I was with a group of friends recently. There was a lot of complaining about the state of the world, how big the problems are, and the impossible nature change. As I was about to get sucked into this vortex of negativity, I made myself pause and say a few things. “Guys,” I said. “Could we go down a different track? My mentor says this again and again, ‘Who is right in front of you? Help that person!’ This might not seem like a big deal, it is. Start with one and go from there.”
While there might have been some eye rolls, I felt better – and it was a reminder to me that when I feel I can’t make a difference, it’s just not true. See the person in front of you and smile and wave, say thank you, or go out for coffee and listen more than you speak.
Enjoy the day,
I will admit that I was not the best thank you note writer as a child. It was a bit of a tussle to get me to put my words of appreciation onto cards, put the cards into envelopes, and address them.
Yet that all flipped a number of years ago when I read a chapter in a book on writing that celebrating note writing. This actually changed my life forever – for the better.
From that point forward, I started writing cards, letters, and postcards – more than a thousand every year. I love, love, love to write them. My spirits rise, I feel more connected, and my confidence soars. What’s even better is that my appreciative feelings are felt by the receiver of my notes. They tell me in person, by phone, and in email.
It’s a small thing and the positive ripples are wonderful and far reaching.
Write! Bet you can’t send just one.
Have a great day,
When people want to increase their success, they immediately drive to take concrete action: network more, sell, sell, sell, or even build a plan with lots of details. While these things have their place, without one important element they can leave you frustrated, exhausted, and disappointed. If left unchecked, those negative feelings can grow into doubt, resentment, and even grudges.
Yet, there is a solution. It costs little to nothing, it’s accessible to everyone, and the impact is instantaneous. That’s gratitude.
Today find the value in each person, situation, and experience. Start with the “easy” ones and work up to the more challenging circumstances. Your brain for support and reward your feeling and expressing gratitude.
Have a wonderful day,
Most people want their big shot and yet they often don’t do what actually needs to be done to succeed. At a basic level, you will want to do the following:
- Create a goal – what do you want to do?
- Know your why – in what ways is this goal important to you?
- Write down your action – what step can you take that you have complete control over and how much time will you devote to this?
- Track your progress – how far have you come and what’s next?
- Express gratitude – who has helped you and how can you thank them?
When you do these things, you considerably up your chances of winning “the big game” – whatever that is for you. What will do today – for even a few minutes to get started?
Have a great day,
Today is the birthday of three special people in my life. The two friends I have known for a long time and each has made my life better in too many ways to even count. The third person I have known for my whole life and that’s my mother. Her love and strict discipline have helped make me who I am today. A BIG Thank You and Happy Birthday to all three!!
Pause for a moment today and think about people who mean a lot to you – personally and/or professionally. Tell them – today, tomorrow, and forever!
Enjoy your day and life,
I see this in myself and others. When faced with a challenge, there are two primary options: one is to escape the situation and the other is to grab it and use the situation to accelerate your growth, courage, and advancement.
While I can’t say why any individual chooses one over the other – with me it’s clear. Fear makes me want to run in the other direction of the obstacle.
Yet, when I pause and actually look at the specifics of my circumstances, I can see the value of jumping in and make challenge the source of my success. Then I run toward it with a little trepidation – but mostly energy, excitement and positive anticipation.
Enjoy your day,
I hear this again and again – “Go big or go home.” Unfortunately, most people choose too big and give up.
What if you approach your goals and the actions you will take a bit differently? Experiment. Go small. Do what you can absolutely today – given your skills, experience, and time.
If small is still too big. Keep going smaller.
In the end, going small will actually help you go BIG.
Choosing failure or success? Does this seem like a ridiculous question to even ask?
Yet some people defeat themselves in their hearts and minds first. What I can tell you, with considerable certainty, is that those around you will follow your lead and “help you fail”.
So, if you are pursuing a goal or dream, mobilize your skills, talents, and experiences – with lots of “evidence” of your capabilities. Pull out your list whenever you need a boost to strengthen your determination, conviction, and resolve.
Obstacles of any kind can bring up fear in the hearts of even the most courageous. This is especially true if everything is moving long and then BAM, a dreaded obstacle appears. At first, it’s easy to see it as barrier, stumbling block, obstruction, impediment, and a big old problem. I certainly do – and am not super proud of this.
That said, an obstacle is also a challenge and those are good for your goals, brain, and happiness. A challenge keeps you stimulated, moving ahead, and expanding your capacity, courage, and confidence. Sounds pretty good, right?
So the next time an obstacle shows up in your life in the form of an unwanted situation, difficult person, or even self-doubt, be upset for a nanosecond. Then explore how the obstacle could be just what you need, say “thank you”, and then get to work to make it your friend and ally.
Have a great day,
It’s really funny about certain (not so good) habits. They can seem innocuous on the surface and yet can stall out our success, joy, and happiness. A big one is complaining. I never thought about the super seriousness of the consequences of complaining until I heard a friend, Barbara, speak recently. She actually pointed out that complaining (among other things) is a form of passive violence. Whoa!
While this was rather startling, there was a really positive side as well. Barbara talked about how when we diminish passive forms of violence, the implications are powerful for each of us, our families, our schools, our communities and the world.
So if you banish complaining – beginning right NOW, you stop draining your success, happiness, and much more.