The Power of Cards

Handwritten notes are so old school, retro, and last century. So why do them? Simply: the impact can be extraordinary!

While the people to whom I write really value the tangible form of my thank you, acknowledgement, and/or encouragement, the power comes from how it positively changes two lives – theirs and mine.

So go a little old school and write a note. Make it sincere, specific, and fun. Don’t expect a response, but if you receive one jump up and down with joy.

Have a great day,
Anita

The Encouragement Multiplier

I believe that each of us needs encouragement and I am at the front of the line. For me, I find it in books, podcasts, and, most importantly, people. Yet I learned several years ago that (for me) encouragement is most powerful if I give it first – sincerely, specifically, and often. When I do, I am instantly encouraged. What a wonderful virtuous circle!

Enjoy your day,
Anita

The Push Away Boomerang

It’s very “funny” about people, things, and circumstances we push away. The more we disregard or even reject someone or something, the more it shows up in our lives.

Instead of pushing something you don’t want, do this. First, embrace it (okay, I suspect, not what you hoped for). I am not saying love whatever it is, just pause and acknowledge the person or circumstance. Second, find the gift or learning and make the most of it.

When you do these things, you will accelerate through the less than pleasant time and get a better and better understanding of what you want. Then, focus on THAT – the good stuff.

Have a great day,
Anita

What’s Your PIQ?

In my work, I talk to students and alumni at Chicago Booth about the impact of their work. Yet, I rarely think of my PIQ or Positive Impact Quotient. PIQ is the sum of all of the value you create for others and yourself minus the negative impact you may have if you discourage, dismiss, or disparage others.

So as you go through your day, pause for a moment and think of the impact and implications of your next word or action. Will it make your PIQ go down or up? Than action accordingly.

Have a great day,
Anita

The Story That Helps You Succeed

Stories are powerful, predictive, and persuasive. They influence your actions and those of others. The question is what story do you typically tell and what message is it sending?

There are the “poor me” stories (which I don’t recommend), while very convincing, reduce credibility, trust, and the likelihood of achieving your goals and dreams. On the other hand, is the “yes I hit a very challenging situation and actually used it to succeed” story. I really love these – they almost always display courage, tenacity, and resilience.

Here’s the kicker: the circumstance in both kinds are stories can be exactly the same. I’ve been there. After being crushed by an elevator, I told many “poor me” stories that ultimately did me no good. With time and much self-honesty, I started telling a “yes I hit a very challenging situation and actually used it to succeed” story. This was the best thing I could have done: it opened up a whole new world of happiness and success for me.

Have a great day,
Anita

All or Nothing ≠ Success

I was talking to a former colleague who is awesome and often hard to work with because he is an all or nothing person. When work is good, it is excellent. On the other hand, if even one thing doesn’t go the way he thinks it should, he complains, blames others, and gets angry. You might imagine that I was sympathetic, yet not surprised when he told me that he had lost his job.

He is very competent, yet that is not enough for his co-workers and managers. They want someone who can certainly take a stand and yet is flexible and supportive around others’ missteps. After all, if we are to act like a team – we will occasionally pick up the slack for others as they do for us.

Have a good day,
Anita