Find the Love or Lose

My friend, Melissa, believes that if you want to have a happier and more successful like, you MUST find the love. At first, I wasn’t sure what she actually meant or how you could possibly love everyone. Seemed a bit idealistic to me.

So here’s what I learned and apply in my life:

  • The reality of life is that there are a ton of people who aren’t very nice and don’t even care about us.
  • That said, if we treat them as they are treating us – NOTHING will change.
  • So, each of us needs to become excellent detectives and find even one tiny thing that is valuable about the other person.
  • That kernel of good stuff is the foundation of finding other positive things in the other person.
  • Best of all, once we find this valuable stuff – the other person can sense it and their attitude toward us can absolutely change for the better.

Super cool, huh?

Enjoy the day,
Anita

If You’re Stalled, Just Do This.

I know that my biggest roadblock is my fear of getting it wrong. What a set up?!? There is no way to get it right all of the time.

So what are people like you and me to do? Ahhh. The good news, there is an answer and it’s NOT a secret. Act. It doesn’t matter how small the step, just that do it as long as it moves you in the direction of your goal.

One more thing – if you aren’t taking action even with that tiny step – it’s likely still too big. Make it smaller – without judgment. Your assignment – if you choose to accept it – is to create momentum. When you do, you will feel good, be motivated to take more steps, and your goal will get closer and closer and closer. Ta-Dah!

Have a great day,
Anita

The Cure for the Appreciation Deficit

We live in a world where the biggest deficit isn’t what you might think. It’s not related to money, but appreciation. Most people feel undervalued – really unappreciated. This is actually an epidemic – and a wonderful opportunity if you up your authentic thank yous. Let others know how much you gained from them. Be specific and concrete. If each of us does this, even a little bit, we can shrink the appreciation deficit overnight.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

Select for Success

I know I am afraid to make a decision when I search and search and search for the “right” answer. This is the point when my creativity kicks in (not in the most productive way) and I come up with possibility after possibility – which actually serves to reduce my certainty about any specific idea.

What I have come to realize is that sometimes I just need to select something – knowing that no answer is perfect. Yet a good idea or path that is acted on is WAY better than more hours, months, or years of brainstorming with no decision in sight.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

The Half-Step Blueprint

I have a friend who does just about anything she puts her mind to do. While she is amazing, she is just like you and me. There are two “secrets” to her enduring success. The first is that she looks for a  gap and decides how she could add value by filling the gap. The second (which I absolutely love), is she takes half-steps.

Her half-step blueprint makes it easy for her to take action because she doesn’t freak herself out with giant leaps and her half-steps reduce the risk to others who let her do things that others would even be so bold to ask for.

So half-step it. Start now.

Warmly,
Anita

What Does Your Work Say About You?

Whether you work inside the home, outside the home, or both, what you do is a reflection of who you are at your core.

So what kind of statement does your work say about you? Commitment? Care? Creativity?

You will want to know so you can keep doing what you are doing the way you are doing it – or make changes – big or small.

Have a great day,
Anita

Speak Up A Little, Succeed A Lot More

I was chatting with someone today is clearly competent, kind, and capable. Yet, often, people never get to see that in him. Instead, they see a quiet person without a ton of engagement. This is a loss for my new friend and many who would like to get to know him.

The good news is that he is open to stretching himself. Yay! Here is one thing that he is going to do that might work for you as well. Instead of agonizing about how to become a brilliant conversationalist, he has decided to ask thoughtful questions and then give the other person his rapt attention. It is a wonderful “secret” to greater success.

Enjoy your day,
Anita