Do You Choose Failure or Success?

Choosing failure or success? Does this seem like a  ridiculous question to even ask?

Yet some people defeat themselves in their hearts and minds first. What I can tell you, with considerable certainty, is that those around you will follow your lead and “help you fail”.

So, if you are pursuing a goal or dream, mobilize your skills, talents, and experiences – with lots of “evidence” of your capabilities. Pull out your list whenever you need a boost to strengthen your determination, conviction, and resolve.

Warmly,
Anita

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Obstacle: Friend or Foe?

Obstacles of any kind can bring up fear in the hearts of even the most courageous. This is especially true if everything is moving long and then BAM, a dreaded obstacle appears. At first, it’s easy to see it as barrier, stumbling block, obstruction, impediment, and a big old problem. I certainly do – and am not super proud of this.

That said, an obstacle is also a challenge and those are good for your goals, brain, and happiness. A challenge keeps you stimulated, moving ahead, and expanding your capacity, courage, and confidence. Sounds pretty good, right?

So the next time an obstacle shows up in your life in the form of an unwanted situation, difficult person, or even self-doubt, be upset for a nanosecond. Then explore how the obstacle could be just what you need, say “thank you”, and then get to work to make it your friend and ally.

Have a great day,
Anita

The Push Away Boomerang

It’s very “funny” about people, things, and circumstances we push away. The more we disregard or even reject someone or something, the more it shows up in our lives.

Instead of pushing something you don’t want, do this. First, embrace it (okay, I suspect, not what you hoped for). I am not saying love whatever it is, just pause and acknowledge the person or circumstance. Second, find the gift or learning and make the most of it.

When you do these things, you will accelerate through the less than pleasant time and get a better and better understanding of what you want. Then, focus on THAT – the good stuff.

Have a great day,
Anita

The Next Impossible

Each time I face something I haven’t achieved before, my brain goes to “it can’t be done” mode. Then I think of a myriad of reasons about how that goal is impossible. Just before I have totally convinced myself that I might as well do something else, my mentor’s voice booms in my head, “Impossible, Don’t tell me that. Focus. Develop wisdom to know what do. Then do it.”

“Ah yes,” I think to myself. I make myself recall a time when I truly believed something was impossible (like that I would ever be happy again after being crushed by a multi-ton elevator car). Then I remind myself of my victories – especially the tiny ones that seemed insignificant – and how each one was an essential part of my transformation.

So when you face your next impossible, remember when you made something that appeared impossible absolutely possible – with your focused vision, commitment, and tenacity.

Warmly,
Anita

The Story That Helps You Succeed

Stories are powerful, predictive, and persuasive. They influence your actions and those of others. The question is what story do you typically tell and what message is it sending?

There are the “poor me” stories (which I don’t recommend), while very convincing, reduce credibility, trust, and the likelihood of achieving your goals and dreams. On the other hand, is the “yes I hit a very challenging situation and actually used it to succeed” story. I really love these – they almost always display courage, tenacity, and resilience.

Here’s the kicker: the circumstance in both kinds are stories can be exactly the same. I’ve been there. After being crushed by an elevator, I told many “poor me” stories that ultimately did me no good. With time and much self-honesty, I started telling a “yes I hit a very challenging situation and actually used it to succeed” story. This was the best thing I could have done: it opened up a whole new world of happiness and success for me.

Have a great day,
Anita

The Success Destroyer

Complaints are a funny thing – they can feel really great in the moment and yet can actually derail your best efforts to achieve your goals and dreams.

Here’s how it usually goes. You start with a complaint – even a minor one. It things aren’t resolved, the complaint can grow and become a bit of resentment. If the resentment isn’t resolved, it can morph into a full-fledged grudge.

Grudges (even the ones you feel totally justified having) are like roadblocks. They stop you in your tracks and prevent you from becoming successful and happy.

Have a great day,
Anita

The Other Side of the Obstacle

When I was in the midst of a massive (no exaggeration) obstacle, my mentor told me to work to see beyond what was in my way. He reminded me that on the other side of an obstacle is often expanded opportunity, confidence, and capacity.

Sage advice and that’s exactly what happened for me – and can happen for you.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

Encouragement is Crucial

There are things that we can survive without, yet I believe that encouragement isn’t one of them. Encouragement could be the only thing standing between a person driving forward and giving up.

Be the person who is a source of encouragement for others and the impact of your efforts could go way farther than you might ever imagine.

Just do it today, tomorrow, and for years to come.

Warmly,
Anita

Goals, Concentration, and Success

I find it easy to create new goals and much harder to concentrate on one goal at a time. Yet, I know that focus will actually accelerate my success and open up the space to pursue another exciting goal.

The time, effort, and concentration I dedicate to a goal gives me more than a single accomplishment. There is an even greater benefit: it is who I become in the process of achieving the goal. I gain capacity, courage, and confidence for what’s next.

Have a great day,
Anita

How Confidence Wins Over Doubt

Well, let’s first talk about when confidence gets eroded. Whenever you begin to compare yourself to others, it’s really easy for your confidence to go down. Why wouldn’t it?!? There is invariably going to be at least one person who is more capable than you, me, and most others.

So, instead, zero in on your strengths and think about one area of your life where you are already really good. Focus on that and make this comparison – where you are today versus where you were yesterday. Even if you took a tiny step forward, you can celebrate the progress which WILL boost your capacity, courage, and confidence.

Have a great day,
Anita