12000 Volts of Encouragement

While recovering in the hospital after being crushed by an elevator, I met an extraordinary man. Melvin’s both arms and legs had been burned off after 12000 volts of electricity went through his body.

During an interview for a local cable show I wondered how he kept up his own spirits. “Anita,” he told me, “I was feeling really sorry for myself just this morning. I momentarily wished I had died. I stopped myself and wheeled myself down the hall to cheer up someone else. I made his day and that made my day.”

So the next time you are feeling sorry for yourself, pick up the phone or walk down the hall or street and say hello to someone who could just need to hear from you. You’ll likely make her day and yours in the process.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

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The Encouragement Multiplier

I’ll share a little secret with you: I really need encouragement – in challenging times and even when life is running smoothly. Maybe it’s human nature.

For me, I know that the best way to feel encouraged is to share encouragement with another person. It boosts all of those wonderful brain chemicals that make us feel empowered and connected. Even more, encouragement can be another person’s lifeline – and when you encourage one person, you start a positive ripple or virtuous circle.

What could be better than that. You boost another person, he passes it on, and you are elevated in the process.

Have a great day and encourage someone!

Warmly,
Anita

Encourage Others

It’s easy to want others to encourage you. At least, I do.

That said, when I need encouragement the most, I do my best to reach out to others and see how I can be a source of encouragement to them. When I do,  it’s a double benefit. The other individual feels better and I find that I am almost instantly encouraged and feel more engaged, confident, and determined.

So encourage someone today!

Warmly,
Anita

Be an Elevator!

There are people when you see them, you want to run in the other direction because you know you will be trenched in negativity.

On the other hand, there are people that make you smile just thinking about them. They are the best!

You get to choose how you want to be with others. My suggestion: elevate first, next, and always.

Warmly,
Anita

What’s Right in Front of You

I was with a group of friends recently. There was a lot of complaining about the state of the world, how big the problems are, and the impossible nature change. As I was about to get sucked into this vortex of negativity, I made myself pause and say a few things. “Guys,” I said. “Could we go down a different track? My mentor says this again and again, ‘Who is right in front of you? Help that person!’ This might not seem like a big deal, it is. Start with one and go from there.”

While there might have been some eye rolls, I felt better – and it was a reminder to me that when I feel I can’t make a difference, it’s just not true. See the person in front of you and smile and wave, say thank you, or go out for coffee and listen more than you speak.

Enjoy the day,
Anita

Handwritten Happiness

I will admit that I was not the best thank you note writer as a child. It was a bit of a tussle to get me to put my words of appreciation onto cards, put the cards into envelopes, and address them.

Yet that all flipped a number of years ago when I read a chapter in a book on writing that celebrating note writing. This actually changed my life forever – for the better.

From that point forward, I started writing cards, letters, and postcards – more than a thousand every year. I love, love, love to write them. My spirits rise, I feel more connected, and my confidence soars. What’s even better is that my appreciative feelings are felt by the receiver of my notes. They tell me in person, by phone, and in email.

It’s a small thing and the positive ripples are wonderful and far reaching.

Write! Bet you can’t send just one.

Have a great day,
Anita

To Achieve Your Goals Faster

What does it take to achieve a goal? Well, lots of things – from making the goal clear and concrete to actually taking a bunch of progressive babysteps?

So why doesn’t everyone take the steps to zoom through their goals? For me, personally, I stall out when I lack encouragement. Think of encouragement as someone or something that inspires courage (this is actually what the word means). I, and many others, just need a bit of a boost on the courage side and the action, momentum, and results are easier to create.

So if you need a little encouragement, find it. An even better idea: give encouragement to another person. Then you both get the boost.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

Judging Success

It’s a funny thing about another person’s success when you look at it at a specific point in time. You could easily gain a distorted view. Wherever you enter the picture, you could miss where the person started, the challenges he faced, and the courage he used to transform them.

In other words, you might judge instead of celebrating. The former could destroy a relationship before it starts and latter could be the beginning of a life-long friendship.

Have a great day,
Anita

Do You Prefer Success or Defeat?

On the surface, this could seem like a silly question. Who wouldn’t prefer success? Yet there are people (myself included at times) who create an environment that doesn’t support victories in one or more areas of life. This can include:

  • Not setting concrete goals or having actions accessible, doable, and repeatable – given the reality of your life.
  • Having the people closest to us bringing out your weakness rather than your strengths.

So, first decide if you want to succeed and if you do, dig down to know why.

From there, set supportive goals, create actions under your control, and develop relationships that benefit you and the other person.

Have a great day,
Anita

The Encouragement Multiplier

I believe that each of us needs encouragement and I am at the front of the line. For me, I find it in books, podcasts, and, most importantly, people. Yet I learned several years ago that (for me) encouragement is most powerful if I give it first – sincerely, specifically, and often. When I do, I am instantly encouraged. What a wonderful virtuous circle!

Enjoy your day,
Anita