Honor Your Shortcomings

I know that many people believe that all of our focus should be on expanding our strengths. The exception may be to make sure that our weaknesses don’t derail us.

I would like to suggest a different approach. What if you actually honor your shortcomings  and show them respect? As some will say – whatever you resist persists. So instead of negating the negatives, acknowledge them first and then on to beef up your strengths.

Have a good day,
Anita

Don’t Ruin Your Day

Getting to work yesterday was an “adventure”. While we have had a mild winter (so glad), yesterday was a series of mini blizzards. Whiteout conditions. My trip took nearly 2 hours versus the usually 35-40 minutes. We were bumper to bumper almost the entire trip.

On top of this, I had a few technical issue with my laptop.

As I started to get frustrated with by my discombobulated day. I paused and refused to let myself ruin my day. So I made a list of the good stuff:

  • A wonderfully supportive team at work
  • Excellent CTA drivers
  • I finally got to wear my heavy duty snow boots
  • And many more things too numerous to write in this short post

Needless to say, I ended up having a really good day and shifting my perspective was key in making that possible.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

Are You High Value?

What does it mean to be high value?

Here is one example that might be helpful: I was talking to someone who appears to have opportunities just fall in her lap – and I wanted to know how she does it.

What became really obvious very quickly is that she did the opposite of what many people do. Instead of  jumping in to be the center of attention, my friend spends most of her time finding the value in others and authentically praising them.

What a concept!

Have a great day,
Anita

Tell Your Power Story

What story do you tell about yourself, your career, and life? It is either one of advancement, victory, and growth or one that ends in loss, discouragement, and defeat. Two stories, yet often one set of circumstances. How others perceive your story depends on what you focus and whether you are the victor or victim.

Have a good day,
Anita

Clear Out Your Mental Gunk

Recently, I was struggling to make time to complete a personal project that is important to me. When I shared this dilemma with a close friend, she told me I needed to do a bit of gunk cleaning. Now she didn’t mean cleaning out my junk drawer (which also isn’t a bad idea), my friend was referring to the mental gunk (i.e. negativity) that was sucking my energy and diverting time that could be used for my project.

Just like most people, clearing gunk is a work in progress. My babystep is noticing when gunk surfaces and I cleaning it out fast.

Thanks so much for reading this,
Anita

Focus on the Right Things to Win

Earlier in my career, I hit a rough patch and I was determined to fix it immediately. My mentor gave me some sage. He suggested that instead of putting all of my attention on the setback, I would be better off taking a little bit of time to understand what went wrong and then refocusing the majority of my attention on what I wanted to create for my future. Doing this gave me a goal and the courage and motivation to go after it and win.

Something to think about.

Warmly,
Anita

Find Your Fans for Success

I have a friend who chases down people who don’t want to engage with him and tries to convince them to change their minds. While I understand it’s important to address negative feedback, I believe putting too much time, resources, and energy can lead to frustration, disappointment, and less than stellar outcomes.

So what is an alternative to my friend’s approach?

After you self-reflect on any critical feedback and come up with a plan to address this, I suggest that you devote a solid chunk of your time and energy to expanding the relationships with people you value and who value you.

Find and cultivate your fans and you likely will increase your success and happiness.

Have a good,
Anita