In the workplace, some people keep everything personal about them private. Yet others share every intimate detail of their personal lives. While what is appropriate varies widely from one organization to another, ultimately you will need to make that call. Choose a level of familiarity that feels fitting for your personality and the environment in which you work. So what can you do to reach the right balance for you today?
What do you believe in? What values are most important to you? If your friends and colleagues were asked what you stand for, how would they reply?
You will likely be measured not by depth of your beliefs stated in words, but by the action you take because of them.
So today, what small step can you take that shows the world what you stand for? After you’ve thought about it, do it.
Make a list of the big and small things that are on your mind. Now break the list into #1 – those things you feel that you can do something about and #2 – those things you feel are out of your control.
For list #1, decide what you are willing to begin doing today.
For list #2, consult with a close friend, partner, or colleague and ask him or her what you might be able to do to advance those seemingly impossible goals. Ask for assistance in seeing what is can do starting now, given your current circumstances.
By focusing on what you can do, you will achieve success which you can build on from the present moment into the future.
It is terrific to say wonderfully inspiring things, yet without the action to back it up – no one will take you seriously. This is true at work, in relationships of all kinds, and especially with children. So if you want your words to have a positive impact, punctuate them with deeds that show your commitment, courage, and character. Begin today.
Have a great day,
Who brings out the best in you?
Many people might call themselves your friend, but which really are? The ones who prefer to see you stay the same and not advance are not really friends. Your true friends are inspired, not threatened by your talents, achievements, and signs of greatness. They encourage you to go after your dreams and cheer you on when you succeed. Thank them by encouraging them to do the same.
Enjoy your day,
Some people believe that if they don’t “discover” the solution all on their own, they are diminished and have failed. Not only is this attitude self-defeating, it’s actually arrogant. By not allowing others to help you, you cheat them of the good feelings they would receive from making a contribution.
So who would enjoy helping you today? Make the most of their assistance. And of course, show your appreciation with a kind word, hug, or even thank you gift. Choose whatever is appropriate for the situation and the relationship.
Have a great day,
Gratitude has levels – just like about anything worthwhile doing in life. It’s totally fine to start at the beginner level. In fact, it’s great to do that, so you have a solid foundation from now and into the future.
So here are beginner and advanced levels of gratitude:
Beginner Gratitude: This is the stage where you are able to say “thank you”, see the many resources within your life, and where you may even keep a gratitude journal. This is all good stuff and a wonderful place to start. Even after you get really good at at the beginner gratitude level, keep doing it AND move to the advanced level.
Advanced Gratitude: This is the stage where you can feel appreciation for someone you might not like, may make you angry, and you may even want this person to FAIL. In situations like this, you may have to dig really deep, go beyond the desire to be “right” above all, and find one thing you value about this “no so great” person. When you are able to do this, you grow and a world of opportunities will open up to you. This is the realm of breakthrough after breakthrough after breakthrough.
Just start where you are and whether beginner or advanced, your actions are making the world a more appreciative place.
Feeling stuck is a terrible place to be. It makes each thing you do harder, more time consuming, and less fulfilling. Ugh!
Yet there is a solution and it doesn’t take much willpower, discipline, or brute force. Just take one performance babystep – an action you have complete control over and is small enough to do today. That one tiny move ahead can change your perspective, confidence, and sense of well-being – and help you get unstuck.
Remember, no action is too small. Just do it.
Have a great day,
I want things now – actually yesterday – and when they take longer than I hoped, I get cranky. Yet I have come to realize that in pursuing a goal for a longer than I expected, I grow in capacity, courage, and other good stuff. So the power of being patient comes in seemingly wonderful ways.
So step back and while you “take your time,” continue to be authentic, active, and appreciative,
Have a great day,
I watched a bunch of movies this past weekend and one really stuck with me. It was about a would-be writer who boldly stepped forward to attend a writers’ conference where her book would receive critical feedback. The prospect of this terrified her.
Her “worst” fears were realized when she received the same negative feedback from an accomplished author and two publishing executives. They told her that her writing wasn’t even up to the level to work with an editor. She had a long way to even be considered viable.
She was crushed. Yet, the source of her book being rejected wasn’t a lack of talent, skill, or capabilities – it was a lack of authenticity. Even though her words were well-written, they didn’t connect with anyone’s heart. So she had to dig deep and share what scared her the most and that was her authentic self. While there is tremendous risk in doing that, there are also amazing rewards.
So, if you have a big goal or dream, authenticity will accelerate your growth and success!