If You Want Others to Say “Yes”

It’s very interesting the way things work for me (and I am certainly not unique – as far as that goes.) Whenever I hold even a small amount of resentment or negativity toward another – no matter how much that person might “deserve” it – the conversation, event, or deal falls apart. I used to think that it was the other person who messed things up until one day I took a step back and “realized” that the common element was me.

So, as an experiment, I began to pay attention to what type of attitude I brought to my interactions with others. If I noticed that I was entering a dialogue believing that I was “right” or judging the other individual from the get go, I stopped and rejiggered how I thought (and felt) about my friend, family member, or colleague. As I did, amazing things happened – more conversations, projects, and programs went really well – and they were fun.

So the next time, you’re getting more “no’s” than you want, pause and notice if you are bringing resentment, negativity, or judgment to the table. If you are, send it away.

Have a great Monday,
Anita

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(re) Discovering the Gold in Your Life

Ever have a close friend describe their significant other, only to meet that person and be really surprised at what wasn’t said? When you spend lots of time with close friends, partners, and colleagues, it’s easy to become blind to their best qualities. So instead of taking someone you really care about for granted, spend the next 24 hours as if you’d never met him or her before – and pretend you are getting to know that person for the very first time. Then share what you (re) learn.

Thanks,
Anita

Write an Encouragizer Note and Positively Change Your Life

Reach Out and Meet Someone New

Yesterday I had the opportunity to meet an amazing person – kind, generous, capable and with great style and hospitality. She is relatively new to Chicago and hadn’t met lots of people. There are many individuals like her – hidden treasures if you are open to making new friends – even if you have long outgrown play dates.

So next time you have the chance to meet someone new, I encourage you to make the effort. Two lives will be made better, theirs and yours.

Have a great Thursday,
Anita

Write an Encouragizer Note and Positively Change Your Life

Impossible? Not For You.

“It’s kind of fun to do the impossible.” Walt Disney

Ever been told that you can’t do something and you get so charged up that you make it happen. It’s an incredible feeling.

Most “breakthroughs” occur when we refuse to believe the limits placed on us by society, those who know us, and especially ourselves. It was a mere 500 years ago that people believed that the earth was flat. Brave souls showed the rest of the world the truth and it opened up the whole planet. How will you change the world today?

Thanks,
Anita

Wake-up! Opportunity is Calling.

The lure of the distant and the difficult is deceptive.
The great opportunity is where you are.
John Burroughs

Do you believe that your golden opportunity for family, friendship, or fame is in another city, company, or community? While there are “lucky breaks” in all four corners of the world, yours could be right where you live, work, or play. So for the next week if you hear the phone ring, a text buzz, or an e-mail ping, it could be opportunity calling. Respond joyfully, happily, and vigorously!

Thanks,
Anita

What If Everyone Could Be Your Teacher?

Having an open mind means more than listening to people you already know. While you can learn from your colleagues and friends, you can also learn from your kids, the mail person, the bus driver, and the strangers who come in and out of your life. As you go through your life today, look at each person you meet as a teacher. Pause and consider what you can learn from him or her.

Happy Thursday and Happy Birthday Stephanie,
Anita

More Than One Right Answer

Sometimes it appears that there is only one answer, yet this is rarely the case. The next time you “fall in love” with an explanation, solution, or path, stop. Immediately write down at least six possible options. While there are likely dozens of options, six is feasible and will open you heart and mind and prevent you from latching on to the one thing that “sounds right.” So where can you start today? 

Have a great day.
Anita