Beyond Gratitude

I am a big believer in gratitude. If a person can’t find things to feel grateful for, life often becomes an endless slog. I understand that.

While feeling gratitude is essential, it’s incomplete. Feeling gratitude impacts you alone, while expressing gratitude impacts both you and the other person. It takes compassion, courage, and care to share appreciation and the impact is far reaching – in ways you can’t even begin to imagine.

So express gratitude sincerely, specifically, and concretely – and often!!!

Warmly,
Anita

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The Power of Small Data

Many people talk about the power of big data and while this is true, it only tells one side of the story. Small data, or looking at an individual, can help you create value immediately. When you focus on appreciating, acknowledging, and/or improving the life of the person in front of you – you can have an impact right now. What’s more, the positive influence you have on that one individual can ripple out in ways you can even foresee. So what are you waiting for? Act now.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

What’s Right in Front of You

I was with a group of friends recently. There was a lot of complaining about the state of the world, how big the problems are, and the impossible nature change. As I was about to get sucked into this vortex of negativity, I made myself pause and say a few things. “Guys,” I said. “Could we go down a different track? My mentor says this again and again, ‘Who is right in front of you? Help that person!’ This might not seem like a big deal, it is. Start with one and go from there.”

While there might have been some eye rolls, I felt better – and it was a reminder to me that when I feel I can’t make a difference, it’s just not true. See the person in front of you and smile and wave, say thank you, or go out for coffee and listen more than you speak.

Enjoy the day,
Anita

To Increase Your Success – Do This!

When people want to increase their success, they immediately drive to take concrete action: network more, sell, sell, sell, or even build a plan with lots of details. While these things have their place, without one important element they can leave you frustrated, exhausted, and disappointed. If left unchecked, those negative feelings can grow into doubt, resentment, and even grudges.

Yet, there is a solution. It costs little to nothing, it’s accessible to everyone, and the impact is instantaneous. That’s gratitude.

Today find the value in each person, situation, and experience. Start with the “easy” ones and work up to the more challenging circumstances. Your brain for support and reward your feeling and expressing gratitude.

Have a wonderful day,
Anita

Do You Seek to Escape or Accelerate?

I see this in myself and others. When faced with a challenge, there are two primary options: one is to escape the situation and the other is to grab it and use the situation to accelerate your growth, courage, and advancement.

While I can’t say why any individual chooses one over the other – with me it’s clear. Fear makes me want to run in the other direction of the obstacle.

Yet, when I pause and actually look at the specifics of my circumstances, I can see the value of jumping in and make challenge the source of my success. Then I run toward it with a little trepidation – but mostly energy, excitement and positive anticipation.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

Boldly and Successfully Authentic

One of the most difficult thing that you do is be authentic. It takes tremendous courage – and you can’t fake it, at least not for very long.

So do yourself a favor, be more of yourself – at least a bit each day. You will advance more quickly and those of us around you will reap the rewards of knowing the real you.

Go boldly,
Anita

The Cure for the Appreciation Deficit

We live in a world where the biggest deficit isn’t what you might think. It’s not related to money, but appreciation. Most people feel undervalued – really unappreciated. This is actually an epidemic – and a wonderful opportunity if you up your authentic thank yous. Let others know how much you gained from them. Be specific and concrete. If each of us does this, even a little bit, we can shrink the appreciation deficit overnight.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

Thank You, Too.

I was working on a short presentation on “thank you” with my friend, Melissa, the last few days. The time we spent was fun, thought-provoking, and profound.

It’s a funny thing about “thank yous”. For the words to be meaningful, connected, and moving, they MUST be sincere – with no expectation of receiving anything in return. Yet if we authentically share a “thank you” with another person, it will come back a thousand fold and make us better in the process.

Thank you, Melissa. You made my week.

Enjoy the day,
Anita

Do You Choose Failure or Success?

Choosing failure or success? Does this seem like a  ridiculous question to even ask?

Yet some people defeat themselves in their hearts and minds first. What I can tell you, with considerable certainty, is that those around you will follow your lead and “help you fail”.

So, if you are pursuing a goal or dream, mobilize your skills, talents, and experiences – with lots of “evidence” of your capabilities. Pull out your list whenever you need a boost to strengthen your determination, conviction, and resolve.

Warmly,
Anita

Challenge and Positive Change

Challenge is a word that can be exhilarating and yet a little scary. What achievement has ever been accomplished without challenges of one kind or another. So if you aren’t advancing the way you would like to, where can you create a challenge to help you step up, move forward, and realize a goal or dream that has appeared out of reach? Take one babystep today. Then throw up your hands and shout “Ta Dah!”.

Have a great day,
Anita