It’s so easy to think that what you are doing or not doing today will have much of an impact on your future. After all, it’s only one day. How much can it matter in the course of an entire life?
Well . . . you are right – one action, taken or not, usually doesn’t matter that much in the scheme of things. What does matter is the cumulative actions of days, weeks, months, years, and more. Over time, what you do or not do shapes who you become. This will define who you are, what you accomplish, and how you impact others.
What will you say “yes” and “no” to today?
Have you ever had a time when things kept popping up. On the surface, they could be negative or they could be positive. Often the difference is how strong and supported you feel. While it’s not only your perspective at that moment, attitude does play a part.
So when one more thing “surprises” you, before you judge – pause. Are you anxious or excited? At some level the choice is yours.
Have a great day,
I have a friend, whom I’ve known for a long time. She is super bright, has worked at major global companies, and graduated from one of the top schools in the world. She is struggling with how to find her next role and an environment that is consistent with her values and will value her.
I have been wracking my brain on how to help her. I’ve meditated on it a lot. I will admit that I became frustrated with her lack of results and wanted to understand what was going on. While meditating this morning, I was determined to gain clarity on how I could help her breakthrough.
Interestingly, she called this morning and asked me if I would be open to reading a book and discussing it with her – with her focusing on how to change from within. The book is about responsibility and appreciation (from what I can tell from a quick review). I let her know that I would be happy to read it and having a discussion.
I also shared the focus of my meditation this morning – having the determination to know how to help her breakthrough. From my friend’s response, I think that I “received my direction”.
More to follow.
I was with a group of friends yesterday and the conversation veered in the direction of the interplay of hope and challenge. While hope is a great motivator and starting point, it’s important to keep in mind that challenges will come – if for no other reason than to help you grow.
The questions become – how prepared are you for the obstacles and do you shrink away from them or are excited and elevated by them?
So, how can you make challenges your friend and not a fiend?
Have a great day,
I was working with someone (let’s call her “Sharon”) last year who hated her job and wanted to get out – period. Yet, she was having a hard time convincing anyone to hire her – which is surprising because she is quite talented.
She was down about her search and Sharon asked to meet. One of my questions was: “Are you running toward a new job or away from your current one?” Her honesty was refreshing and she admitted that we was sprinting away for her current role and company.
As we spoke, she realized that she wouldn’t hire someone who was running from a negative situation. This awareness led Sharon to pursue jobs that she actually wanted. As she did, Sharon gained more and more traction and landed a new role that she is happy to have.
So even if you really don’t like your job, seek one to pursue based on what you like, the value you can bring, and your aspirations. This can actually shortcut your process.
It happened this week. I faced an impasse.
I really dislike (read as “hate”) being stuck. Whenever I hit that point, I lose confidence, motivation, and momentum – which just solidifies the impasse more and more.
That’s when I feel that the impasse is permanent and that I will never get past it. UGH! I lose hope – which is never a good thing for anyone.
Despite how bad I feel (which can be really bad), I still desperately search for a glimmer of something positive, even a bit of forward movement. The path to get there is always through appreciation. When I find even one person, circumstance, or situation I am grateful for, a shift occurs. It’s not that I am out of the impasse, that can take time. I just come to “realize” that there is a possibility to get beyond the impasse.
Have a good day,
Doubt may not seem so bad at first – a little gnawing in the back of your mind prompted by a small mistake, a slightly nasty comment, or comparing yourself to another person. Yet if you don’t find a way to question the validity of the doubt trigger, you will build a foundation of doubt in your mind and heart. Then then next time and the time after that, little bits of doubt (if not challenged) strengthen a negative self-belief that won’t support your goals, dreams, and aspirations.
In the end, the real danger of doubt is that it could ultimately derail your career and life.
So don’t let it. Please refuse to take doubt triggers at face value. Counter each and everyone of them with the ferocity of a lion – as if your life depends on it because it actually does!
Have a great day,
This morning, I was reading a paragraph from a book I have read many times. Yet today, the words felt like they jumped off the page. To paraphrase, if you complain and grumble (even if you feel justified), it’s like stepping on the brake with serious negative consequences to your success and happiness. Even more, if complaining and grumbling become a habit, you can lead your life into discouragement, doubt, and even despair.
I’m not suggesting that you force yourself to never complain – who could do that (not me). Yet before you do, pause.
Then find someone you appreciate and let him or her know.
Have a happy and successful day,
Oh my gosh, things can get you down, even when there is nothing really to be upset about. I notice this so clearly and honestly, I get stuck and sometimes don’t know what to do. I even wallow – perhaps even some today. Remember: each of us is human.
So, my strategy is do see the brilliance in others today – challenging! Oh yes, I need to start by seeing my own magnificence. Without starting with me, it’s impossible to get out of being down – and I certainly can’t be of help to anyone else (which I want to be able to do).
More to follow.
Let’s be victorious together!
Challenges are needed for us to grow – and they are not always fun or pleasant. Yet they are essential. This is true even though my go to reaction to a challenge, especially when it appears to be negative, is to hate it.
Then I pause and ask myself two things: 1. What are the “gifts” in this situation with this person? and 2. How can I (and the other person) be victorious? When I pause, I give myself perspective and the opportunity to learn, grow, and win over myself and the situation.