Clear Out Your Mental Gunk

Recently, I was struggling to make time to complete a personal project that is important to me. When I shared this dilemma with a close friend, she told me I needed to do a bit of gunk cleaning. Now she didn’t mean cleaning out my junk drawer (which also isn’t a bad idea), my friend was referring to the mental gunk (i.e. negativity) that was sucking my energy and diverting time that could be used for my project.

Just like most people, clearing gunk is a work in progress. My babystep is noticing when gunk surfaces and I cleaning it out fast.

Thanks so much for reading this,
Anita

Focus on the Right Things to Win

Earlier in my career, I hit a rough patch and I was determined to fix it immediately. My mentor gave me some sage. He suggested that instead of putting all of my attention on the setback, I would be better off taking a little bit of time to understand what went wrong and then refocusing the majority of my attention on what I wanted to create for my future. Doing this gave me a goal and the courage and motivation to go after it and win.

Something to think about.

Warmly,
Anita

Find Your Fans for Success

I have a friend who chases down people who don’t want to engage with him and tries to convince them to change their minds. While I understand it’s important to address negative feedback, I believe putting too much time, resources, and energy can lead to frustration, disappointment, and less than stellar outcomes.

So what is an alternative to my friend’s approach?

After you self-reflect on any critical feedback and come up with a plan to address this, I suggest that you devote a solid chunk of your time and energy to expanding the relationships with people you value and who value you.

Find and cultivate your fans and you likely will increase your success and happiness.

Have a good,
Anita

Procrastinate For Greater Success

It’s an amazing thing about procrastination. Most people hate it, fight it, and beat themselves up when they do it. By the way, I am no exception.

That said, I have learned to let procrastination be my teacher, guide, and motivator. While this seem a bit counter-intuitive, trust me it will help you achieve even greater success and happiness.

So the next time you notice that you are procrastinating, stop and ask yourself three questions:

  • Do you even want what you are pursuing?
  • Do you want to achieve this goal, but it’s not a priority at this time (and may be in the future)?
  • Is this too much to take on and you could chunk out a tiny babystep and experiment with that?

Whatever your answers, be kind to yourself. Kindness can take your WAY further than negative self judgement.

Have a great day,
Anita

Are You Giving Your Best?

It’s easy to write out your goal, get really excited about it, and then consciously or unconsciously not give it your all. This is not a criticism, but an observation I see myself do  – and many others as well.

While there may be many reasons for this, the biggest one is a fear of failure – with the notion (perhaps erroneous) that you can’t REALLY fail if you hold back. So, here’s what I do: I scale back my goal in the short term to build a series of smaller successes to get me to my bigger goal (sometimes faster than expected.)

Set yourself up to win – and you will increase your chances.

Have a good day,
Anita

Do You Have Enough?

Do you have enough? “Enough of what?” you may wonder. Most people usually answer the enough question with something material – jobs, homes, or money.

While each of these is great, they may miss the main ingredient of your health, happiness, and sense of satisfaction. I really want to know if you have a purpose or mission that is important to you and serves as a compass for your direction, goals, and short and long term decisions.

So what is at the center of your life and is it solid and enduring enough to help you live the life you want – now and far into the future.

Have a great day,
Anita

Success Boosters

I talk to people every day who are looking for some special idea or tool that will accelerate their success and happiness. Yet their focus is often misplaced.

Success comes from within – starting with what you want. From there it’s important to take action that leads you to your goal and, of course, surround yourself with people who want you to succeed as much as you do.

Warmly,
Anita