Find the Love or Lose

My friend, Melissa, believes that if you want to have a happier and more successful like, you MUST find the love. At first, I wasn’t sure what she actually meant or how you could possibly love everyone. Seemed a bit idealistic to me.

So here’s what I learned and apply in my life:

  • The reality of life is that there are a ton of people who aren’t very nice and don’t even care about us.
  • That said, if we treat them as they are treating us – NOTHING will change.
  • So, each of us needs to become excellent detectives and find even one tiny thing that is valuable about the other person.
  • That kernel of good stuff is the foundation of finding other positive things in the other person.
  • Best of all, once we find this valuable stuff – the other person can sense it and their attitude toward us can absolutely change for the better.

Super cool, huh?

Enjoy the day,
Anita

What Does Your Work Say About You?

Whether you work inside the home, outside the home, or both, what you do is a reflection of who you are at your core.

So what kind of statement does your work say about you? Commitment? Care? Creativity?

You will want to know so you can keep doing what you are doing the way you are doing it – or make changes – big or small.

Have a great day,
Anita

When Being Right is Wrong

I was listening to a program recently and the speaker talked about how being right can actually be a bad thing. My first reaction was “how could that be”? In a world where having the right idea, approach, or solution can lead to greater levels of success – it seemed the speaker made a mistake. That said, I realized if I stopped listened I might fall into the “needing to be right” trap.

So I listened (actually carefully) to the speaker. What he said, made a lot of sense to me.

Here’s what I learned:

  • Advice based on what you believe is right, even if well-intentioned, can derail a conversation and a whole relationship.
  • While being right may make you feel superior, at its core are arrogance and insecurity.
  • Be open to having your mind changed, not out of backing away – but out of incorporating new knowledge that could be useful.

The speaker left me with even more to contemplate – perhaps your mind will be led to deeper thinking on this topic, too.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

Do You Choose Failure or Success?

Choosing failure or success? Does this seem like a  ridiculous question to even ask?

Yet some people defeat themselves in their hearts and minds first. What I can tell you, with considerable certainty, is that those around you will follow your lead and “help you fail”.

So, if you are pursuing a goal or dream, mobilize your skills, talents, and experiences – with lots of “evidence” of your capabilities. Pull out your list whenever you need a boost to strengthen your determination, conviction, and resolve.

Warmly,
Anita

Care, Courage, and Competence Lead to . . .

Do you want to win again and again – personally and professionally? It’s a three-parter. While the elements are not a secret, most people omit at least one of the elements. They are:

  • Care – others want to know that we have genuinely want to connect with them and  see them succeed. They will help us do the same.
  • Courage – taking fear on with even a tiny bit of courage helps us build confidence and credibility.
  • Competence – having the skills to do whatever we set out to do is essential. Yet you don’t have to know everything and others will “teach” us if we let them.

So bring care, courage, and competence to whatever you do and you will expand your opportunities, relationships, and success.

Enjoy the day,
Anita

Shine On For Success!

When I was a child, I remember someone close to me suggested that I “tone it down” so I didn’t make a relative feel bad about his own life. I was also advised that I should “pretend” that good things in my life just didn’t exist. I will admit I was confused, discouraged, and felt invalidated – and I carried these feelings for years after that.

What I have come to learn is that no matter how much you diminish your own talents, achievements, and successes – it cannot make anyone feel better (beyond the moment) and you will feel worse.

While I don’t believe that bragging is a good thing, it is incredibly encouraging to hear the story of someone with a dream, how the person transformed challenged into fuel to achieve the goal, and how he or she won in the end – over fear, inner doubts, and negativity.

Share your story – early and often.

Warmly,
Anita

Challenge and Positive Change

Challenge is a word that can be exhilarating and yet a little scary. What achievement has ever been accomplished without challenges of one kind or another. So if you aren’t advancing the way you would like to, where can you create a challenge to help you step up, move forward, and realize a goal or dream that has appeared out of reach? Take one babystep today. Then throw up your hands and shout “Ta Dah!”.

Have a great day,
Anita