What Does Your Work Say About You?

Whether you work inside the home, outside the home, or both, what you do is a reflection of who you are at your core.

So what kind of statement does your work say about you? Commitment? Care? Creativity?

You will want to know so you can keep doing what you are doing the way you are doing it – or make changes – big or small.

Have a great day,
Anita

When Being Right is Wrong

I was listening to a program recently and the speaker talked about how being right can actually be a bad thing. My first reaction was “how could that be”? In a world where having the right idea, approach, or solution can lead to greater levels of success – it seemed the speaker made a mistake. That said, I realized if I stopped listened I might fall into the “needing to be right” trap.

So I listened (actually carefully) to the speaker. What he said, made a lot of sense to me.

Here’s what I learned:

  • Advice based on what you believe is right, even if well-intentioned, can derail a conversation and a whole relationship.
  • While being right may make you feel superior, at its core are arrogance and insecurity.
  • Be open to having your mind changed, not out of backing away – but out of incorporating new knowledge that could be useful.

The speaker left me with even more to contemplate – perhaps your mind will be led to deeper thinking on this topic, too.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

The Arrogance of Holding Back

Recently, I was with a group of friends and we were talking about goals important to each of us.  One person, Jake, missed a target and he was pretty nonchalant about it. The response of another person, Julia, at first really surprised us all, “You are incredibly arrogant,” she said.

How is it arrogant to miss a goal? Julia’s point is that holding back is a form of arrogance because if you don’t give it your all – there is an underlying belief of having limited capacity – and who is to say how far you can go? The last person should be you!

Something to think about.

Have a great day,
Anita

Challenge and Positive Change

Challenge is a word that can be exhilarating and yet a little scary. What achievement has ever been accomplished without challenges of one kind or another. So if you aren’t advancing the way you would like to, where can you create a challenge to help you step up, move forward, and realize a goal or dream that has appeared out of reach? Take one babystep today. Then throw up your hands and shout “Ta Dah!”.

Have a great day,
Anita

Powerful Growth at Any Age

I have a newish friend who moved to Chicago a couple of years ago to start her second doctorate. At the time, this woman was in her late 60’s. She is well on her way to achieving that goal.

Oh wait, there’s more. She became a driving force and presenter for a global education conference in Africa. Recently, she applied for and got into a language intensive in Japan.

By the way, she is a person of modest means and all along the way find to find the monies to fund her career “adventures”.

My friend is a shining example of how important stretch goals are regardless of your age and how to not let longevity, money, or anything else stand in your way. I think that it helps a bunch that her purpose for doing all of this is to help others.

So what’s your next stretch goal?

Thank you, friend.

Have a great day,
Anita

Stumbling Forward

I have a tendency to want to perfect a new skill before I use it. While this can be viewed as an admirable quality, it is also rather restrictive. This approach clearly can limit advancement. So lately, I have been testing my new skills before I would give them an A+. What I have learned is that even if I need to refine and polish these skills, if I don’t test them out I will never receive the essential feedback to make them great.

Warmly,
Anita

Judging Success

It’s a funny thing about another person’s success when you look at it at a specific point in time. You could easily gain a distorted view. Wherever you enter the picture, you could miss where the person started, the challenges he faced, and the courage he used to transform them.

In other words, you might judge instead of celebrating. The former could destroy a relationship before it starts and latter could be the beginning of a life-long friendship.

Have a great day,
Anita