Clear Out Your Mental Gunk

Recently, I was struggling to make time to complete a personal project that is important to me. When I shared this dilemma with a close friend, she told me I needed to do a bit of gunk cleaning. Now she didn’t mean cleaning out my junk drawer (which also isn’t a bad idea), my friend was referring to the mental gunk (i.e. negativity) that was sucking my energy and diverting time that could be used for my project.

Just like most people, clearing gunk is a work in progress. My babystep is noticing when gunk surfaces and I cleaning it out fast.

Thanks so much for reading this,
Anita

Gratitude is the Secret Sauce of Success

As I think back to this day (2.16), many years ago, when I was crushed by an elevator, my life was a struggle until I was able to feel gratitude. While is was far from easy, without it, I would be living in that loss instead of creating an even better life.

Thank you for all who helped me see what was possible.

Warmly,
Anita

Success Engagement

If you are like me, you find something you want to learn about and dive deeply into finding the person who can help you. My enthusiasm can take over and I need to remind myself that the person is an actual human being – way more than just a conduit to the resources and information I want and need.

When you authentically demonstrate that you value the other person – with care, respect, and appreciation – your opportunities can expand exponentially and you will feel wonderful in the process.

Have a great day,
Anita

Anita

Make the Most Out of Your Golden Opportunities

I was working with two people recently who have very similar backgrounds and experience, yet very different results. The other interesting factor is that they have access to many of the same people.

So what is the difference? The one who does well attributes it to luck and the person who had less than stellar results believes that most people are selfish and lack generosity. I would suggest that they neither is actually accurate.

While luck and selfish people may come into play, I see two other factors that have an even stronger impact. They are preparation and (most important) total focus on the other person. When we want someone to help us, that individual needs to be able to trust us and feel valued. If you start there, your results and “luck” will grow.

Have a good day,
Anita

The Power of Upside Down Gratitude

I find it super easy to thank individuals for good stuff like – happy times, compliments, and wonderful people. Who wouldn’t, right?

Yet, there is another untapped area of good things. This is the power of upside down gratitude. Upside down gratitude is the value you can find in the not-so-positive and embrace it as crucial to your success and happiness. This requires courage, commitment, and a desire to take the lessons and leverage this for your greater good and the best for others.

Warmly,
Anita

Are You Giving Your Best?

It’s easy to write out your goal, get really excited about it, and then consciously or unconsciously not give it your all. This is not a criticism, but an observation I see myself do  – and many others as well.

While there may be many reasons for this, the biggest one is a fear of failure – with the notion (perhaps erroneous) that you can’t REALLY fail if you hold back. So, here’s what I do: I scale back my goal in the short term to build a series of smaller successes to get me to my bigger goal (sometimes faster than expected.)

Set yourself up to win – and you will increase your chances.

Have a good day,
Anita

If You’re Not Breaking Through . . .

Have you been working on a goal and not making the progress you hope? Do you feel you have been making every effort and zero benefits?

Here are a couple of questions to ask yourself:

  • Are you all in or are you splitting your attention among a variety of goals? If this is the case, you could be dissipating your time, energy, and other resources. So focus.
  • Could you be feeling any resentment today any people, organizations, or circumstances? If yes, immediately find at least one thing you appreciate. Please do this or you could be stuck forever.

Have a great day,
Anita