Valuing Others Can Help You

How do you treat people who can no longer give you something important? Are they relegated to a dusty shelf somewhere or do elevate them to an even higher status?

Which approach you take might just predict how healthy you will be during your lifetime. Researchers from Temple University found that individuals who view people at replaceable as the latest and greatest device are likely to suffer from a variety of health problems even if they live a so-called “healthy” life.

Embracing and finding the continuing value in each person’s life can be a priceless elixir. Drink up.

Warmly,
Anita

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Don’t Wait for a Crisis

“I feel like I went to my funeral and then lived,” a colleague shared recently.

After friends and colleagues found out that he had been diagnosed with a deadly disease, many told him how they felt about him. “I was extremely joyful, yet humbled by all they said,” he told me. I could tell that it meant a lot to him. Who knows – the comments could have been a powerful “medicine” that has helped with his recovery.

So don’t wait for a “crisis” to tell those you care about how much they mean to you, call or write to someone today – and when people tell you good things about you, listen up.

Enjoy your day and life,
Anita

Your Living Mission

It has been said: “Everyone has a unique mission.” While I believe this in the depths of my life, understanding my specific mission is another story.

On one particularly frustrating day I quizzed a wise friend about my mission “confusion”. “Anita,” Jay told me, “your mission is not confined to one place or activity. Start with a dream.  Add your strengths. Apply them at home and at work. You will experience your mission.”

“Okay,” I replied not really believing Jay. Yet I still gave it a shot – and Jay was right. My home, work, and community are great places to live my mission. You can, too.

Take one action toward your dream today and observe how your mission can unfold.

Warmly,
Anita

Happiness for You

Have a happiness party with your friends.

Get some crayons, markers, glue, stickers, watercolors, glitter, and old magazines and even printed images from your device. Don’t forget oversized construction paper, card stock, or folders. Invite some friends over to create “Happiness Collages.”

Your mission to create an image of what happiness means to you. Use pictures, words, and squiggles of color to show what happiness means to you. Then post your collage where you can see it every day and watch your happiness sprout in ways you can’t even imagine.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

Which Direction?

Are you achieving the goals that are important to you? If yes, congrats! Yet if you are not living your goals and dreams, pause for a moment and ask yourself “why?”

While there may be many “reasons”, one common one is having goals and dreams that are in conflict with one another.

So look at your goals and dreams, are any two sending you in opposite directions? If so, consider modifying the ones that create the conflict. Then you can proceed with focus, single-minded determination, and a sense of fun.

Have a great day,
Anita

Life’s a Game – Or Is It?

Some people firmly believe that life is a game and each of us is meant to play it full out. This approach can be exhilarating, yet it can also be devastating when life’s game isn’t scoring in your favor. Consider looking it as a gift, one that you get to “unwrap” a little each day and discover the goodies inside. While you might not appreciate the value of each experience at first glance, seek to find the best “present”. How can you do this today?

Thanks,
Anita

Are You the Next Lego?

Do you ever get discouraged and consider giving up on something that you desire? Virtually every successful person has considered quitting at one point or another.

There’s a whole army of people, “the faultfinders,” who would love to see you give up. They may attempt to convince you that your goals aren’t worth the effort. They may push you to quit.

Your best defense is a clear understanding of why your goals and dreams are important to you. So if one of “the faultfinders” comes to your door, you’ll be prepared. Tell them to go away. As you close the door, let them know that Disney and Lego were considered foolish ventures doomed to failure.

Have a great day,
Anita

The Power of Thanks

“Thanks” is one of the most powerful words in the universe. For a study on the power of gratitude, 75% of a group of “at risk” young men in Boston went from angry and violent to individuals with a sense of purpose who began to create positive value with their lives.

Each day these young men asked themselves three things, “What did I receive today? What did I give back? Who could I thank right now?” Today, ask yourself those questions and see how it makes you feel and act.

Have a great day,

Anita

Meet Your Dreams!

I work with many people who are dissatisfied with their jobs and are unhappy about earlier decisions they made.

In our coaching sessions, I usually ask them the following: “Why do you want this job and how will it help you prepare for where you want to be in 10 years?” As they develop the answers to those questions, they are creating a vision of their future.

Instead of being stuck in the past or making a move out of boredom or frustration, their decisions are clear, strategic, and effective. So think about your future. Where do you want to be within the next 10 years – personally and professionally? What will you need to do to prepare? Take one small step today to begin or continue your “training”.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

Invite Help

Some people believe that if they don’t “discover” the solution all on their own, they are diminished and have failed. Not only is this attitude self-defeating, it’s actually arrogant. By not allowing others to help you, you cheat them of the good feelings they would receive from making a contribution.

So who would enjoy helping you today? Make the most of their assistance. And of course, show your appreciation with a kind word, hug, or even thank you gift. Choose whatever is appropriate for the situation and the relationship.

Have a great day,
Anita