A quick update:
MSA 22: Sometimes an MSA can come as a wonderful by-product of helping someone. I had a short conversation with a friend, which broadened my perspective, allowed me to assist my friend, and reminded me of the value I bring to others.
Enjoy your day,
I met with someone I have known for some time and have seen him create a vision for his future and then go about realizing it. The amazing thing is that my friend has done this more than once. It all started in the Middle East. He had a dream of going to university, but there were no funds. Not to be deterred, he found a way to create the resources and headed off to college in a foreign land. He went on to develop a successful career at a global company. Today is is well on his way to being a biotech entrepreneur who is developing social and economic value – bypassing the naysayers along the way..
So if you have a dream – like my friend – understand why it’s important to you, listen to feedback, but don’t let it stop you, and keep going. To paraphrase my friend, Take in the guidance you receive to strengthen you best and shore up the things that could destroy your dream. Above all, be all in and stay the course.
Win and report back.
This is a lifelong dilemma, who comes first – you or other people?
If others always come before you, you will burn out sooner or later – and could end up resenting others. Not good. On the other hand, if you think of yourself first – today, tomorrow, and forever, you could lose credibility, trust, and more than a few people close to you.
So, sometimes you are first and should be. Other times, individuals around you take precedent.
What’s most important is that you choose from your sense of purpose, compassion, and heart.
I do my best to say “thank you” when someone does something for me – from a colleague to a bus driver. Yet there are times when I am lost in my own challenges, doubts, and busyness and “forget”. I have come to realize that this is a lost opportunity – for me and the other person.
Even when people don’t reply or don’t seem to be paying attention, they usually are.
So keep saying “thank you” and you will change your world for the better.
It’s so easy to say “thank you” out of habit. If you do, it will collapse into a worthless cliche. Even worse is when you have resentment or even grudges bubbling below the surface and a friend encourage to feel grateful for that, too.
Ugh! This seems like a mean game where you can’t win, be happy, and live authentically.
Yet, I do believe there is a way out of this mess. What I can absolutely tell you is that this is not for the fainthearted. What I am suggesting is like training for an ultra marathon, running it, and starting the training all over again. It is exhausting, grueling, and sometimes yields no external acknowledgement. So PLEASE go for it again because, when you do, your transformation can change you, your world, and my world, too – for the better.
Forget gratitude? – not a chance, even if it occasionally does “slip my mind”.
Of course, never helping any friend is not a good idea. Yet, it is important to be sure you are not fixing your friend.
Listening, kind encouragement, and support are great to boost a person and help her gain courage, confidence, and resolve. This enables the other person to stand on her own and win – while knowing you are there.
Have a great day,
I was with a group of friends last evening and one person (who I don’t know that well) came up to me at the end of the gathering. She thanked me for a card I sent her recently. I was so glad that my words on paper and with a stamp made a big difference in her life and heart – mine, too.
Being nice in small and genuine ways can be really important – to another person and to you!
While mistakes can create good learning experiences, perhaps not all are necessary.
Here’s one big mistake you don’t need to make – and that is not asking for help when you need it. When you ask for support, you benefit two people: you (the person to receives the support) and the person so gives it. I would say that the person who is able to help you will feel valued, encouraged, and empowered.
Gratitude can be easy. Think of a gift that a friend gave you, a compliment from the love of your life, or a bonus when you completed a big project. You receive good stuff and “thank you” bursts forth with almost no effort. Keep that easy gratitude coming all the time. It’s awesome to have obvious, wonderful rewards coming from every which way. While this type of gratitude may be easy, you get “points” for acknowledging what you have received. Yet easy gratitude has its limits.
Next there is revolutionary gratitude. This is the type of appreciation that is nearly impossible to find because it is buried under negative people, circumstances, and other yucky things. What I am referring to are times when you think (and even say), “why me?” I experienced this when I was crushed and nearly severed in half by an elevator. On top of this, the elevator repairman went home and left the elevator on. His behavior nearly killed me and I was not happy with him – to say the least.
Yet, as long I couldn’t find some gratitude for him and the nightmare of being trapped in an elevator shaft and severely injured, my life was irrevocably stuck and miserable. I had to discover gratitude somewhere in my situation – my life depended on it.
In the end I did find gratitude – little by little. This gratitude was revolutionary – it took me through unbelievable pain into a place that was better than I ever could have imagined.
I wish you the ability to feel gratitude every day. Then share it!
Have a great day,
I once met a friend’s colleague (let’s call him John) whose goal was to die with the biggest pile of money. While it’s nice to have wealth to be able to accomplish what you want and give to others, riches by themselves are inadequate at best – and not a really strong motivator over time.
That said, John failed to realize his goal of giant piles of money. With his determination, I wondered why. When I asked one of my mentors, she told me that John lacked two things: a purpose greater than himself and the money and the relationships to make his goals a reality.
I don’t think I quite “got it” at the time and today I do. More valuable than gold are a purpose or mission (often based on a vow) and the advocates to help you get where you want to go, stay encouraged during the rough spots, and you celebrate your victories.
Have a great day,