The Power of the Prize

I find it fascinating how many people set really big goals and “forget” the focus, determination, and work needed to win the prize. Some experts will even sell you the idea that anyone can do achieve the people with minimal effort.

Nothing is achieved without committed, consistent, and determined practice – and this is actually a good thing. “WHAT?” you may wonder. “Isn’t it good to get awesome stuff now without tons of action?”

I would say “No!” You, me, and the rest of the world needs trials, efforts, and resets to help us grow, advance, and be prepared for the successes that follow. Without the challenges, pivots, and enhanced courage, commitment, and confidence, each of us will likely end up bored, disenchanted, and disengaged.

I want you to be happy, contributing, and exciting about making a positive difference in your life and those around you. That’s the Power of the Prize. Go for it!

Enjoy your day,


How Are You “Asking” to Be Treated?

Your behavior often “dictates” how individuals around you treat you.

Ask yourself: do you approach others from a sense of confidence or doubt?

If it is the latter, find ways to boost your sense of self worth and you may just see that others “upgraded” you with greater respect, trust, and positive acknowledgement.

Have a great day,

Sharpen Your Goal

Last week, I was teaching a class to new MBA students (by the way, an amazing group of people). One of the things we discussed, was how to craft a powerful goal.

While you likely know all about making it concrete, specific, and measurable, that isn’t quite enough. What is absolutely crucial is that your goal is understandable to others – not that you hope it is, but that it actually is. When you do, others can help you accomplish your goal – faster, better, and with greater success.

Enjoy your day,

Reasonable Actions Create Greater Success

A lot of people believe that big actions yield big results – and this is true IF you are able to take so large steps.

Yet, if you can’t, won’t, and/or aren’t making progress – reasonable actions are SO much better. You score the win, feel accomplished, and increase your courage, confidence, and commitment. What’s more, you could get to your goal even faster than you even expect.

While reasonable it’s flashy, it is effective.

Thanks for the tip, Mary!

Enjoy your day,

The Power of Keeping Commitments

It’s so interesting about what can move your life ahead. One of the powerful things is also the simplest (although not easy). It is keeping your commitments.

This means doing what you say you are going to do, when you say you will do it. It requires many things, but two big ones come to mind:

  • Say “yes” to things you will actually do and “no” to things you might want to or feel pressured to do and will NEVER do.
  • Take doable and progressive action to keep your promise – and if something looks like it will prevent you from keeping your commitment, let the other person know as soon as you can.

When you keep your commitments, you establish greater consistency, credibility, and trust – which do a whole host of positive things for you, your relationships, and life as a whole.

Enjoy your day,

Turning Stagnation into Greater Success

It’s a funny thing about stagnation. It doesn’t wave its hands, jump up and down, and let you know what’s happening. Lack of progress just creeps up on you in tiny and then bigger ways. It can show up as a lack of energy, lower commitment to whatever you are doing, and even complaining.

So what is a person to do? There are a few ideas to get you started:

  • Zero in on something that increases your energy when you do it. Align it to how and where you spend you time.
  • Decide if your goals are still meaningful to you. Do you still want to achieve them?
  • If you notice yourself complaining about others (or even yourself), STOP!. Then find one thing you value about yourself, the other person, and/or your current circumstances and act on it.

This can reverse a downward trend and help you create positive momentum.

Have a good day,

How Valuable Are You?

If someone asked you the question,”How valuable are you?” – what would you say? Would you list off your degrees, jobs, and accomplishments?

While these have their place, there is something more. Your worth is a combination of things you can easily measure (like your compensation) AND your attitude and behavior. In today’s world, opportunities are given to those who display both competence and warmth. Competence will open a door and warmth make others want you to stay.

How do you show competence and warmth in your life?

Have a wonderful weekend,

Finish What You Start

It’s a funny thing with the brain. When you set actions you actually achieve, your brain rewards you with neurobiological chemicals that empower you to do more. The motivation to keep advancing is internal and requires little to no sustained willpower. On top of all this, your brain doesn’t really even care about the size of the action – as long as its achievement is important to you.

So set an action you can finish and reap the rewards early and often.

Have a great day,

If Your Goals Aren’t Happening . . .Yet!

I was on vacation in August and met someone over dinner on the train from Washington, DC. She is an activate flight attendant, with a major airline, and has been for 45 years. Quite the accomplishment!

That said, she had been trying to lose a few pounds for a number of years and hadn’t been able to achieve that goal. I shared a little about an approach with her I use when my goals stall out that doesn’t require or even welcome willpower over time. She looked a bit skeptical, but open.

I suggested that she start with a tiny action that is impossible not to accomplish.

As she was nodding in agreement, the server brought her two small bottles of wine. She eyed them sheepishly and said, “Okay, I can start taking one of your babysteps tomorrow to help me with my goal.”

“Or,” I suggested. “Why not leave one sip of wine in one of the bottles – that’s a step in the right direction.”

That’s just what she did. She took one action that was impossible to not to do. Completing any task, even teeny tiny ones, makes your brain release feel good chemicals – a wonderful incentive to take the next babystep and so on and so on.

Please experiment and report back.


Winning the BIG Game

Most people want their big shot and yet they often don’t do what actually needs to be done to succeed. At a basic level, you will want to do the following:

  • Create a goal – what do you want to do?
  • Know your why – in what ways is this goal important to you?
  • Write down your action – what step can you take that you have complete control over and how much time will you devote to this?
  • Track your progress – how far have you come and what’s next?
  • Express gratitude – who has helped you and how can you thank them?

When you do these things, you considerably up your chances of winning “the big game” – whatever that is for you. What will do today – for even a few minutes to get started?

Have a great day,