Authenticity and Success

I watched a bunch of movies this past weekend and one really stuck with me. It was about a would-be writer who boldly stepped forward to attend a writers’ conference where her book would receive critical feedback. The prospect of this terrified her.

Her “worst” fears were realized when she received the same negative feedback from an accomplished author and two publishing executives. They told her that her writing wasn’t even up to the level to work with an editor. She had a long way to even be considered viable.

She was crushed. Yet, the source of her book being rejected wasn’t a lack of talent, skill, or capabilities – it was a lack of authenticity. Even though her words were well-written, they didn’t connect with anyone’s heart. So she had to dig deep and share what scared her the most and that was her authentic self. While there is tremendous risk in doing that, there are also amazing rewards.

So, if you have a big goal or dream, authenticity will accelerate your growth and success!

Warmly,
Anita

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Generosity Rules

I had a bit of a challenge as my day started. While it wasn’t huge, it was unsettling. Yet my day completely turned around for the better (BIG TIME) out of the generosity of two people – a stranger and a colleague. The first went of of his way to see that I had options with something that was broken and the second person found a way for me to have the object immediately replaced.

Their generosity of time, kindness, and heart made my day and gave me hope about the goodness of people in the world.

Thank you both!

Warmly,
Anita

Attitudes Are Contagious – What Are You Catching?

I have been reading a book for a work assignment and the author talked about how attitudes, emotions, and feelings are contagious. While this makes perfect sense, I never really thought about it in quite that way.

After a bit of reflection, I remembered two things:

The people closest to you shape your life. So, choose carefully and know that you may have to remove individuals from your life if their influence is taking you in a direction that is unhealthy or worse.

You shape other people’s lives. You words can encourage, inspire, and motivate or crush the other person. So be kind, compassionate, and sometimes strict. You owe it to yourself and the other person.

Have a great day,
Anita

Listening to Succeed

Many people listen less than 50% of the time. It’s so easy to be distracted by random thoughts, interruptions, and our ever-present devices. The consequences can be anything from showing up for a meeting at the wrong time to failing to achieve a goal because you have lost the support of other people. What a waste of time, energy, and a whole variety of resources.

So pause, give yourself a break, and take a babystep toward more in-depth listening. First, make an effort to actually give the other person your full attention. It’s fine to disagree. Listening to disagree to actually a step up from not listening or listening to wait for the other person to take a breath so you can jump in and make your point.

Ultimately, you want to listen to understand – have an authentic dialogue. That’s the big win – for you, the other person, and creating greater value for both of you.

Have a great day,
Anita

The Power of “Winter”

I was in a very interesting conversation last evening and to say the group was eclectic is an understatement. Yet, we absolutely agreed on a few things:

  • Winter, or the challenges of life, are not permanent – even if they feel that way.
  • Challenges allow us to develop capacities we didn’t even know we had.
  • When we transform our “winters”, we give hope, encouragement, and a positive example to others.

Even if it’s not how we prefer to have things unfold, winter can be a powerful source of growth, success, and happiness.

Warmly,
Anita

The Power of “Mistakes”

I work with individuals on their careers and one thing I do is help them prep for interviews. One of the most intimidating questions for them is about making mistakes. It’s funny how no one wants to admit to doing something in error and yet we all do it.

There are people who actually gain power, credibility, and confidence because of their mistakes. Here’s why – they take full responsibility, fix the issue, and use it for their growth, advancement, and greater success.

While no one likes to make a mistake, you can turn things around and win in the end.

Have a great day,

Anita

How to Remain Undefeated

It’s always exciting when our favorite team is undefeated. Yet, to me, the more important consideration is how you, me, and each person on earth can remain undefeated in this lifetime?

Some people believe that never having a defeat is impossible. I would disagree. Pause and remember what “undefeated” actually means. It is not that you never have a setback, obstacle, or even a failure. It really means not quitting, giving up, or giving in to doubt, fear, or discouragement.

Defeat begins in your mind and so does winning. You get to choose.

Have a great day,
Anita

Don’t Want It? Get Rid of It!

I was traveling recently and it was interesting to hear the conversation whirling around me. There were certainly some positive topics and interactions, yet it was interesting to see how much of the talk was what these individuals wanted to get rid of. While it’s not always possible to banish and people or circumstances from your life, what is absolutely possible to rid yourself of the upset and grudges that can make you unhappy at best.

So the next time you notice you have something you don’t want, pause and find the value. Once you do, you are already transforming your life for the better.

 

Have a great day,

Anita

Speak Up A Little, Succeed A Lot More

I was chatting with someone today is clearly competent, kind, and capable. Yet, often, people never get to see that in him. Instead, they see a quiet person without a ton of engagement. This is a loss for my new friend and many who would like to get to know him.

The good news is that he is open to stretching himself. Yay! Here is one thing that he is going to do that might work for you as well. Instead of agonizing about how to become a brilliant conversationalist, he has decided to ask thoughtful questions and then give the other person his rapt attention. It is a wonderful “secret” to greater success.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

Success Stretchers

It’s very interesting about the most powerful success stretchers. Much of the time, they are human beings. These people are often not the ones who cheer us on, think we are brilliant, and make us feel totally valued. While it’s essential and wonderful to have these kind of people in our lives, they can only take us so far.

The success stretchers I’m talking about are the individuals who often annoying, challenge everything we say, and share their negativity early, often, and without even being asked. I recently met with someone who meets all of the criteria. Wow – what a workout! Yet, I welcome the opportunity to work with this person as he makes me focus, be present with him (at all times), and forces me to bring my best self to every meeting we have.

I would go so far as to say “THANK YOU!!!” to this individual. I am better at what I do today because of him.

Have a great day,
Anita