The Perspective Paradox

I work with a lot of people over the course of a year. It’s very interesting to see how two people in very similar circumstances can have very different networks, opportunities, and outcomes.

So what IS the difference? I have found that it has a lot to do with attitude, perspective, and most importantly, a sense of gratitude. Appreciation can positively change EVERYTHING for the better.

Warmly,
Anita

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Authenticity and Success

I watched a bunch of movies this past weekend and one really stuck with me. It was about a would-be writer who boldly stepped forward to attend a writers’ conference where her book would receive critical feedback. The prospect of this terrified her.

Her “worst” fears were realized when she received the same negative feedback from an accomplished author and two publishing executives. They told her that her writing wasn’t even up to the level to work with an editor. She had a long way to even be considered viable.

She was crushed. Yet, the source of her book being rejected wasn’t a lack of talent, skill, or capabilities – it was a lack of authenticity. Even though her words were well-written, they didn’t connect with anyone’s heart. So she had to dig deep and share what scared her the most and that was her authentic self. While there is tremendous risk in doing that, there are also amazing rewards.

So, if you have a big goal or dream, authenticity will accelerate your growth and success!

Warmly,
Anita

The Power of the Prize

I find it fascinating how many people set really big goals and “forget” the focus, determination, and work needed to win the prize. Some experts will even sell you the idea that anyone can do achieve the people with minimal effort.

Nothing is achieved without committed, consistent, and determined practice – and this is actually a good thing. “WHAT?” you may wonder. “Isn’t it good to get awesome stuff now without tons of action?”

I would say “No!” You, me, and the rest of the world needs trials, efforts, and resets to help us grow, advance, and be prepared for the successes that follow. Without the challenges, pivots, and enhanced courage, commitment, and confidence, each of us will likely end up bored, disenchanted, and disengaged.

I want you to be happy, contributing, and exciting about making a positive difference in your life and those around you. That’s the Power of the Prize. Go for it!

Enjoy your day,
Anita

Your Smallest Actions Can Make a Difference

We live in a world that can feel divisive and not kindness friendly, Consequently, it’s very easy to feel discouraged and believe the problems are completely beyond our control.

Yet, you can influence your immediate environment with a smile, encouraging word, or action of generosity. In doing so, you become part of a bigger solution – which can positively ripple out beyond what you can imagine.

Keep taking those babysteps. Each one counts!!

Enjoy your day,
Anita

What’s in Your Mirror?

Mirrors have many purposes – from straightening your hair to making sure your jacket is buttoned correctly.

Yet mirrors can have much more profound information for you.

Your family, friends, colleagues, and more are a great mirror. Often the things that may annoy you about another person is often the very thing that you need to change. Even more, making that change will open up greater opportunities for your success and happiness!

Enjoy your day,
Anita

When Being Generous Isn’t Convenient

When I looked up generous in an online dictionary – kind and magnanimous were key aspects of the definition. Even though these are two things I aspire to be, it’s not always easy or convenient. What if the other person isn’t kind and magnanimous toward me (or people I care about)? What is the other person is down right rude or nasty?

While it’s important to use good judgement in all situations, being generous is a way of being – not a gift given to only those few who treat you “perfectly”. So in each situation you face, see how you can lead with a generous heart. By the way, I would start with sharing that generosity with yourself.

Have a great day,
Anita

Get Reinvigorated

I was chatting with a group of friends who seemed to be in a bit of a malaise – which is stalling out their progress. The challenge is that a lack progress can lead to frustration, resentment, and complaining. All of the those things deplete your energy and lead to more of negative emotions – a vicious cycle. Ugh!

So what is a person to do?

Here is an answer that may surprise you: reach out and help another person with his or her goals. The very act of making a contribution will boost all of those feel good chemicals in your brain, increase your confidence, and expand your sense of well-being. In the process you will be reinvigorated. If you also reconnect to your sense of purpose, you will be unstoppable.

Have a great day,
Anita

Transform This Cause of Failure

Many people won’t admit to failing. Those who do, blame it on a lack of resources – time, money, opportunities, contacts, and more. Yet not enough or this or that is almost never the source of failure. Instead, it is a lack or unwillingness to commit to a goal and use your vision, determination, and tenacity to bring out your unlimited potential to mobilize yourself and others.

If knowing this could really be the case, how will you approach the next goal you pursue?

Warmly,
Anita

Do You Advocate for Yourself?

I was thinking about this recently – what does it mean to advocate for yourself in your career?

While there are many things, two keep circling back in my brain. The first is, it is essential to have a concrete and specific goal that is understandable to you and others. The second is to have at least one action you can take consistently (with a specific amount of time you can commit to it) that is completely under your control.

Once you have these two things you are able to guide others on how to advocate for you.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

What’s Right in Front of You

I was with a group of friends recently. There was a lot of complaining about the state of the world, how big the problems are, and the impossible nature change. As I was about to get sucked into this vortex of negativity, I made myself pause and say a few things. “Guys,” I said. “Could we go down a different track? My mentor says this again and again, ‘Who is right in front of you? Help that person!’ This might not seem like a big deal, it is. Start with one and go from there.”

While there might have been some eye rolls, I felt better – and it was a reminder to me that when I feel I can’t make a difference, it’s just not true. See the person in front of you and smile and wave, say thank you, or go out for coffee and listen more than you speak.

Enjoy the day,
Anita