Make More “Mistakes”

I was working with someone recently who was having a very hard time at work. She was paralyzed with fear and so not doing a great job in her role. Work has become a vicious cycle of fear, procrastination, not providing high quality deliverables, critical feedback, and more fear.

When we spoke, this individual decided to chat with her manager and explain the situation before it was too late and she lost her job. The outcome was surprising to her and very positive. Her manager wants this woman to stretch herself to the point where she makes a mistake here and there (in lower risk environments) so she can expand her courage, confidence, and capacity.

So where can you make “safe mistakes” to stretch yourself?

Warmly,
Anita

The Power of Upside Down Gratitude

I find it super easy to thank individuals for good stuff like – happy times, compliments, and wonderful people. Who wouldn’t, right?

Yet, there is another untapped area of good things. This is the power of upside down gratitude. Upside down gratitude is the value you can find in the not-so-positive and embrace it as crucial to your success and happiness. This requires courage, commitment, and a desire to take the lessons and leverage this for your greater good and the best for others.

Warmly,
Anita

Are You Giving Your Best?

It’s easy to write out your goal, get really excited about it, and then consciously or unconsciously not give it your all. This is not a criticism, but an observation I see myself do  – and many others as well.

While there may be many reasons for this, the biggest one is a fear of failure – with the notion (perhaps erroneous) that you can’t REALLY fail if you hold back. So, here’s what I do: I scale back my goal in the short term to build a series of smaller successes to get me to my bigger goal (sometimes faster than expected.)

Set yourself up to win – and you will increase your chances.

Have a good day,
Anita

The Danger of False Humility

Clearly, it’s off putting to have someone tell you how great she is. To me – it’s even worse when someone pretends to be humble and is actually incredibly arrogant. I find that it’s better to be yourself – authentic, confident in ways you are, and open to learning what you don’t know.

Warmly,
Anita

Do You Have the Courage to Win?

Where are you holding back and slowing or stalling out your progress?

No matter how much it might seem like lack of time, it’s much more likely that your courage has dipped too low for action. So experiment with tiny things to stretch your confidence, capacity, and courage. Then you can win and win again.

Have a great day,
Anita

The Winding Road to Success

The is a street in San Francisco – Lombard Street – that is a wonderful representation of success. It had sharp turns that you need to be prepared for – which could either help you accelerate or crash. So you need to keep your head about you and not be swayed by rapid progress or even a setback.

All in all, the ride is scary, fun, and exhilarating – both the one on Lombard Street and the one that is your life.

Have a great day,
Anita