Success = A Unified Purpose

I was working with someone yesterday who is not getting the traction that he wants – and he is a talented, competent, and engaging person. As we talked, it became clear to me that he doesn’t have a solid direction. As a result, he sets a new goals nearly every week and his progress is fleeting at best.

In the end, he agreed to take a step back and explore the thread, theme, and why of his ambition. With this understanding, we are both confident he will accelerate his growth, advancement, and success.

So if you aren’t making the progress you would really like, what action can you take today to begin to build your unifying purpose?

Warmly,
Anita

Banishing the Doubt Demon

Doubt is sneaky, insidious, and relentless. Once it takes hold, doubt can derail your goals, dreams, and plans. It can cause you to question yourself – again and again.

Yet there is hope. Your strengths and memories of when you won over challenges are mightier than doubt. So keep track of each win – big and small – and if doubt dares to try to creep in, pull out your “victories list”, read it out loud, and send doubt packing!

Have a great day,
Anita

Judging Success

It’s a funny thing about another person’s success when you look at it at a specific point in time. You could easily gain a distorted view. Wherever you enter the picture, you could miss where the person started, the challenges he faced, and the courage he used to transform them.

In other words, you might judge instead of celebrating. The former could destroy a relationship before it starts and latter could be the beginning of a life-long friendship.

Have a great day,
Anita

Do You Prefer Success or Defeat?

On the surface, this could seem like a silly question. Who wouldn’t prefer success? Yet there are people (myself included at times) who create an environment that doesn’t support victories in one or more areas of life. This can include:

  • Not setting concrete goals or having actions accessible, doable, and repeatable – given the reality of your life.
  • Having the people closest to us bringing out your weakness rather than your strengths.

So, first decide if you want to succeed and if you do, dig down to know why.

From there, set supportive goals, create actions under your control, and develop relationships that benefit you and the other person.

Have a great day,
Anita

The Power of Cards

Handwritten notes are so old school, retro, and last century. So why do them? Simply: the impact can be extraordinary!

While the people to whom I write really value the tangible form of my thank you, acknowledgement, and/or encouragement, the power comes from how it positively changes two lives – theirs and mine.

So go a little old school and write a note. Make it sincere, specific, and fun. Don’t expect a response, but if you receive one jump up and down with joy.

Have a great day,
Anita

The Encouragement Multiplier

I believe that each of us needs encouragement and I am at the front of the line. For me, I find it in books, podcasts, and, most importantly, people. Yet I learned several years ago that (for me) encouragement is most powerful if I give it first – sincerely, specifically, and often. When I do, I am instantly encouraged. What a wonderful virtuous circle!

Enjoy your day,
Anita

The Push Away Boomerang

It’s very “funny” about people, things, and circumstances we push away. The more we disregard or even reject someone or something, the more it shows up in our lives.

Instead of pushing something you don’t want, do this. First, embrace it (okay, I suspect, not what you hoped for). I am not saying love whatever it is, just pause and acknowledge the person or circumstance. Second, find the gift or learning and make the most of it.

When you do these things, you will accelerate through the less than pleasant time and get a better and better understanding of what you want. Then, focus on THAT – the good stuff.

Have a great day,
Anita