessible and ultimately impossible. Yet if you see what you need to challenge within yourself, you will expand your capacity. Then those impossible goals become within reach information, guidance, and encouragement.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

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Don’t be Fooled by an Obstacle

Obstacles, even the tiny ones, can feel formidable to me. Maybe I’m weak. I think it’s really that I don’t see them for what they are – distractions, fear, and brakes to my success and happiness. 

Recently, I decided I wanted to get together with friends who were having a discussion about capable people – how to be one and how to raise capable people. I really wanted to attend and participate. Then when I looked at the calendar, I realized that the night of the discussion was also my late night at work. No problem – I would leave after my last appointment for the day and just a little before we closed and be available by phone. This is something done on the team all the time. Then, one of my colleagues was home (recovering from something going around). So, I said I would cover the desk for the 30 minutes before we closed. 

Okay, so clearly I wasn’t leaving on time, would be late for the discussion meeting, and it was pouring. If I was looking solid “reasons” to head straight home, all I had to do was glance out of my window in my office.

“Whoa,” I thought. “This is multiple layers of obstacles – to get me not to go.” So I went. Yes, I was late (which I hate to be) and yes – it was raining. That said, I am so glad that I went. The discussion was very encouraging. I was happy to see the other nine people who were there and they were happy to see me.

So, when things pop up to give you an “out” from something want and/or have committed to doing, pause. Then decide. You could have a wonderful experience as I did.

Thank you,
Anita

P. S. Thank you ML and HL for generously giving me a ride home – warm, safe, and dry!

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A Double Blessing Instead of a Mixed One

I’m feeling more than a bit stretched. This is NOT a complaint, just self observation.

2020 has so far been exciting, exhilarating, and causing me to increase my capacity. There are two benefits here: one, I am able to learn, grow, and transform rapidly. The other is that I must do these things or I’ll miss some really cool people and opportunities.

So when I’m feeling STRETCHED, I remind myself that it’s not a mixed blessing, but a DOUBLE one!

Have a great day,
Anita

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What You Do Today Counts

It’s a funny thing that I experience. I do and maybe you do, too. In the moment I take action, sometimes I wonder if it matters. It’s just one seemingly small act. I wonder in anyone one will notice and if it will make any kind of a difference.

Yet what I’ve come to realize is that every action is felt by someone – either because they directly benefit from my action, or they see someone else gaining value. There was a recent study that showed that individuals who observe an act of gratitude or kindness feel the good stuff and are likely to be encouraged to behave positively.

So, I’ve come to the conclusion that what you, I, and others do today can be important. So act well early and often.

Make a contribution today,
Anita