Do you usually have hope?
Sometimes circumstances can hide hope under a cloak of doubt and fear, yet it’s always there if you look for it. There are hopeful stories everywhere – even in the midst of challenge, tragedy, and sadness.
The next time you need a little hope, ask for it when you self-reflect, pray, or meditate. Then listen. Your answer will likely show up in the voice of a friend, family member, colleague, or stranger.
Many people talk about the power of big data and while this is true, it only tells one side of the story. Small data, or looking at an individual, can help you create value immediately. When you focus on appreciating, acknowledging, and/or improving the life of the person in front of you – you can have an impact right now. What’s more, the positive influence you have on that one individual can ripple out in ways you can even foresee. So what are you waiting for? Act now.
Enjoy your day,
It’s so interesting about what can move your life ahead. One of the powerful things is also the simplest (although not easy). It is keeping your commitments.
This means doing what you say you are going to do, when you say you will do it. It requires many things, but two big ones come to mind:
- Say “yes” to things you will actually do and “no” to things you might want to or feel pressured to do and will NEVER do.
- Take doable and progressive action to keep your promise – and if something looks like it will prevent you from keeping your commitment, let the other person know as soon as you can.
When you keep your commitments, you establish greater consistency, credibility, and trust – which do a whole host of positive things for you, your relationships, and life as a whole.
Enjoy your day,
What does it take to achieve a goal? Well, lots of things – from making the goal clear and concrete to actually taking a bunch of progressive babysteps?
So why doesn’t everyone take the steps to zoom through their goals? For me, personally, I stall out when I lack encouragement. Think of encouragement as someone or something that inspires courage (this is actually what the word means). I, and many others, just need a bit of a boost on the courage side and the action, momentum, and results are easier to create.
So if you need a little encouragement, find it. An even better idea: give encouragement to another person. Then you both get the boost.
Enjoy your day,
I hear again and again: that the world is divisive. Some people believe that this serious discord is caused by our institutions and if only they would change, the world would be better. At some level, those individuals are right – and it’s far from the whole story.
Organizations are made up of people, so what if each of us looks at any “disunity” inside our own heart? I have seen when the change emanates from within, the environment changes for the better.
Do it as an experiment.
If you’ve ever read or heard another person’s story and it inspired you to take action where you had previously been stalled, you borrowed a bit of confidence. While you eventually needed to build your own confidence, in the short term you could ride on the tail of an individual’s triumph over a challenge.
I can tell you, from first hand experience, that learning about others’ tales, of turning obstacles into a success, was a lifeline for me in one of the most difficult times in my life. I will be eternally grateful.
So, what’s your story? Who can you encourage by sharing it? Do so and you share a bit of confidence in the process.
Have a great day,
I find that I allow fear to make me procrastinate from doing certain things – personally and professionally. Yet, I don’t think fear is my real impediment: it’s actually believing that every challenge has to be dead serious – as well as its solution.
I have friends who take the opposite approach. While they take obstacles seriously, the don’t believe that solutions have to be. They create positive results with fun, joy, and a bit of mischievousness. I am learning to be less humorless and sullen and more lively and joyful. Please note: I am a work in progress.
It’s easy to write out your goal, get really excited about it, and then consciously or unconsciously not give it your all. This is not a criticism, but an observation I see myself do – and many others as well.
While there may be many reasons for this, the biggest one is a fear of failure – with the notion (perhaps erroneous) that you can’t REALLY fail if you hold back. So, here’s what I do: I scale back my goal in the short term to build a series of smaller successes to get me to my bigger goal (sometimes faster than expected.)
Set yourself up to win – and you will increase your chances.
Have a good day,
What do you care most about? Why it is important to you? What if you start a movement around this?
Not I’m not suggesting something massive (although if that’s your dream, go for it). I encourage you to stand up for something you believe in and take one action to mobilize even a few like-minded friends to advance your cause.
For me, I want people to feel valued. So, I send handwritten notes and it’s great when others do the same.
Choose something that works for you and is meaningful.
Don’t wait. Start today.
Have a great day,
My coach, Susan, once told me that you need two types of supporters: those who are optimistic cheerleaders and fans and those who are (as I would call them) picky pessimists.
The key is all about the timing. When your goal / idea is in the nascent stage, you need individuals who will guide, nurture, and encourage you so you can create a vision, develop resolve, and sink in roots of commitment. Once you have those things, you want to drive to excellence – and the only way to do that is to have people who will challenge, critique, and “force” you and your idea to get even better.
So there is power in pessimism if you bring it in at the right stage and time – and you don’t let the criticism discourage, dissuade, or freak you out.