Are you so busy talking that you sometimes miss some of the really good stuff? As an experiment, talk 50% less than you normally do. Then notice what happens. You might just pick up some valuable knowledge, insights, and opportunities. There’s a side benefit. When you say less, others may listen more when you do speak up.
Have a wonderful day,
Some people believe that if they don’t “discover” the solution all on their own, they are diminished and have failed. Not only is this attitude self-defeating, it’s actually arrogant. By not allowing others to help you, you cheat them of the good feelings they would receive from making a contribution.
So who would enjoy helping you today? Make the most of their assistance. And of course, show your appreciation with a kind word, hug, or even thank you gift. Choose whatever is appropriate for the situation and the relationship.
Have a great day,
I was working with someone yesterday and as I listened to him, it is clear that he is someone just about anyone would want to hire, work with, and help succeed. So why is this man valued, respected, and supported by the people on his team, his peers, and senior leadership?
For me, the answer is pretty obvious. This person:
Has high integrity;
Treats people with a deep sense of appreciation; and
Exceeds expectations with his performance, resourcefulness, and consistency.
What a powerful person – and with a quite presence that commands attention!
Way to go.
I work with a lot of people over the course of a year. It’s very interesting to see how two people in very similar circumstances can have very different networks, opportunities, and outcomes.
So what IS the difference? I have found that it has a lot to do with attitude, perspective, and most importantly, a sense of gratitude. Appreciation can positively change EVERYTHING for the better.
We live in a world that can feel divisive and not kindness friendly, Consequently, it’s very easy to feel discouraged and believe the problems are completely beyond our control.
Yet, you can influence your immediate environment with a smile, encouraging word, or action of generosity. In doing so, you become part of a bigger solution – which can positively ripple out beyond what you can imagine.
Keep taking those babysteps. Each one counts!!
Enjoy your day,
When I looked up generous in an online dictionary – kind and magnanimous were key aspects of the definition. Even though these are two things I aspire to be, it’s not always easy or convenient. What if the other person isn’t kind and magnanimous toward me (or people I care about)? What is the other person is down right rude or nasty?
While it’s important to use good judgement in all situations, being generous is a way of being – not a gift given to only those few who treat you “perfectly”. So in each situation you face, see how you can lead with a generous heart. By the way, I would start with sharing that generosity with yourself.
Have a great day,
I have been reading a book for a work assignment and the author talked about how attitudes, emotions, and feelings are contagious. While this makes perfect sense, I never really thought about it in quite that way.
After a bit of reflection, I remembered two things:
The people closest to you shape your life. So, choose carefully and know that you may have to remove individuals from your life if their influence is taking you in a direction that is unhealthy or worse.
You shape other people’s lives. You words can encourage, inspire, and motivate or crush the other person. So be kind, compassionate, and sometimes strict. You owe it to yourself and the other person.
Have a great day,
It’s a funny thing about stagnation. It doesn’t wave its hands, jump up and down, and let you know what’s happening. Lack of progress just creeps up on you in tiny and then bigger ways. It can show up as a lack of energy, lower commitment to whatever you are doing, and even complaining.
So what is a person to do? There are a few ideas to get you started:
- Zero in on something that increases your energy when you do it. Align it to how and where you spend you time.
- Decide if your goals are still meaningful to you. Do you still want to achieve them?
- If you notice yourself complaining about others (or even yourself), STOP!. Then find one thing you value about yourself, the other person, and/or your current circumstances and act on it.
This can reverse a downward trend and help you create positive momentum.
Have a good day,
I was working with someone yesterday who is not getting the traction that he wants – and he is a talented, competent, and engaging person. As we talked, it became clear to me that he doesn’t have a solid direction. As a result, he sets a new goals nearly every week and his progress is fleeting at best.
In the end, he agreed to take a step back and explore the thread, theme, and why of his ambition. With this understanding, we are both confident he will accelerate his growth, advancement, and success.
So if you aren’t making the progress you would really like, what action can you take today to begin to build your unifying purpose?
Complaints are a funny thing – they can feel really great in the moment and yet can actually derail your best efforts to achieve your goals and dreams.
Here’s how it usually goes. You start with a complaint – even a minor one. It things aren’t resolved, the complaint can grow and become a bit of resentment. If the resentment isn’t resolved, it can morph into a full-fledged grudge.
Grudges (even the ones you feel totally justified having) are like roadblocks. They stop you in your tracks and prevent you from becoming successful and happy.
Have a great day,