See the Value

It a “funny” thing – when you see the positive value in others, your value, credibility, and opportunities increase. It’s really about reputation. Are you known as a person who is demanding, has a sense of entitlement, and never satisfied? Or, are you the individual seen as generous, appreciative, and supportive?

The first approach will have people staying away from you and be unwilling to help you. The second approach creates a foundation of short and long term relationships that can benefit you and others.

Have a great day,
Anita

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Reasonable Actions Create Greater Success

A lot of people believe that big actions yield big results – and this is true IF you are able to take so large steps.

Yet, if you can’t, won’t, and/or aren’t making progress – reasonable actions are SO much better. You score the win, feel accomplished, and increase your courage, confidence, and commitment. What’s more, you could get to your goal even faster than you even expect.

While reasonable it’s flashy, it is effective.

Thanks for the tip, Mary!

Enjoy your day,
Anita

The Power of Keeping Commitments

It’s so interesting about what can move your life ahead. One of the powerful things is also the simplest (although not easy). It is keeping your commitments.

This means doing what you say you are going to do, when you say you will do it. It requires many things, but two big ones come to mind:

  • Say “yes” to things you will actually do and “no” to things you might want to or feel pressured to do and will NEVER do.
  • Take doable and progressive action to keep your promise – and if something looks like it will prevent you from keeping your commitment, let the other person know as soon as you can.

When you keep your commitments, you establish greater consistency, credibility, and trust – which do a whole host of positive things for you, your relationships, and life as a whole.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

What If You Can’t Decide?

Deciding can be a difficult thing to do, especially when there is no clear choice or it’s scary or you are being pressured by someone you know to select one outcome.

The list of reasons not to decide can go on and on and be really intimidating.

Yet making one massive decision is not required. You can break down your decision into manageable babysteps and act on them one, two, or three at a time. When you take this approach choosing become more fun than chore.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

Turning Stagnation into Greater Success

It’s a funny thing about stagnation. It doesn’t wave its hands, jump up and down, and let you know what’s happening. Lack of progress just creeps up on you in tiny and then bigger ways. It can show up as a lack of energy, lower commitment to whatever you are doing, and even complaining.

So what is a person to do? There are a few ideas to get you started:

  • Zero in on something that increases your energy when you do it. Align it to how and where you spend you time.
  • Decide if your goals are still meaningful to you. Do you still want to achieve them?
  • If you notice yourself complaining about others (or even yourself), STOP!. Then find one thing you value about yourself, the other person, and/or your current circumstances and act on it.

This can reverse a downward trend and help you create positive momentum.

Have a good day,
Anita

How Valuable Are You?

If someone asked you the question,”How valuable are you?” – what would you say? Would you list off your degrees, jobs, and accomplishments?

While these have their place, there is something more. Your worth is a combination of things you can easily measure (like your compensation) AND your attitude and behavior. In today’s world, opportunities are given to those who display both competence and warmth. Competence will open a door and warmth make others want you to stay.

How do you show competence and warmth in your life?

Have a wonderful weekend,
Anita

How to Remain Undefeated

It’s always exciting when our favorite team is undefeated. Yet, to me, the more important consideration is how you, me, and each person on earth can remain undefeated in this lifetime?

Some people believe that never having a defeat is impossible. I would disagree. Pause and remember what “undefeated” actually means. It is not that you never have a setback, obstacle, or even a failure. It really means not quitting, giving up, or giving in to doubt, fear, or discouragement.

Defeat begins in your mind and so does winning. You get to choose.

Have a great day,
Anita