The Success of Change

You may be thinking that I am going to talk about the success of a change management project. Well no, at least not the big corporate transformational programs you might have experienced.

This change project is individual and internal. It starts with your seeing what you want to have different and taking babysteps to make it happen. Even with incremental changes, there is often resistance and the only way to transform the situation is by changing your heart. As squishy as this may seem, it is incredibly practical to look for the locus of change inside of yourself. Once you do, the world around can respond affirmatively.

Have a great day,
Anita

Focus on the Right Things to Win

Earlier in my career, I hit a rough patch and I was determined to fix it immediately. My mentor gave me some sage. He suggested that instead of putting all of my attention on the setback, I would be better off taking a little bit of time to understand what went wrong and then refocusing the majority of my attention on what I wanted to create for my future. Doing this gave me a goal and the courage and motivation to go after it and win.

Something to think about.

Warmly,
Anita

The Power of Upside Down Gratitude

I find it super easy to thank individuals for good stuff like – happy times, compliments, and wonderful people. Who wouldn’t, right?

Yet, there is another untapped area of good things. This is the power of upside down gratitude. Upside down gratitude is the value you can find in the not-so-positive and embrace it as crucial to your success and happiness. This requires courage, commitment, and a desire to take the lessons and leverage this for your greater good and the best for others.

Warmly,
Anita

Be a Comeback Genius

I will say upfront my extracurricular activities tend to go more toward books that sports. In fact, my alma mater, the University of Chicago, didn’t even have a football team that was much more than a “club” team.

So for those who know me, you might be surprised that I watched the Super Bowl. Well, I watched and I am VERY glad I did.

What a comeback story – one from which we can learn a lot:

  • Leadership under pressure. How would you react if you were down by more than three touchdowns with only have the game left? Many would give up, but not Brady. He kept going, putting everything on the line, and getting the rest of the team to believe a win was possible.
  • Not letting time be the deciding factor. The Patriots kept going, knowing that there had never been an overtime in a Super Bowl. Well, now there has been.
  • Finding a bit more determination, tenacity, and guts. When it looks like the tides had turned against Brady and the team, they stayed in the game – clearly with their heads and hearts.

There are many other things you can learn about being a comeback genius from Super Bowl LI. Just don’t find them, put them into action in your own life.

Have a great day,
Anita

Find Your Fans for Success

I have a friend who chases down people who don’t want to engage with him and tries to convince them to change their minds. While I understand it’s important to address negative feedback, I believe putting too much time, resources, and energy can lead to frustration, disappointment, and less than stellar outcomes.

So what is an alternative to my friend’s approach?

After you self-reflect on any critical feedback and come up with a plan to address this, I suggest that you devote a solid chunk of your time and energy to expanding the relationships with people you value and who value you.

Find and cultivate your fans and you likely will increase your success and happiness.

Have a good,
Anita

Transform Your Weakest Link

I welcome compassionate, critical feedback that is constructive. That said, I know that I’m not alone with this – I don’t like to be judged.

While this is all well and good, my dislike of being judged could become my limitation / my weakest link. Think of the implications for both of us – of the ginormous list of things never attempted and the loss of the good things you and I can do for the world.

I am working on finding the value in the judgment and see what I learn and make my life even better. Oh yes, and I notice when I judge others (and stop doing it!)

Have a good day,
Anita

Success Building

Your success and happiness (for that matter) is a result of having others want to help you – and that they care enough to follow through on your behalf.

For someone to invest in you like that, you will need to develop trust, consistency, and reliability. Do these three things and be very, very appreciative and you pave the path for what you want in life.

Of course, help others as part of the way you live.

Enjoy your day,
Anita