Divisiveness Starts From Within

I hear again and again: that the world is divisive. Some people believe that this serious discord is caused by our institutions and if only they would change, the world would be better. At some level, those individuals are right – and it’s far from the whole story.

Organizations are made up of people, so what if each of us looks at any “disunity” inside our own heart? I have seen when the change emanates from within, the environment changes for the better.

Do it as an experiment.

Warmly,
Anita

Share Some Confidence

If you’ve ever read or heard another person’s story and it inspired you to take action where you had previously been stalled, you borrowed a bit of confidence. While you eventually needed to build your own confidence, in the short term you could ride on the tail of an individual’s triumph over a challenge.

I can tell you, from first hand experience, that learning about others’ tales, of turning obstacles into a success, was a lifeline for me in one of the most difficult times in my life. I will be eternally grateful.

So, what’s your story? Who can you encourage by sharing it? Do so and you share a bit of confidence in the process.

Have a great day,
Anita

My Greatest Opportunity

I find that I allow fear to make me procrastinate from doing certain things – personally and professionally. Yet, I don’t think fear is my real impediment: it’s actually believing that every challenge has to be dead serious – as well as its solution.

I have friends who take the opposite approach. While they take obstacles seriously, the don’t believe that solutions have to be. They create positive results with fun, joy, and a bit of mischievousness. I am learning to be less humorless and sullen and more lively and joyful. Please note: I am a work in progress.

Thanks,
Anita

Are You Giving Your Best?

It’s easy to write out your goal, get really excited about it, and then consciously or unconsciously not give it your all. This is not a criticism, but an observation I see myself do  – and many others as well.

While there may be many reasons for this, the biggest one is a fear of failure – with the notion (perhaps erroneous) that you can’t REALLY fail if you hold back. So, here’s what I do: I scale back my goal in the short term to build a series of smaller successes to get me to my bigger goal (sometimes faster than expected.)

Set yourself up to win – and you will increase your chances.

Have a good day,
Anita

Get Your Movement Started

What do you care most about? Why it is important to you? What if you start a movement around this?

Not I’m not suggesting something massive (although if that’s your dream, go for it). I encourage you to stand up for something you believe in and take one action to mobilize even a few like-minded friends to advance your cause.

For me, I want people to feel valued. So, I send handwritten notes and it’s great when others do the same.

Choose something that works for you and is meaningful.

Don’t wait. Start today.

Have a great day,
Anita

The Power of Pessimism

My coach, Susan, once told me that you need two types of supporters: those who are optimistic cheerleaders and fans and those who are (as I would call them) picky pessimists.

The key is all about the timing. When your goal / idea is in the nascent stage, you need individuals who will guide, nurture, and encourage you so you can create a vision, develop resolve, and sink in roots of commitment. Once you have those things, you want to drive to excellence – and the only way to do that is to have people who will challenge, critique, and “force” you and your idea to get even better.

So there is power in pessimism if you bring it in at the right stage and time – and you don’t let the criticism discourage, dissuade, or freak you out.

Thanks,
Anita

The Value You Gain

It’s a funny thing. The value you gain is a function of your ability to see all of the good stuff in front of you. This is especially difficult if you are in the midst of a challenging time – filled with real and/or perceived obstacles. When I hit a VERY hard time, it was almost impossible for me see the goodness in my life. That was eclipsed by what was painful, discouraging, and seemingly unfair.

My turning point came after I committed to writing down five things that were good in my life every day. While things didn’t become amazing, fantastic, and awesome right away, each day I wrote down my list – my life got better. The interesting thing is that  my circumstances didn’t change in dramatic ways, but my heart did.

Just a thought.

Have a great day,
Anita