The Power of Upside Down Gratitude

I find it super easy to thank individuals for good stuff like – happy times, compliments, and wonderful people. Who wouldn’t, right?

Yet, there is another untapped area of good things. This is the power of upside down gratitude. Upside down gratitude is the value you can find in the not-so-positive and embrace it as crucial to your success and happiness. This requires courage, commitment, and a desire to take the lessons and leverage this for your greater good and the best for others.

Warmly,
Anita

Be a Comeback Genius

I will say upfront my extracurricular activities tend to go more toward books that sports. In fact, my alma mater, the University of Chicago, didn’t even have a football team that was much more than a “club” team.

So for those who know me, you might be surprised that I watched the Super Bowl. Well, I watched and I am VERY glad I did.

What a comeback story – one from which we can learn a lot:

  • Leadership under pressure. How would you react if you were down by more than three touchdowns with only have the game left? Many would give up, but not Brady. He kept going, putting everything on the line, and getting the rest of the team to believe a win was possible.
  • Not letting time be the deciding factor. The Patriots kept going, knowing that there had never been an overtime in a Super Bowl. Well, now there has been.
  • Finding a bit more determination, tenacity, and guts. When it looks like the tides had turned against Brady and the team, they stayed in the game – clearly with their heads and hearts.

There are many other things you can learn about being a comeback genius from Super Bowl LI. Just don’t find them, put them into action in your own life.

Have a great day,
Anita

Unhelpful or Helpful?

I have this tendency – to allow myself to be swayed by people and situations that could be perceived as negative. The operative phrase here is “could be perceived as negative”. Not actually negative, but my attitude makes me feel that it’s a foregone conclusion.

So, I am taking a different approach these days. Instead of embracing the potentially negative side of a person or situation, I am asking myself if my perspective  is helpful or unhelpful. If my take is encouraging me to take value-creating action, then I keep it. If not, then I choose to shift.

Have a great day,
Anita

The Danger of False Humility

Clearly, it’s off putting to have someone tell you how great she is. To me – it’s even worse when someone pretends to be humble and is actually incredibly arrogant. I find that it’s better to be yourself – authentic, confident in ways you are, and open to learning what you don’t know.

Warmly,
Anita

Want to Be Happy?

Want to Be Happy?

Be grateful. Gratefulness makes you happy.

Let me be clear. It’s not so much the circumstances we find ourselves in (although good ones are wonderful and cool), it’s our ability to find the opportunity. In the process of finding it, we grow and increase our capacity to be able to feel appreciative. This is the big prize. The more we find the opportunity, the more we will achieve our goals and dreams and be absolutely happy.

Warmly,

Anita

Dialogue for Success

How do you react when someone holds ideas, opinions, and beliefs that are very different that yours? Most people get angry, aggressive, or even defensive – none of which help you build a bridge. This approach leads to nothing good whatsoever.

So what can you do?

Dialogue with an open heart and open mind – and be willing to have your perspective changed (even a little).

Have a good day,
Anita

Avoid Anti-Anything

There are two ways to approach change. Some people go anti – or fight against what they don’t like. Others look to the fight for the outcome they want. While each can work at different times, I like to go toward the change I seek rather go anti what I don’t like. It gives me more confidence, courage, and determination.

Even Mother Theresa would never go to an anti-war rally, but would join a peace rally every chance she had.

Something to think about.

Warmly,
Anita