Are You Ready For Your Big Break?

I find so many people are looking for their big break – their time in the winner’s circle. This focus can actually create insecurity with a focus on an uncertain future while disregarding both the past and the present (that can provide a solid foundation of strengths and confidence).

So I suggest approaching the search for your big break a different way:

  1. Realize you can have multiple times in the winner’s circle if you understand what success and happiness mean to you.
  2. Acknowledge and feel gratitude for all of the things you have now and from the past. COUNT EVERYTHING.
  3. Reach out to the people who have helped you and say “thank you”. Your success and happiness will grow when you have active supporters who trust and value.

Enjoy the ride and celebrate along the way.

Warmly,
Anita

Small Counts Too

I have this friend who is invariably looking for the next big breakthrough in his life – and when it doesn’t “happen” he gets discouraged and gives up.

Big breakthroughs rarely appear out of the blue. My experience is that big breakthroughs come through a series of tiny actions that take me closer and closer to my goal. This is good for you for a couple of reasons:  1. You won’t overwhelm yourself with what needs to get done as you are taking it one babystep at a time and 2. If you make a misstep, the course correction is small.

Over time, you can have a big breakthrough – the result of a whole bunch of small wins.

Have a great day,
Anita

Divisiveness Starts From Within

I hear again and again: that the world is divisive. Some people believe that this serious discord is caused by our institutions and if only they would change, the world would be better. At some level, those individuals are right – and it’s far from the whole story.

Organizations are made up of people, so what if each of us looks at any “disunity” inside our own heart? I have seen when the change emanates from within, the environment changes for the better.

Do it as an experiment.

Warmly,
Anita

How Confidence Wins Over Doubt

Well, let’s first talk about when confidence gets eroded. Whenever you begin to compare yourself to others, it’s really easy for your confidence to go down. Why wouldn’t it?!? There is invariably going to be at least one person who is more capable than you, me, and most others.

So, instead, zero in on your strengths and think about one area of your life where you are already really good. Focus on that and make this comparison – where you are today versus where you were yesterday. Even if you took a tiny step forward, you can celebrate the progress which WILL boost your capacity, courage, and confidence.

Have a great day,
Anita

Is It Worth It?

Sometimes we put effort into building solid relationships and nothing seems to change. At those times, it’s easy to blame others and even question whether what you are doing is worth it.

Of course, honor how you are feeling and then move on. Take a look at yourself and where do you have the opportunity to improve how you approach other with respect, appreciation, and compassion.

In the end, the vast majority of the time – it IS worth it.

Warmly,
Anita