Success Engagement

If you are like me, you find something you want to learn about and dive deeply into finding the person who can help you. My enthusiasm can take over and I need to remind myself that the person is an actual human being – way more than just a conduit to the resources and information I want and need.

When you authentically demonstrate that you value the other person – with care, respect, and appreciation – your opportunities can expand exponentially and you will feel wonderful in the process.

Have a great day,
Anita

Anita

The Success Block You Can’t Afford

If you aren’t achieving your goals, what could be the problem? While the source of your stalling out could be a variety of things, the one I see most prevalent today is resentment.

Now this doesn’t have to be gigantic grudges. Actually those are the easy to identify and correct since they are so obvious to you and those around you. The resentment that does the most damage to you, you life, and even your finances are the small, subtle forms that creep in as tiny negative comments about another person (or even many people) – especially behind the person’s back.

Instead of letting this nasty talk prevail, make yourself find at least one thing you value about the person and change complaint into appreciation. As corny as this may sound, I can almost guarantee that you will feel better and prospects in your career and life will grow.

Experiment and see for yourself.

Warmly,
Anita

Avoid Anti-Anything

There are two ways to approach change. Some people go anti – or fight against what they don’t like. Others look to the fight for the outcome they want. While each can work at different times, I like to go toward the change I seek rather go anti what I don’t like. It gives me more confidence, courage, and determination.

Even Mother Theresa would never go to an anti-war rally, but would join a peace rally every chance she had.

Something to think about.

Warmly,
Anita

Open Up “Hidden” Value

It’s really easy to find value in people who like you,  admire you, and treat you well. Quite a different story when someone criticizes you or even worse. Yet the bonus comes in the form of increased capacity, courage, and confidence when you look for the strengths and value in those who may not treat you the best.

Warmly,
Anita

Specific + Open-minded = Success Combo

I was chatting with someone this week about what helps people rise to the upper echelons in their field. My new friend, Doug, told me that it’s to be specific about your goals and aspirations and the open-minded on how you get there.

While I know what is saying is correct, I have a hard time not controlling how I believe something should be done. In my effort to see that things are done in “the right way”, I can miss a better strategy, idea, and plan.

I won’t tell you that I have completely adopted Doug’s a approach, That said, I am taking a few BabySteps in that direction.

Have a great day,
Anita

The Power of Pessimism

My coach, Susan, once told me that you need two types of supporters: those who are optimistic cheerleaders and fans and those who are (as I would call them) picky pessimists.

The key is all about the timing. When your goal / idea is in the nascent stage, you need individuals who will guide, nurture, and encourage you so you can create a vision, develop resolve, and sink in roots of commitment. Once you have those things, you want to drive to excellence – and the only way to do that is to have people who will challenge, critique, and “force” you and your idea to get even better.

So there is power in pessimism if you bring it in at the right stage and time – and you don’t let the criticism discourage, dissuade, or freak you out.

Thanks,
Anita