Stir Change

Change can seem like a scary thing at times, especially when you are not the driver. In today’s world, change seems like the only constant – so what is a person to do?

My friend, Penny, once told me that with change, “if you can’t control it, jump in to be part of the change, and help others manage it.” This has proven to be rather sage advice. You can be the protagonist of change – and if you take the lead, you can powerfully influence the outcome you want to see.

Have a great day,
Anita

Jump In and Help

I was recently in a situation where I knew a friend needed help with something, yet I had had a really long week and wanted to go home. I actually thought heading out, climbing on the bus number one, and getting on bus number 2 without a pause. Yet, I just couldn’t. It wasn’t out of guilt or a “should”, but out an inner commitment to assist someone who clearly needed my help.

“So was it worth it?” you may ask. Absolutely. Absolutely. Absolutely. I bet that I actually gained more than my friend. I think it works that way a lot of time.

So if you need a boost – lend someone else a hand.

Have a great day,

Anita

Acceptance and Success

Since I was a child (until about 10 years ago), I struggled with my weight. One day, my mother told me something I just wasn’t willing to hear – and that I needed to accept myself as I was at that time. I told her I would accept myself once I was thin. Clearly, I didn’t get the point.

What I have learned is that acceptance doesn’t mean that we aren’t striving to improve. It just means that if we start from a place of appreciation of where we are and from where we have come, we will have power, confidence, and strength to achieve our goals and dreams.

Have a great day,
Anita

Set a Bigger Goal

Recently, I was struggling to achieve a specific goal I had been working on for a long time. I couldn’t for the life of me figure out what was wrong. I blamed myself – too lazy, not committed, missing something to carry things through to the finish.

While my self-assessment may have been accurate, it wasn’t the whole story. I soon realized that my goal was too tiny and didn’t inspire me. So I made my goal bigger – not impossible, but enough of a stretch to drive me ahead.

Updates to follow.

Have a great day,
Anita

How Confidence Wins Over Doubt

Well, let’s first talk about when confidence gets eroded. Whenever you begin to compare yourself to others, it’s really easy for your confidence to go down. Why wouldn’t it?!? There is invariably going to be at least one person who is more capable than you, me, and most others.

So, instead, zero in on your strengths and think about one area of your life where you are already really good. Focus on that and make this comparison – where you are today versus where you were yesterday. Even if you took a tiny step forward, you can celebrate the progress which WILL boost your capacity, courage, and confidence.

Have a great day,
Anita

Is It Worth It?

Sometimes we put effort into building solid relationships and nothing seems to change. At those times, it’s easy to blame others and even question whether what you are doing is worth it.

Of course, honor how you are feeling and then move on. Take a look at yourself and where do you have the opportunity to improve how you approach other with respect, appreciation, and compassion.

In the end, the vast majority of the time – it IS worth it.

Warmly,
Anita

Step Up: The World is Waiting

I often chat with people who aren’t sure they have enough of one thing or another to really add major value to the world. Once and for all, this just isn’t so. Each of us has many things that at least one other person needs to hear, learn from, and take action on.

So before you negate your next idea, product, or project – STOP! You could be the perfect person to do what is noodling around in your head. So do it and remember, you don’t have to do everything yourself. You can build a team to support your efforts.

Have a great day,
Anita