Divisiveness Starts From Within

I hear again and again: that the world is divisive. Some people believe that this serious discord is caused by our institutions and if only they would change, the world would be better. At some level, those individuals are right – and it’s far from the whole story.

Organizations are made up of people, so what if each of us looks at any “disunity” inside our own heart? I have seen when the change emanates from within, the environment changes for the better.

Do it as an experiment.

Warmly,
Anita

Step Up: The World is Waiting

I often chat with people who aren’t sure they have enough of one thing or another to really add major value to the world. Once and for all, this just isn’t so. Each of us has many things that at least one other person needs to hear, learn from, and take action on.

So before you negate your next idea, product, or project – STOP! You could be the perfect person to do what is noodling around in your head. So do it and remember, you don’t have to do everything yourself. You can build a team to support your efforts.

Have a great day,
Anita

Clear Out Your Mental Gunk

Recently, I was struggling to make time to complete a personal project that is important to me. When I shared this dilemma with a close friend, she told me I needed to do a bit of gunk cleaning. Now she didn’t mean cleaning out my junk drawer (which also isn’t a bad idea), my friend was referring to the mental gunk (i.e. negativity) that was sucking my energy and diverting time that could be used for my project.

Just like most people, clearing gunk is a work in progress. My babystep is noticing when gunk surfaces and I cleaning it out fast.

Thanks so much for reading this,
Anita

Are You Giving Your Best?

It’s easy to write out your goal, get really excited about it, and then consciously or unconsciously not give it your all. This is not a criticism, but an observation I see myself do  – and many others as well.

While there may be many reasons for this, the biggest one is a fear of failure – with the notion (perhaps erroneous) that you can’t REALLY fail if you hold back. So, here’s what I do: I scale back my goal in the short term to build a series of smaller successes to get me to my bigger goal (sometimes faster than expected.)

Set yourself up to win – and you will increase your chances.

Have a good day,
Anita

Are You in the Right Place?

When things aren’t going according to plan, it’s easy to ask yourself, “”Am I in the wrong place? Perhaps a different, role, company, or relationship would make me happier.” In fact, this is what most people do.

Yet this approach would be backwards. The starting point really needs to be within your own heart as you are the common thread. How can you change any negativity from within yourself which will alter how you interact with others?

In the end, the appropriate action may be to stay or it may be to move on. Yet this time, you can make a decision based your wisdom instead of a quick escape plan.

Have a great day,
Anita

The Boulder is Made of Paper Mache

Have you ever watched  really old sci fi movies where there are boulders all around that look immovable and the hero strains and can’t even make them budge? Yet if you look closely, it’s apparent that these giant rocks are actually paper props that I small child could lift and carry away.

I believe that challenges or obstacles can be the same way. At first glance, they feel really scary (been there) and if we look beyond the surface, there is often something you learn that, after the fact, you realize you couldn’t really do without (been there too.)

Have a great day,

Anita

Dialogue for Success

How do you react when someone holds ideas, opinions, and beliefs that are very different that yours? Most people get angry, aggressive, or even defensive – none of which help you build a bridge. This approach leads to nothing good whatsoever.

So what can you do?

Dialogue with an open heart and open mind – and be willing to have your perspective changed (even a little).

Have a good day,
Anita