Is Your Purpose Too Puny?

I was chatting with a friend who has been struggling with a specific challenge for a long time and he was more than a bit frustrated that he hadn’t yet resolved it. I asked him why coming up with a solution was important to him. He gave me one of those “isn’t it obvious” looks and yet he didn’t really have an answer.

As we continued to talk, he realized that he didn’t have a strong enough purpose around the challenge to bring his best self, power through, and bounce back when things didn’t go his way.

Puny purposes are often at the root of something not being achieved. So what is your goal / challenge and what makes it super important to you?

Warmly,
Anita

Stir Change

Change can seem like a scary thing at times, especially when you are not the driver. In today’s world, change seems like the only constant – so what is a person to do?

My friend, Penny, once told me that with change, “if you can’t control it, jump in to be part of the change, and help others manage it.” This has proven to be rather sage advice. You can be the protagonist of change – and if you take the lead, you can powerfully influence the outcome you want to see.

Have a great day,
Anita

The Courage Continuum

I speak to people who tell me they lack the courage to pursue a goal or dream. Yet, they have taken courageous action in other areas of their lives. What we often both conclude it that it’s not really “missing” courage, but taking on too much, too soon.

Once they are able to take a tiny step that takes courage, they make progress toward their goal. In the end, they become a person who sets and achieves even bigger goals.

Just start with one tiny absolutely doable step and you will expand your courage, capacity, and confidence.

Warmly,
Anita

Divisiveness Starts From Within

I hear again and again: that the world is divisive. Some people believe that this serious discord is caused by our institutions and if only they would change, the world would be better. At some level, those individuals are right – and it’s far from the whole story.

Organizations are made up of people, so what if each of us looks at any “disunity” inside our own heart? I have seen when the change emanates from within, the environment changes for the better.

Do it as an experiment.

Warmly,
Anita

How Confidence Wins Over Doubt

Well, let’s first talk about when confidence gets eroded. Whenever you begin to compare yourself to others, it’s really easy for your confidence to go down. Why wouldn’t it?!? There is invariably going to be at least one person who is more capable than you, me, and most others.

So, instead, zero in on your strengths and think about one area of your life where you are already really good. Focus on that and make this comparison – where you are today versus where you were yesterday. Even if you took a tiny step forward, you can celebrate the progress which WILL boost your capacity, courage, and confidence.

Have a great day,
Anita

Share Some Confidence

If you’ve ever read or heard another person’s story and it inspired you to take action where you had previously been stalled, you borrowed a bit of confidence. While you eventually needed to build your own confidence, in the short term you could ride on the tail of an individual’s triumph over a challenge.

I can tell you, from first hand experience, that learning about others’ tales, of turning obstacles into a success, was a lifeline for me in one of the most difficult times in my life. I will be eternally grateful.

So, what’s your story? Who can you encourage by sharing it? Do so and you share a bit of confidence in the process.

Have a great day,
Anita

Make More “Mistakes”

I was working with someone recently who was having a very hard time at work. She was paralyzed with fear and so not doing a great job in her role. Work has become a vicious cycle of fear, procrastination, not providing high quality deliverables, critical feedback, and more fear.

When we spoke, this individual decided to chat with her manager and explain the situation before it was too late and she lost her job. The outcome was surprising to her and very positive. Her manager wants this woman to stretch herself to the point where she makes a mistake here and there (in lower risk environments) so she can expand her courage, confidence, and capacity.

So where can you make “safe mistakes” to stretch yourself?

Warmly,
Anita