The Power of “Winter”

I was in a very interesting conversation last evening and to say the group was eclectic is an understatement. Yet, we absolutely agreed on a few things:

  • Winter, or the challenges of life, are not permanent – even if they feel that way.
  • Challenges allow us to develop capacities we didn’t even know we had.
  • When we transform our “winters”, we give hope, encouragement, and a positive example to others.

Even if it’s not how we prefer to have things unfold, winter can be a powerful source of growth, success, and happiness.

Warmly,
Anita

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The Power of “Mistakes”

I work with individuals on their careers and one thing I do is help them prep for interviews. One of the most intimidating questions for them is about making mistakes. It’s funny how no one wants to admit to doing something in error and yet we all do it.

There are people who actually gain power, credibility, and confidence because of their mistakes. Here’s why – they take full responsibility, fix the issue, and use it for their growth, advancement, and greater success.

While no one likes to make a mistake, you can turn things around and win in the end.

Have a great day,

Anita

How to Remain Undefeated

It’s always exciting when our favorite team is undefeated. Yet, to me, the more important consideration is how you, me, and each person on earth can remain undefeated in this lifetime?

Some people believe that never having a defeat is impossible. I would disagree. Pause and remember what “undefeated” actually means. It is not that you never have a setback, obstacle, or even a failure. It really means not quitting, giving up, or giving in to doubt, fear, or discouragement.

Defeat begins in your mind and so does winning. You get to choose.

Have a great day,
Anita

Don’t Want It? Get Rid of It!

I was traveling recently and it was interesting to hear the conversation whirling around me. There were certainly some positive topics and interactions, yet it was interesting to see how much of the talk was what these individuals wanted to get rid of. While it’s not always possible to banish and people or circumstances from your life, what is absolutely possible to rid yourself of the upset and grudges that can make you unhappy at best.

So the next time you notice you have something you don’t want, pause and find the value. Once you do, you are already transforming your life for the better.

 

Have a great day,

Anita

Speak Up A Little, Succeed A Lot More

I was chatting with someone today is clearly competent, kind, and capable. Yet, often, people never get to see that in him. Instead, they see a quiet person without a ton of engagement. This is a loss for my new friend and many who would like to get to know him.

The good news is that he is open to stretching himself. Yay! Here is one thing that he is going to do that might work for you as well. Instead of agonizing about how to become a brilliant conversationalist, he has decided to ask thoughtful questions and then give the other person his rapt attention. It is a wonderful “secret” to greater success.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

Success Stretchers

It’s very interesting about the most powerful success stretchers. Much of the time, they are human beings. These people are often not the ones who cheer us on, think we are brilliant, and make us feel totally valued. While it’s essential and wonderful to have these kind of people in our lives, they can only take us so far.

The success stretchers I’m talking about are the individuals who often annoying, challenge everything we say, and share their negativity early, often, and without even being asked. I recently met with someone who meets all of the criteria. Wow – what a workout! Yet, I welcome the opportunity to work with this person as he makes me focus, be present with him (at all times), and forces me to bring my best self to every meeting we have.

I would go so far as to say “THANK YOU!!!” to this individual. I am better at what I do today because of him.

Have a great day,
Anita

When Being Right is Wrong

I was listening to a program recently and the speaker talked about how being right can actually be a bad thing. My first reaction was “how could that be”? In a world where having the right idea, approach, or solution can lead to greater levels of success – it seemed the speaker made a mistake. That said, I realized if I stopped listened I might fall into the “needing to be right” trap.

So I listened (actually carefully) to the speaker. What he said, made a lot of sense to me.

Here’s what I learned:

  • Advice based on what you believe is right, even if well-intentioned, can derail a conversation and a whole relationship.
  • While being right may make you feel superior, at its core are arrogance and insecurity.
  • Be open to having your mind changed, not out of backing away – but out of incorporating new knowledge that could be useful.

The speaker left me with even more to contemplate – perhaps your mind will be led to deeper thinking on this topic, too.

Enjoy your day,
Anita