The Push Away Boomerang

It’s very “funny” about people, things, and circumstances we push away. The more we disregard or even reject someone or something, the more it shows up in our lives.

Instead of pushing something you don’t want, do this. First, embrace it (okay, I suspect, not what you hoped for). I am not saying love whatever it is, just pause and acknowledge the person or circumstance. Second, find the gift or learning and make the most of it.

When you do these things, you will accelerate through the less than pleasant time and get a better and better understanding of what you want. Then, focus on THAT – the good stuff.

Have a great day,
Anita

The Next Impossible

Each time I face something I haven’t achieved before, my brain goes to “it can’t be done” mode. Then I think of a myriad of reasons about how that goal is impossible. Just before I have totally convinced myself that I might as well do something else, my mentor’s voice booms in my head, “Impossible, Don’t tell me that. Focus. Develop wisdom to know what do. Then do it.”

“Ah yes,” I think to myself. I make myself recall a time when I truly believed something was impossible (like that I would ever be happy again after being crushed by a multi-ton elevator car). Then I remind myself of my victories – especially the tiny ones that seemed insignificant – and how each one was an essential part of my transformation.

So when you face your next impossible, remember when you made something that appeared impossible absolutely possible – with your focused vision, commitment, and tenacity.

Warmly,
Anita

The Best Starting Point

One of my mentors kept pushing me to go deeper, broader, and better each time I met with him. I will admit that his “mantra” for me got tiring and made me not want to meet with him. Yet after awhile, I realized that he was asking me to create a better self tomorrow than I am today – and that the best starting point is the highest level I had achieved so far. Stellar advice for each of us.

Create a great new starting point today,
Anita

The Success Destroyer

Complaints are a funny thing – they can feel really great in the moment and yet can actually derail your best efforts to achieve your goals and dreams.

Here’s how it usually goes. You start with a complaint – even a minor one. It things aren’t resolved, the complaint can grow and become a bit of resentment. If the resentment isn’t resolved, it can morph into a full-fledged grudge.

Grudges (even the ones you feel totally justified having) are like roadblocks. They stop you in your tracks and prevent you from becoming successful and happy.

Have a great day,
Anita

Set a Bigger Goal

Recently, I was struggling to achieve a specific goal I had been working on for a long time. I couldn’t for the life of me figure out what was wrong. I blamed myself – too lazy, not committed, missing something to carry things through to the finish.

While my self-assessment may have been accurate, it wasn’t the whole story. I soon realized that my goal was too tiny and didn’t inspire me. So I made my goal bigger – not impossible, but enough of a stretch to drive me ahead.

Updates to follow.

Have a great day,
Anita

Goals, Concentration, and Success

I find it easy to create new goals and much harder to concentrate on one goal at a time. Yet, I know that focus will actually accelerate my success and open up the space to pursue another exciting goal.

The time, effort, and concentration I dedicate to a goal gives me more than a single accomplishment. There is an even greater benefit: it is who I become in the process of achieving the goal. I gain capacity, courage, and confidence for what’s next.

Have a great day,
Anita

How Confidence Wins Over Doubt

Well, let’s first talk about when confidence gets eroded. Whenever you begin to compare yourself to others, it’s really easy for your confidence to go down. Why wouldn’t it?!? There is invariably going to be at least one person who is more capable than you, me, and most others.

So, instead, zero in on your strengths and think about one area of your life where you are already really good. Focus on that and make this comparison – where you are today versus where you were yesterday. Even if you took a tiny step forward, you can celebrate the progress which WILL boost your capacity, courage, and confidence.

Have a great day,
Anita