The Perspective Paradox

I work with a lot of people over the course of a year. It’s very interesting to see how two people in very similar circumstances can have very different networks, opportunities, and outcomes.

So what IS the difference? I have found that it has a lot to do with attitude, perspective, and most importantly, a sense of gratitude. Appreciation can positively change EVERYTHING for the better.

Warmly,
Anita

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Pause Before You Complain

Oh my gosh! It’s so easy to complain about people, situations, and even the weather. Yet before you do, pause long enough to remember all of the good things you have in your life. When you do, you might just “forget” about complaining altogether. And that would be a very good thing!

Have a great day,
Anita

Why Are People Annoying?

I will admit that some individuals annoy me. A little, a lot, or somewhere in between. At times, this negative disturbance takes me by surprise, which is unsettling.

I have come to realize that there is a quick, painless, and highly effective way to turn this around. It is taking a step back and looking at the other person with compassion, empathy, and appreciation. While not always easy to do, the rewards are great. When you create space to listen to (and hopefully help) the individual, you will expand your own capacity as a human being in the process..

When we build positive bridges of understanding with others, everyone benefits.

Have a great day,

Anita

Authenticity and Success

I watched a bunch of movies this past weekend and one really stuck with me. It was about a would-be writer who boldly stepped forward to attend a writers’ conference where her book would receive critical feedback. The prospect of this terrified her.

Her “worst” fears were realized when she received the same negative feedback from an accomplished author and two publishing executives. They told her that her writing wasn’t even up to the level to work with an editor. She had a long way to even be considered viable.

She was crushed. Yet, the source of her book being rejected wasn’t a lack of talent, skill, or capabilities – it was a lack of authenticity. Even though her words were well-written, they didn’t connect with anyone’s heart. So she had to dig deep and share what scared her the most and that was her authentic self. While there is tremendous risk in doing that, there are also amazing rewards.

So, if you have a big goal or dream, authenticity will accelerate your growth and success!

Warmly,
Anita

Conflict is Not a Contest

I will admit that I can be a “little” competitive at times. While this is good when playing a game and keeping score, it’s not so good when you have a conflict with another person.

A winner take all approach means that the solution is sub-optimal and that someone will need to lose.

It DOESN’T have to be that way.

Experiment with this: approach the other person with empathy, compassion, and heart. Then look for the underlying needs of you and the other person. Come up with a solution from that place and see how you can both “win”.

Have a great day,
Anita

Attitudes Are Contagious – What Are You Catching?

I have been reading a book for a work assignment and the author talked about how attitudes, emotions, and feelings are contagious. While this makes perfect sense, I never really thought about it in quite that way.

After a bit of reflection, I remembered two things:

The people closest to you shape your life. So, choose carefully and know that you may have to remove individuals from your life if their influence is taking you in a direction that is unhealthy or worse.

You shape other people’s lives. You words can encourage, inspire, and motivate or crush the other person. So be kind, compassionate, and sometimes strict. You owe it to yourself and the other person.

Have a great day,
Anita

Listening to Succeed

Many people listen less than 50% of the time. It’s so easy to be distracted by random thoughts, interruptions, and our ever-present devices. The consequences can be anything from showing up for a meeting at the wrong time to failing to achieve a goal because you have lost the support of other people. What a waste of time, energy, and a whole variety of resources.

So pause, give yourself a break, and take a babystep toward more in-depth listening. First, make an effort to actually give the other person your full attention. It’s fine to disagree. Listening to disagree to actually a step up from not listening or listening to wait for the other person to take a breath so you can jump in and make your point.

Ultimately, you want to listen to understand – have an authentic dialogue. That’s the big win – for you, the other person, and creating greater value for both of you.

Have a great day,
Anita

Manage Your Mindset

Your mindset will direct how much you succeed in your career and life. So how can you use your approach, perspective, and wisdom to guide you toward your success and happiness while using any challenges to expand your capacity, courage, and confidence?

Warmly,
Anita

Courageous Action

I was with a group of friends yesterday and one person (a cool friend) was sharing how she has a BIG goal – so big it’s scary. She questioned whether she was too afraid to take actions toward her goal.

While this surprised me, I kept listening. As she was describing her “less than bold” actions, I was more and more inspired by her. Her actions are clearly based on her purpose, leverage her strengths, and ARE courageous. By the way,size and speed really do not matter.

Way to go, Susie!!!!

Have a great day,
Anita

The Power of Small Data

Many people talk about the power of big data and while this is true, it only tells one side of the story. Small data, or looking at an individual, can help you create value immediately. When you focus on appreciating, acknowledging, and/or improving the life of the person in front of you – you can have an impact right now. What’s more, the positive influence you have on that one individual can ripple out in ways you can even foresee. So what are you waiting for? Act now.

Enjoy your day,
Anita