The Story That Helps You Succeed

Stories are powerful, predictive, and persuasive. They influence your actions and those of others. The question is what story do you typically tell and what message is it sending?

There are the “poor me” stories (which I don’t recommend), while very convincing, reduce credibility, trust, and the likelihood of achieving your goals and dreams. On the other hand, is the “yes I hit a very challenging situation and actually used it to succeed” story. I really love these – they almost always display courage, tenacity, and resilience.

Here’s the kicker: the circumstance in both kinds are stories can be exactly the same. I’ve been there. After being crushed by an elevator, I told many “poor me” stories that ultimately did me no good. With time and much self-honesty, I started telling a “yes I hit a very challenging situation and actually used it to succeed” story. This was the best thing I could have done: it opened up a whole new world of happiness and success for me.

Have a great day,
Anita

Divisiveness Starts From Within

I hear again and again: that the world is divisive. Some people believe that this serious discord is caused by our institutions and if only they would change, the world would be better. At some level, those individuals are right – and it’s far from the whole story.

Organizations are made up of people, so what if each of us looks at any “disunity” inside our own heart? I have seen when the change emanates from within, the environment changes for the better.

Do it as an experiment.

Warmly,
Anita

Success Engagement

If you are like me, you find something you want to learn about and dive deeply into finding the person who can help you. My enthusiasm can take over and I need to remind myself that the person is an actual human being – way more than just a conduit to the resources and information I want and need.

When you authentically demonstrate that you value the other person – with care, respect, and appreciation – your opportunities can expand exponentially and you will feel wonderful in the process.

Have a great day,
Anita

Anita

The Success Block You Can’t Afford

If you aren’t achieving your goals, what could be the problem? While the source of your stalling out could be a variety of things, the one I see most prevalent today is resentment.

Now this doesn’t have to be gigantic grudges. Actually those are the easy to identify and correct since they are so obvious to you and those around you. The resentment that does the most damage to you, you life, and even your finances are the small, subtle forms that creep in as tiny negative comments about another person (or even many people) – especially behind the person’s back.

Instead of letting this nasty talk prevail, make yourself find at least one thing you value about the person and change complaint into appreciation. As corny as this may sound, I can almost guarantee that you will feel better and prospects in your career and life will grow.

Experiment and see for yourself.

Warmly,
Anita

Avoid Anti-Anything

There are two ways to approach change. Some people go anti – or fight against what they don’t like. Others look to the fight for the outcome they want. While each can work at different times, I like to go toward the change I seek rather go anti what I don’t like. It gives me more confidence, courage, and determination.

Even Mother Theresa would never go to an anti-war rally, but would join a peace rally every chance she had.

Something to think about.

Warmly,
Anita

Open Up “Hidden” Value

It’s really easy to find value in people who like you,  admire you, and treat you well. Quite a different story when someone criticizes you or even worse. Yet the bonus comes in the form of increased capacity, courage, and confidence when you look for the strengths and value in those who may not treat you the best.

Warmly,
Anita