Success = A Unified Purpose

I was working with someone yesterday who is not getting the traction that he wants – and he is a talented, competent, and engaging person. As we talked, it became clear to me that he doesn’t have a solid direction. As a result, he sets a new goals nearly every week and his progress is fleeting at best.

In the end, he agreed to take a step back and explore the thread, theme, and why of his ambition. With this understanding, we are both confident he will accelerate his growth, advancement, and success.

So if you aren’t making the progress you would really like, what action can you take today to begin to build your unifying purpose?

Warmly,
Anita

The Success Destroyer

Complaints are a funny thing – they can feel really great in the moment and yet can actually derail your best efforts to achieve your goals and dreams.

Here’s how it usually goes. You start with a complaint – even a minor one. It things aren’t resolved, the complaint can grow and become a bit of resentment. If the resentment isn’t resolved, it can morph into a full-fledged grudge.

Grudges (even the ones you feel totally justified having) are like roadblocks. They stop you in your tracks and prevent you from becoming successful and happy.

Have a great day,
Anita

Divisiveness Starts From Within

I hear again and again: that the world is divisive. Some people believe that this serious discord is caused by our institutions and if only they would change, the world would be better. At some level, those individuals are right – and it’s far from the whole story.

Organizations are made up of people, so what if each of us looks at any “disunity” inside our own heart? I have seen when the change emanates from within, the environment changes for the better.

Do it as an experiment.

Warmly,
Anita

“Get To” Success

I was walking around the other day thinking to myself – “I have to do this and I have to do that”. Ugh!. I was exhausted just thinking about all that needed to accomplish that day.

Then, I remembered something my friend, Vicki, told me years ago. “It’s not a have to do, but a get to do.” When I shifted my perspective, I perked up, dove in, and completed what I hoped for and more. While this approach isn’t magic, it may my day so much better. Perhaps it could do the same for yours.

Have a great day,
Anita

Is It Worth It?

Sometimes we put effort into building solid relationships and nothing seems to change. At those times, it’s easy to blame others and even question whether what you are doing is worth it.

Of course, honor how you are feeling and then move on. Take a look at yourself and where do you have the opportunity to improve how you approach other with respect, appreciation, and compassion.

In the end, the vast majority of the time – it IS worth it.

Warmly,
Anita

Don’t Ruin Your Day

Getting to work yesterday was an “adventure”. While we have had a mild winter (so glad), yesterday was a series of mini blizzards. Whiteout conditions. My trip took nearly 2 hours versus the usually 35-40 minutes. We were bumper to bumper almost the entire trip.

On top of this, I had a few technical issue with my laptop.

As I started to get frustrated with by my discombobulated day. I paused and refused to let myself ruin my day. So I made a list of the good stuff:

  • A wonderfully supportive team at work
  • Excellent CTA drivers
  • I finally got to wear my heavy duty snow boots
  • And many more things too numerous to write in this short post

Needless to say, I ended up having a really good day and shifting my perspective was key in making that possible.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

Make the Most Out of Your Golden Opportunities

I was working with two people recently who have very similar backgrounds and experience, yet very different results. The other interesting factor is that they have access to many of the same people.

So what is the difference? The one who does well attributes it to luck and the person who had less than stellar results believes that most people are selfish and lack generosity. I would suggest that they neither is actually accurate.

While luck and selfish people may come into play, I see two other factors that have an even stronger impact. They are preparation and (most important) total focus on the other person. When we want someone to help us, that individual needs to be able to trust us and feel valued. If you start there, your results and “luck” will grow.

Have a good day,
Anita