The Generosity Bonus

Generosity is a wonderful thing. You can do it anywhere and anytime, using lots of money or none at all. The key is what is in your heart – giving without expecting anything in return. When you do, things you never thought possible can show up when you least expect them – and that’s half the fun, right?

So be generous – early and often. In the process, you will expand your opportunities, capacity, and many, many, other terrific things.

Have a great day,
Anita

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Momentum Magic

For some people taking small, consistent actions is a painfully slow way to reach a goal.

Yet this isn’t necessarily accurate. More important than the size of your step is whether you can actually complete it – again and again and again. If not, a big number times zero is still zero.

On the other hand, momentum is invaluable because as you develop a positive habit, you accelerate your progress, capabilities, and success.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

Don’t Be Left Out

When I was in school, I used to think that I was the only one not out on the weekend. Everyone in my dorm (or so I thought) was out having fun while I wasn’t.

Rather than sit back and be stuck inside, I decided to plan my own activities and I invited friends and people I wanted to have as friends. While not everyone said “yes” to my invitations, enough people did that we had fun and enjoyable times.

Then, someone I had known for a long time, asked me a totally unexpected question.”Anita,” she said. “How come you always have these great things to do on the weekend?” I paused and replied, “Since I wasn’t invited to the big deal activities I wanted to attend, I decided to create my own. You are welcome to join us whenever you want.”

My lesson:

I took myself out of the game since I didn’t express an interest. I just waited for something to make the first move – which didn’t happen, Then I decided to take the initiative to include others, not wait for them to include me.

Have a great day,
Anita

How Are You “Asking” to Be Treated?

Your behavior often “dictates” how individuals around you treat you.

Ask yourself: do you approach others from a sense of confidence or doubt?

If it is the latter, find ways to boost your sense of self worth and you may just see that others “upgraded” you with greater respect, trust, and positive acknowledgement.

Have a great day,
Anita

Conflict is Not a Contest

I will admit that I can be a “little” competitive at times. While this is good when playing a game and keeping score, it’s not so good when you have a conflict with another person.

A winner take all approach means that the solution is sub-optimal and that someone will need to lose.

It DOESN’T have to be that way.

Experiment with this: approach the other person with empathy, compassion, and heart. Then look for the underlying needs of you and the other person. Come up with a solution from that place and see how you can both “win”.

Have a great day,
Anita

Generosity Rules

I had a bit of a challenge as my day started. While it wasn’t huge, it was unsettling. Yet my day completely turned around for the better (BIG TIME) out of the generosity of two people – a stranger and a colleague. The first went of of his way to see that I had options with something that was broken and the second person found a way for me to have the object immediately replaced.

Their generosity of time, kindness, and heart made my day and gave me hope about the goodness of people in the world.

Thank you both!

Warmly,
Anita

Gratitude as a Shortcut

Gratitude is certainly a shortcut to many things  – as a start, greater wealth, happiness, and well-being.

Yet there is a catch: gratitude will yield little if you expect rewards. It will only come when you express gratitude without any strings attached. Then the goodies will overflow.

Gratitude is a shortcut and a paradox.

Have a great day,
Anita

The Power of Small Data

Many people talk about the power of big data and while this is true, it only tells one side of the story. Small data, or looking at an individual, can help you create value immediately. When you focus on appreciating, acknowledging, and/or improving the life of the person in front of you – you can have an impact right now. What’s more, the positive influence you have on that one individual can ripple out in ways you can even foresee. So what are you waiting for? Act now.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

See the Value

It a “funny” thing – when you see the positive value in others, your value, credibility, and opportunities increase. It’s really about reputation. Are you known as a person who is demanding, has a sense of entitlement, and never satisfied? Or, are you the individual seen as generous, appreciative, and supportive?

The first approach will have people staying away from you and be unwilling to help you. The second approach creates a foundation of short and long term relationships that can benefit you and others.

Have a great day,
Anita

What’s Right in Front of You

I was with a group of friends recently. There was a lot of complaining about the state of the world, how big the problems are, and the impossible nature change. As I was about to get sucked into this vortex of negativity, I made myself pause and say a few things. “Guys,” I said. “Could we go down a different track? My mentor says this again and again, ‘Who is right in front of you? Help that person!’ This might not seem like a big deal, it is. Start with one and go from there.”

While there might have been some eye rolls, I felt better – and it was a reminder to me that when I feel I can’t make a difference, it’s just not true. See the person in front of you and smile and wave, say thank you, or go out for coffee and listen more than you speak.

Enjoy the day,
Anita