Valuing Others Can Help You

How do you treat people who can no longer give you something important? Are they relegated to a dusty shelf somewhere or do elevate them to an even higher status?

Which approach you take might just predict how healthy you will be during your lifetime. Researchers from Temple University found that individuals who view people at replaceable as the latest and greatest device are likely to suffer from a variety of health problems even if they live a so-called “healthy” life.

Embracing and finding the continuing value in each person’s life can be a priceless elixir. Drink up.



Your Living Mission

It has been said: “Everyone has a unique mission.” While I believe this in the depths of my life, understanding my specific mission is another story.

On one particularly frustrating day I quizzed a wise friend about my mission “confusion”. “Anita,” Jay told me, “your mission is not confined to one place or activity. Start with a dream.  Add your strengths. Apply them at home and at work. You will experience your mission.”

“Okay,” I replied not really believing Jay. Yet I still gave it a shot – and Jay was right. My home, work, and community are great places to live my mission. You can, too.

Take one action toward your dream today and observe how your mission can unfold.


Are You Intimidated by Your Goals?

It was once said, “The ocean is made of drops.” So are your dreams.

If there is something that you really desire but are intimidated by, all that stands between you and your dream.

Realize that you control the pace. You can take lots of steps or just a few at a time. It’s all up to you. Either way, you will make progress as long as you exert yourself each and every day.

Enjoy your progress today,

12000 Volts of Encouragement

While recovering in the hospital after being crushed by an elevator, I met an extraordinary man. Melvin’s both arms and legs had been burned off after 12000 volts of electricity went through his body.

During an interview for a local cable show I wondered how he kept up his own spirits. “Anita,” he told me, “I was feeling really sorry for myself just this morning. I momentarily wished I had died. I stopped myself and wheeled myself down the hall to cheer up someone else. I made his day and that made my day.”

So the next time you are feeling sorry for yourself, pick up the phone or walk down the hall or street and say hello to someone who could just need to hear from you. You’ll likely make her day and yours in the process.

Enjoy your day,

Never Say Never

I recently overhear two men in an elevator say the following: “George, there are just no wise people where I work. People have gotten really stupid and thoughtless – and I let the people I work with know that.”

I figured that George would shrug and begin talking about last night ball game, so his response surprised me: “Ted, I don’t think that wisdom is a thing of the past, there’s not much room for it – the world is so filled with judgment.” And then there was silence.


Always/Never Enough?!?

Many people believe that they don’t have enough money, must get more, and really will only be satisfied when they have more than enough.

What that means is different depending on who you are and where you start. Yet one thing is universal – “more than enough” is vague, indefinite, and unreachable regardless of who you are.

So if you are frustrated by never having more than enough – consider what they would actually be. In the process, you might find that you have more than enough right now.

Have a wonderful day,

“But I Should Have . . .”

“I should have a better career,” a coaching client recently told me.

Instead of responding, I was quiet and let him continue. As this man talked for the next 50 minute, he came to a completely different conclusion. “Anita,” he concluded, “given what I have done and not done in my career – I guess I’m exactly where I should be.”

This individual went from complaining about his “fate” to realizing that if he wanted a better career, he would need to change from within and perform differently.

So what “should” you have and what can you begin doing today to make it a reality?


What Matters to You

Do you know what really matters to you? Do you live your life based on those “ideals”?

Some people need a trauma or loss to gain clarity and focus on what’s really important to them. You don’t have to wait for such an event.

Sit down for 15 minutes today – at lunch, on the bus, or any time that’s convenient. Write down the top 10 most important people and projects in your life. Then make another list – include in that list the 10 people and projects consuming your time. Are the lists in sync? If not, realign you time to focus on what really matters to you.

Have a great day,

Where Change is Possible

The present is the place where change is possible. But it’s tempting to peek to the future or look over your shoulder to review the past. Yet to do so, could likely make you less effective overall and dissatisfied with whatever you are doing right now no matter how terrific it is.

So practice staying in the present for at least 5 minutes each day. The potential rewards are enormous, so stay here long enough to receive them.

Have a great weekend,

Imagine Success

What is planning?

For the strategy consultant, conducting studies to support whatever is undertaken must come first. To the financial analyst, “running the numbers” to ensure that the net present value of the project is greater than zero is a given. And for the product manager, analyzing the target audience for economic viability is of primary concern.

Yet without imagination, the excitement of possibilities that drive innovation and true success will die and planning will have no purpose.

The great news is that each of us has the capacity and opportunity to dream. So spend 15 minutes today as a “the chief visionary officer.”

Have a successful day,