Unstuck Yourself

Feeling stuck is a terrible place to be. It makes each thing you do harder, more time consuming, and less fulfilling. Ugh!

Yet there is a solution and it doesn’t take much willpower, discipline, or brute force. Just take one performance babystep – an action you have complete control over and is small enough to do today. That one tiny move ahead can change your perspective, confidence, and sense of well-being – and help you get unstuck.

Remember, no action is too small. Just do it.

Have a great day,
Anita

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The Power of Patience

I want things now – actually yesterday – and when they take longer than I hoped, I get cranky. Yet I have come to realize that in pursuing a goal for a longer than I expected, I grow in capacity, courage, and other good stuff. So the power of being patient comes in seemingly wonderful ways.

So step back and while you “take your time,” continue to be authentic, active, and appreciative,

Have a great day,
Anita

Authenticity and Success

I watched a bunch of movies this past weekend and one really stuck with me. It was about a would-be writer who boldly stepped forward to attend a writers’ conference where her book would receive critical feedback. The prospect of this terrified her.

Her “worst” fears were realized when she received the same negative feedback from an accomplished author and two publishing executives. They told her that her writing wasn’t even up to the level to work with an editor. She had a long way to even be considered viable.

She was crushed. Yet, the source of her book being rejected wasn’t a lack of talent, skill, or capabilities – it was a lack of authenticity. Even though her words were well-written, they didn’t connect with anyone’s heart. So she had to dig deep and share what scared her the most and that was her authentic self. While there is tremendous risk in doing that, there are also amazing rewards.

So, if you have a big goal or dream, authenticity will accelerate your growth and success!

Warmly,
Anita

Conflict is Not a Contest

I will admit that I can be a “little” competitive at times. While this is good when playing a game and keeping score, it’s not so good when you have a conflict with another person.

A winner take all approach means that the solution is sub-optimal and that someone will need to lose.

It DOESN’T have to be that way.

Experiment with this: approach the other person with empathy, compassion, and heart. Then look for the underlying needs of you and the other person. Come up with a solution from that place and see how you can both “win”.

Have a great day,
Anita

Generosity Rules

I had a bit of a challenge as my day started. While it wasn’t huge, it was unsettling. Yet my day completely turned around for the better (BIG TIME) out of the generosity of two people – a stranger and a colleague. The first went of of his way to see that I had options with something that was broken and the second person found a way for me to have the object immediately replaced.

Their generosity of time, kindness, and heart made my day and gave me hope about the goodness of people in the world.

Thank you both!

Warmly,
Anita

When Being Generous Isn’t Convenient

When I looked up generous in an online dictionary – kind and magnanimous were key aspects of the definition. Even though these are two things I aspire to be, it’s not always easy or convenient. What if the other person isn’t kind and magnanimous toward me (or people I care about)? What is the other person is down right rude or nasty?

While it’s important to use good judgement in all situations, being generous is a way of being – not a gift given to only those few who treat you “perfectly”. So in each situation you face, see how you can lead with a generous heart. By the way, I would start with sharing that generosity with yourself.

Have a great day,
Anita

Listening to Succeed

Many people listen less than 50% of the time. It’s so easy to be distracted by random thoughts, interruptions, and our ever-present devices. The consequences can be anything from showing up for a meeting at the wrong time to failing to achieve a goal because you have lost the support of other people. What a waste of time, energy, and a whole variety of resources.

So pause, give yourself a break, and take a babystep toward more in-depth listening. First, make an effort to actually give the other person your full attention. It’s fine to disagree. Listening to disagree to actually a step up from not listening or listening to wait for the other person to take a breath so you can jump in and make your point.

Ultimately, you want to listen to understand – have an authentic dialogue. That’s the big win – for you, the other person, and creating greater value for both of you.

Have a great day,
Anita

What If You Can’t Decide?

Deciding can be a difficult thing to do, especially when there is no clear choice or it’s scary or you are being pressured by someone you know to select one outcome.

The list of reasons not to decide can go on and on and be really intimidating.

Yet making one massive decision is not required. You can break down your decision into manageable babysteps and act on them one, two, or three at a time. When you take this approach choosing become more fun than chore.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

Super Success Strategies

Over the years, I have read my fair share of books, articles, and more on how to succeed – with each expert talking about how “perfect” his or her approach is. Yet, whenever I didn’t achieve my goals and dreams employing a particular strategy, I viewed this as a failing on my part. Not an encouraging way to view the world.

Then, several years ago, I decided that the criteria for a super success strategy for me was: did it work for me? Was I inspired by the outcomes? Could I keep it up?

While I took responsibility for my actions and the outcomes, I decided that no one approach was right for everyone. If something didn’t work for me, it wasn’t my failure or weakness. Instead, I customized the approach  with much greater positive results.

Have a great day,
Anita

Have an Undefeated Heart

I was thinking about the difference between people who succeed and those who do not.

While there are many factors, I believe one of the biggest is whether or not you give up.

I have seen people who have everything going for them and when one thing doesn’t go their way, they quit. On the other hand, I meet individuals who face obstacle after obstacle – and have every “reason” to give up and don’t. Instead, they create victory in the end. Success starts and ends in their heart.

Make YOUR heart undefeatable.

Have a great day,

Anita