Speak Up A Little, Succeed A Lot More

I was chatting with someone today is clearly competent, kind, and capable. Yet, often, people never get to see that in him. Instead, they see a quiet person without a ton of engagement. This is a loss for my new friend and many who would like to get to know him.

The good news is that he is open to stretching himself. Yay! Here is one thing that he is going to do that might work for you as well. Instead of agonizing about how to become a brilliant conversationalist, he has decided to ask thoughtful questions and then give the other person his rapt attention. It is a wonderful “secret” to greater success.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

Success Stretchers

It’s very interesting about the most powerful success stretchers. Much of the time, they are human beings. These people are often not the ones who cheer us on, think we are brilliant, and make us feel totally valued. While it’s essential and wonderful to have these kind of people in our lives, they can only take us so far.

The success stretchers I’m talking about are the individuals who often annoying, challenge everything we say, and share their negativity early, often, and without even being asked. I recently met with someone who meets all of the criteria. Wow – what a workout! Yet, I welcome the opportunity to work with this person as he makes me focus, be present with him (at all times), and forces me to bring my best self to every meeting we have.

I would go so far as to say “THANK YOU!!!” to this individual. I am better at what I do today because of him.

Have a great day,
Anita

When Being Right is Wrong

I was listening to a program recently and the speaker talked about how being right can actually be a bad thing. My first reaction was “how could that be”? In a world where having the right idea, approach, or solution can lead to greater levels of success – it seemed the speaker made a mistake. That said, I realized if I stopped listened I might fall into the “needing to be right” trap.

So I listened (actually carefully) to the speaker. What he said, made a lot of sense to me.

Here’s what I learned:

  • Advice based on what you believe is right, even if well-intentioned, can derail a conversation and a whole relationship.
  • While being right may make you feel superior, at its core are arrogance and insecurity.
  • Be open to having your mind changed, not out of backing away – but out of incorporating new knowledge that could be useful.

The speaker left me with even more to contemplate – perhaps your mind will be led to deeper thinking on this topic, too.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

Challenge and Positive Change

Challenge is a word that can be exhilarating and yet a little scary. What achievement has ever been accomplished without challenges of one kind or another. So if you aren’t advancing the way you would like to, where can you create a challenge to help you step up, move forward, and realize a goal or dream that has appeared out of reach? Take one babystep today. Then throw up your hands and shout “Ta Dah!”.

Have a great day,
Anita

The Fuel in Challenge

It’s an interesting thing about challenge. It can be the source of tremendous angst or the inspiration to help you achieve your big dreams.

So what creates the difference? A wise friend once told me the variation is not in the circumstances, but in the perspective you bring to it.

Consider this. Do you see the potential negative consequences of things not going the way you hoped and planned? Or, are you even a little intrigued, excited, and hopeful.  In the first situation you will be crushed by situation. In the second, you will crush the circumstances and win.

The choice is in your hands.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

Stumbling Forward

I have a tendency to want to perfect a new skill before I use it. While this can be viewed as an admirable quality, it is also rather restrictive. This approach clearly can limit advancement. So lately, I have been testing my new skills before I would give them an A+. What I have learned is that even if I need to refine and polish these skills, if I don’t test them out I will never receive the essential feedback to make them great.

Warmly,
Anita