Obstacles, even the tiny ones, can feel formidable to me. Maybe I’m weak. I think it’s really that I don’t see them for what they are – distractions, fear, and brakes to my success and happiness.
Recently, I decided I wanted to get together with friends who were having a discussion about capable people – how to be one and how to raise capable people. I really wanted to attend and participate. Then when I looked at the calendar, I realized that the night of the discussion was also my late night at work. No problem – I would leave after my last appointment for the day and just a little before we closed and be available by phone. This is something done on the team all the time. Then, one of my colleagues was home (recovering from something going around). So, I said I would cover the desk for the 30 minutes before we closed.
Okay, so clearly I wasn’t leaving on time, would be late for the discussion meeting, and it was pouring. If I was looking solid “reasons” to head straight home, all I had to do was glance out of my window in my office.
“Whoa,” I thought. “This is multiple layers of obstacles – to get me not to go.” So I went. Yes, I was late (which I hate to be) and yes – it was raining. That said, I am so glad that I went. The discussion was very encouraging. I was happy to see the other nine people who were there and they were happy to see me.
So, when things pop up to give you an “out” from something want and/or have committed to doing, pause. Then decide. You could have a wonderful experience as I did.
P. S. Thank you ML and HL for generously giving me a ride home – warm, safe, and dry!