The Generosity Bonus

Generosity is a wonderful thing. You can do it anywhere and anytime, using lots of money or none at all. The key is what is in your heart – giving without expecting anything in return. When you do, things you never thought possible can show up when you least expect them – and that’s half the fun, right?

So be generous – early and often. In the process, you will expand your opportunities, capacity, and many, many, other terrific things.

Have a great day,
Anita

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Are You Worth the “Risk”?

I was chatting with someone this week and she was questioning why others don’t seem to want to help her. The more we chatted, the clearer it became to both of us that her approach made her appear risky. It wasn’t something massive or even super obvious, it was little things – from not responding in a timely manner to asking for too much too soon. Also, there were a few missing “thank yous” here and there.

So the next time you ask someone to help you, ask yourself: “Am I making myself ‘risky’ to the other person?” If you think you are, you likely are. Adjust your approach accordingly and move ahead.

Have a great day,
Anita

Beyond Gratitude

I am a big believer in gratitude. If a person can’t find things to feel grateful for, life often becomes an endless slog. I understand that.

While feeling gratitude is essential, it’s incomplete. Feeling gratitude impacts you alone, while expressing gratitude impacts both you and the other person. It takes compassion, courage, and care to share appreciation and the impact is far reaching – in ways you can’t even begin to imagine.

So express gratitude sincerely, specifically, and concretely – and often!!!

Warmly,
Anita

The Power of Small Data

Many people talk about the power of big data and while this is true, it only tells one side of the story. Small data, or looking at an individual, can help you create value immediately. When you focus on appreciating, acknowledging, and/or improving the life of the person in front of you – you can have an impact right now. What’s more, the positive influence you have on that one individual can ripple out in ways you can even foresee. So what are you waiting for? Act now.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

How Valuable Are You?

If someone asked you the question,”How valuable are you?” – what would you say? Would you list off your degrees, jobs, and accomplishments?

While these have their place, there is something more. Your worth is a combination of things you can easily measure (like your compensation) AND your attitude and behavior. In today’s world, opportunities are given to those who display both competence and warmth. Competence will open a door and warmth make others want you to stay.

How do you show competence and warmth in your life?

Have a wonderful weekend,
Anita

What’s Right in Front of You

I was with a group of friends recently. There was a lot of complaining about the state of the world, how big the problems are, and the impossible nature change. As I was about to get sucked into this vortex of negativity, I made myself pause and say a few things. “Guys,” I said. “Could we go down a different track? My mentor says this again and again, ‘Who is right in front of you? Help that person!’ This might not seem like a big deal, it is. Start with one and go from there.”

While there might have been some eye rolls, I felt better – and it was a reminder to me that when I feel I can’t make a difference, it’s just not true. See the person in front of you and smile and wave, say thank you, or go out for coffee and listen more than you speak.

Enjoy the day,
Anita

Winning the BIG Game

Most people want their big shot and yet they often don’t do what actually needs to be done to succeed. At a basic level, you will want to do the following:

  • Create a goal – what do you want to do?
  • Know your why – in what ways is this goal important to you?
  • Write down your action – what step can you take that you have complete control over and how much time will you devote to this?
  • Track your progress – how far have you come and what’s next?
  • Express gratitude – who has helped you and how can you thank them?

When you do these things, you considerably up your chances of winning “the big game” – whatever that is for you. What will do today – for even a few minutes to get started?

Have a great day,
Anita

Do You Mean It?

When you say you are going do something, do you mean it?

What you say “thank you”, do you mean it?

What you say “yes” to a request, do you mean it?

It’s really good to know these things. When you do something half in and half out, the outcome will be less than what you want.

So whatever you say, do, or even think – if you truly mean it, your life will open up to greater happiness, opportunity, and success.

Warmly,
Anita

Find the Love or Lose

My friend, Melissa, believes that if you want to have a happier and more successful like, you MUST find the love. At first, I wasn’t sure what she actually meant or how you could possibly love everyone. Seemed a bit idealistic to me.

So here’s what I learned and apply in my life:

  • The reality of life is that there are a ton of people who aren’t very nice and don’t even care about us.
  • That said, if we treat them as they are treating us – NOTHING will change.
  • So, each of us needs to become excellent detectives and find even one tiny thing that is valuable about the other person.
  • That kernel of good stuff is the foundation of finding other positive things in the other person.
  • Best of all, once we find this valuable stuff – the other person can sense it and their attitude toward us can absolutely change for the better.

Super cool, huh?

Enjoy the day,
Anita

What Does Your Work Say About You?

Whether you work inside the home, outside the home, or both, what you do is a reflection of who you are at your core.

So what kind of statement does your work say about you? Commitment? Care? Creativity?

You will want to know so you can keep doing what you are doing the way you are doing it – or make changes – big or small.

Have a great day,
Anita