The Encouragizers Project – MSA 17

What a wonderful and unexpected call.

MSA 17: What a coincidence! One of the professors reached out to me about helping someone he knows. In the process of our conversation, he wants to introduce me to someone who is interested in learning how to better build bridges. Wooohooo.

Warmly,
Anita

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There’s a Way

I have a friend, whom I’ve known for a long time. She is super bright, has worked at major global companies, and graduated from one of the top schools in the world. She is struggling with how to find her next role and an environment that is consistent with her values and will value her.

I have been wracking my brain on how to help her. I’ve meditated on it a lot. I will admit that I became frustrated with her lack of results and wanted to understand what was going on. While meditating this morning, I was determined to gain clarity on how I could help her breakthrough.

Interestingly, she called this morning and asked me if I would be open to reading a book and discussing it with her – with her focusing on how to change from within. The book is about responsibility and appreciation (from what I can tell from a quick review). I let her know that I would be happy to read it and having a discussion.

I also shared the focus of my meditation this morning – having the determination to know how to help her breakthrough. From my friend’s response, I think that I “received my direction”.

More to follow.

Warmly,
Anita

The Matter of Mattering

Some time ago, I moderated a panel with a stellar group of students from the University of Chicago Booth School of Business. As I am known to do, I wrote a thank you note (with a little card inside with a second note) to each student. About a week later, I received an email from a student that went on and on and on about the card I sent to him.

I was very curious as to why he had such a strong reaction. This was from a person who is all about artificial intelligence, machine learning, and virtual reality. One more piece of information about him – he has a great life, home, family, and work.

A few days later, he and I sat down and I asked him about the card. He talked about that it was paper, the message was specific to him, and it was done at all. I wanted to know how it made him feel. He told me that it made him feel like he matters.

What I learned that day is that no matter how much we have in our life, that doesn’t mean we don’t want to know we matter. So let others you care about know they matter to you.

Small action, big potential impact!

Have a great day,
Anita

Your Not So Big Idea

I was watching a new venture pitch. There was one idea in particular which was good, but didn’t seem big enough to stand on its own. The judges seemed to agree and thought the idea, while not a stand alone product, could be an excellent and profitable feature for a business that already existed.

Watching the pitch team, they seemed split. One part of the group were – “We can do this and the judges don’t see the value – we’ll show them.” The other group were more open to a partnership that could add value to many and make the team a tidy profit.

So with you next idea, project, or pitch – even if it doesn’t seem viable alone, think about how you can team up with others and create something cool and valuable.

Warmly,
Anita

Helping Success

Are you a little or more than a little stuck at the moment? Know you are not alone. We all get there at times – believe me, this is so true.

The question is how to do you move past the block. While it’s simple, it’s rarely easy.

Take a step back and help another person. Think of someone who could benefit from your knowledge, talents, and support to achieve a goal. Then reach out to help the other person – not to fix the person, but to listen, offer guidance, and cheer the person on to greater success.

Warmly,
Anita

Never Help a Friend

Of course, never helping any friend is not a good idea. Yet, it is important to be sure you are not fixing your friend.

Listening, kind encouragement, and support are great to boost a person and help her gain courage, confidence, and resolve. This enables the other person to stand on her own and win – while knowing you are there.

Have a great day,
Anita

Active or Reactive Listening

Listening is a tricky proposition. While we may want to listen and know that we “should”, it’s hard to not want to listen just enough to be able to jump in with a “brilliant” comment, suggestion, or solution. Yet, this type of reactive listening creates a disconnect – and ultimately could lead to all kinds of problems and few. if any solutions.

In a world of divisiveness and negativity, active, caring, and authentic listening is a small thing you can do to build bridges, understanding, and even some positive solutions.

Have a great day,
Anita

Why Apologize

Yesterday I was at work checking in students for a big event. It’s super important that we know who actually attends because it has a broader impact on the students’  careers and lives, When I stopped a student heading to the event to be sure it had checked in, I will admit that I was super assertive and he gave me a really annoyed look.

I didn’t want him to have a negative experience, so later in the day – I found him and apologized. He seemed a bit surprised, but nodded. I then suggested that he connect specifically with one of the volunteers. We both headed to our assigned area and I was glad that I had spoken to him.

When I got up this morning, I had an email from him thanking me for my outreach and asking a question. When I responded, it reminded me that we all want to know that others care. I certainly do and I bet you too as well.

Have a great day and I recommend that you express appreciation – authentically. You will uplift two – the other person and you!

Have a great day,
Anita

Encouragement Can Lead to Discouragement

Encouragement can actually lead to discouragement.

How could that possibly be?

Okay, encouragement isn’t a bad thing. In fact it can be really really good. Yet, it’s incomplete.

For encouragement to be effective it needs to be accompanied by very specific and practical guidance. To be really stellar encouragement, the guidance (of strategics, tactics, and tools) needs to be tailored to the person receiving the encouragement.

Go out and encourage someone today.

Warmly,
Anita

Those Pesky Challenges

Challenges are needed for us to grow – and they are not always fun or pleasant. Yet they are essential. This is true even though my go to reaction to a challenge, especially when it appears to be negative, is to hate it.

Then I pause and ask myself two things: 1. What are the “gifts” in this situation with this person? and 2. How can I (and the other person) be victorious? When I pause, I give myself perspective and the opportunity to learn, grow, and win over myself and the situation.

Warmly,
Anita