Ask For What You Want

I was chatting with a friend, Jon, the other day and he was so excited about a new job opportunity at work. He has wanted to make a career change for the last three years, but the market has obviously been tight for career changers. The surprising thing for me is that the change that he’s making is inside of his current company. “How’d you do it?” I asked. “Three things – first, I made friends across functions which helped a lot,” he told me. “Then, I did a great job on any cross-functional projects I worked on. Yet the deciding factor for my new manager is that I asked.”

While asking won’t work on its own, it is crucial for anything that you want. And, when you receive what you ask for, remember to say “thank you” – it’s a nice touch and sends buyer’s remorse packing.

Have a great Tuesday,
Anita

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The Appreciation Edge

All men have the same share of happiness. Napoleon Bonaparte

So why is it that some people seem to enjoy life most of the time while others struggle and suffer?  While rough circumstances are a factor, more important is the person’s sense of appreciation for what she does have – rather than complaining, wasting energy, and getting caught up in negativity. What do you appreciate today? Write it down and share it with others.

Thanks,
Anita

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Do You Need a Break?

Time Out!!!  The Ref

What do you do when you need a breather?

When you feel overwhelmed, take a break from whatever is causing the pressure and do a task that will please you and bring instant gratification. Have a cup of coffee. Organize a stack of papers. Practice deep breathing. You can then return to the bigger tasks with renewed energy, confidence, and a sense of accomplishment. Use these feelings and attitude to succeed at whatever you do next.

Have a great day,
Anita

A Pillar of Success Under Construction – Help Wanted

On the bus again – this time I am on my way home. Today, like virtually every day, I am (nearly) obsessed with gratitude. It’s not that I am Pollyanna (although I can be at times,) more about understanding power of thank you and encouragement to change lives – including mine.

I write cards – handwritten, retro, from the heart messages. When I first started my note writing, it was spontaneous, sincere, and fantastic for me. I got so much out of it, I would volunteer to write thank you notes for panelists, etc. at work – still do.

What surprised me – big time – was how much others (the receiver of my notes) gained. All ages, genders, backgrounds love them. From my 101 year old great aunt to my 9 year old nephew to my tough as nails friend.

My big question is how to share gratitude in ways that inspire others to do the same – could be cards, but also many other ways. Make it easy – how? Make it accessible – how? And make it fun – double how?

Your suggestions are absolutely WELCOME.

Thanks in advance,
Anita

Need an Answer, Take a Break

Ever feel “guilty” just sitting around and thinking? Worry that someone might catch you doing nothing? Often it’s the so-called down times when important questions arise, followed by terrific answers. So the next time you need a short break, take it. You will likely get some rest and maybe even a bonus breakthrough.

Thanks,
Anita

Making Appreciation More than the Numbers

Many people talk about appreciation. Some even keep gratitude journals to count their blessings on paper. Yet there is more. While it’s great to feel appreciation, expressing it brings thing full circle. Today, go out and say “thanks” to someone important to you. His or her life will be enhanced and so will yours.

Thanks,
Anita

Is Your Success Being Derailed?

A wise friend once told me, “Complaining steals your good fortune – love, health, success – all that good stuff.” Not so humbly I thought what he said was a crock. Little grumbles, bits of gossip here and there, sharing a story about an annoying acquaintance – what harm is there?

What I have come to learn is that my friend is right – complaining robs us of time that could be better spent adding positive value to ourselves and our world. And – at a very practical level – making a practice of sharing negative thoughts with others ultimately separates us from the people and resources we want and need to make our goals and dreams a reality.

Have a happy (and complaint free day,)
Anita

Who’s Got Your Back?

February 16th is a transformative day in my life. Back in the 1990’s I was crushed by an elevator car on my way to make a presentation. It changed my life forever – first very negatively and ultimately in extremely beneficial ways. One of the most important “medicines,” was wonderful people. They supported me, pushed me, and encouraged me to not just bounce back but to go beyond what I believed was possible. For all of you (and I hope you know who you are)  – Thank you from the bottom of my heart!

My promise to each of you is to know that I have your back.

Have a great Wednesday,
Anita

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Are You Stealing Your Own Good Fortune?

Which are you – appreciative of what someone offers or feeling “cheated” for what you didn’t get? While I do my best to feel happy when someone shares his time, knowledge, and connections with me, sometimes I feel annoyed that the person didn’t do more.

I began to notice that when I was unappreciative, the other person felt resentful of me and was less likely to help me in the future. So today, say “thank you” for what you receive – do it genuinely, happily, and specifically. Then the good stuff in your life will expand and you will have even more to feel grateful for.

Thanks,
Anita

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The Success and Happiness Multiplier

I received an email this morning from an alumnus from the University of Chicago Booth School of Business. He thanked me for a card I had sent him and he went on to share with me the power of handwritten communication in an ultra wired world. “I know people,” he said, “who claim that writing such a note on every day of their life has dramatically improved their life by making them more appreciative, letting people know how they feel, and generally sharing small pieces of joy.”

I would agree with his friends. When we look around and find things we value in others and share with them what they see – they feel better on so many levels and so do we.

Appreciation, in the form of handwritten notes (or in whatever ways you like,) increase a person’s happiness and confidence to succeed – in the moment and far beyond. Then these good feelings ripple out into the world in ways we can’t even begin to foresee.

Share a little thankfulness with another today and watch your success and happiness multiply.

Have a great weekend,
Anita

Write an Encouragizer Note and Positively Change Your Life