Success Engagement

If you are like me, you find something you want to learn about and dive deeply into finding the person who can help you. My enthusiasm can take over and I need to remind myself that the person is an actual human being – way more than just a conduit to the resources and information I want and need.

When you authentically demonstrate that you value the other person – with care, respect, and appreciation – your opportunities can expand exponentially and you will feel wonderful in the process.

Have a great day,
Anita

Anita

The Gracious Success Connection

I was working with someone recently who was asking for my advice about a significant career transition. We spoke about a variety of things and after each idea, he responded with a tone of voice that made me feel like he thought it was a waste of his time. As this happened one after another after another item on our agenda, I was getting a bit fatigued – yet was committed to him and continued on.

Toward the end of our meeting, this individual told me he was so happy with the time we spent together and was recharged, motivated, and knew what steps to take. I must admit that I was really (pleasantly) surprised.

There are two lessons here: first, we shouldn’t take any one reaction as a critique of how everything is going and second (if you are the sender of feedback), check in to be sure that you are inserting a bit of gracious appreciation along the way.

Have a great day,
Anita

The Essential Actions for Success

Now that you have clarity about your goal, it’s essential that you begin to take action that is relevant, progressive, and doable. With that in mind, you will want to take (what I call) “performance babysteps”. These actions should be interesting to you, absolutely achievable within your schedule, priorities, and strengths, and completely under your control. For example, a performance babystep for me would be to research, write,and  post a blog post. With this example, I can complete these things without requiring someone else’s time, input, or response.

As a next step, think of your goal and what performance babystep you can begin taking today. Be sure to include the amount of time you will devote to this babystep and how often.

Warmly,
Anita

One Step Success

Okay, I don’t mean that you can take one tiny action and you will be successful. That would be completely unrealistic. What I mean, is that if each of us takes a step together – based on respect, we can succeed and create economic and social value. It will benefit many – starting with you.

Have a great day,
Anita

A Lifeline Halfway Around the World

Last week I met someone (now a new friend) who displayed more compassion than I have seen in a very long time. An acquaintance of hers fell ill thousands of miles away from home where he didn’t speak the language. My new friend mobilized a whole group of people – from her friends and family to individuals from Chicago Booth – to help her acquaintance.

The good news is that her acquaintance will be okay, but I believe not without the help of my new friend. One person taking a series of babysteps made a big difference.

Way to go, friend!

Have a great day,
Anita

Avoid This Success Stopper

Who would want a success stopper? Not me and I hope not you. So, anytime you catch yourself complaining about someone or something (even if you feel justified), turn it around. Find three thing of value in the person and three “gifts” in the not to your liking set of circumstances. When you do, you will expand your capacity, relationships, and much more good stuff.

Have a great day,
Anita

Happy for Others’ Successes?

I was with a group of friends the other day and my friend, Anna, was humbly sharing a rather big success in her life. As I watched the reactions around the room, it was rather mixed – from authentic delight to looks of “why is this happening to Anna and NOT me?”

While this is natural, what is the impact of one reaction over the other:

  • For the ““why is this happening to Anna and NOT me?” reaction, this is actually harmful, restrictive, and limiting. It could quickly become obvious that this person is a taker and only interested in “what’s in it me?”
  • With the individual who is genuinely happy for Anna, this demonstrates a real leader with a bright and promising future – filled with career advocates to help this person succeed.

Who are you most like?

Warmly,
Anita