How to Remain Undefeated

It’s always exciting when our favorite team is undefeated. Yet, to me, the more important consideration is how you, me, and each person on earth can remain undefeated in this lifetime?

Some people believe that never having a defeat is impossible. I would disagree. Pause and remember what “undefeated” actually means. It is not that you never have a setback, obstacle, or even a failure. It really means not quitting, giving up, or giving in to doubt, fear, or discouragement.

Defeat begins in your mind and so does winning. You get to choose.

Have a great day,
Anita

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Self-Generated Motivation

It’s a funny thing about motivation, you don’t often notice how motivated you are until your motivation goes down or even stops.

So how can you prevent these lapses in forward motion? It’s simple, even if not easy:

  • Know why you want to achieve a specific goal. Pile on the reasons now as you will likely need them later.
  • Take actions that are big enough to be interesting and absolutely doable regardless of your time, energy, and commitments.
  • Count everything you start, complete, and take off your plate as a win.

With this as a solid beginning, you can start and keep your momentum going. Then your motivation is self-generating and self-sustaining.

Have a great day,
Anita

Find the Treasures Within the Junk

I have a friend who is masterful at going to resale shops and finding amazing things. While I see piles and piles of some really yucky looking stuff, she zeros in items that are really the best of the best.

While her approach works on clothing, jewelry, and leather goods, it’s even more powerful when looking at people. Each person has something truly incredible, although it can be (REALLY) hidden. The “fun” thing is in locating the gem in each person. When you do, the other person feels valued, you could develop a new friend, and who knows the wonderful things you could create together!

Have a great day,
Anita

Care, Courage, and Competence Lead to . . .

Do you want to win again and again – personally and professionally? It’s a three-parter. While the elements are not a secret, most people omit at least one of the elements. They are:

  • Care – others want to know that we have genuinely want to connect with them and  see them succeed. They will help us do the same.
  • Courage – taking fear on with even a tiny bit of courage helps us build confidence and credibility.
  • Competence – having the skills to do whatever we set out to do is essential. Yet you don’t have to know everything and others will “teach” us if we let them.

So bring care, courage, and competence to whatever you do and you will expand your opportunities, relationships, and success.

Enjoy the day,
Anita

Stay in the Game to WIN!

Did you know that the difference between win and lose is often a teeny time amount – less than you can imagine.

Also, most people give up on the verge of victory – just because they are tired, can’t see enough progress, or have moments of doubt.

Then, they quit – leaving no possibility of victory.

So deliberately keep yourself in the game!

Enjoy your day,
Anita

Obstacle: Friend or Foe?

Obstacles of any kind can bring up fear in the hearts of even the most courageous. This is especially true if everything is moving long and then BAM, a dreaded obstacle appears. At first, it’s easy to see it as barrier, stumbling block, obstruction, impediment, and a big old problem. I certainly do – and am not super proud of this.

That said, an obstacle is also a challenge and those are good for your goals, brain, and happiness. A challenge keeps you stimulated, moving ahead, and expanding your capacity, courage, and confidence. Sounds pretty good, right?

So the next time an obstacle shows up in your life in the form of an unwanted situation, difficult person, or even self-doubt, be upset for a nanosecond. Then explore how the obstacle could be just what you need, say “thank you”, and then get to work to make it your friend and ally.

Have a great day,
Anita

What’s Driving Your Life?

It’s a very interesting thing about life. Depending on how we feel, think, and act, your life can be elevated to greater happiness and success or you can drive it to defeat and despair.

So how can you take your life in the direction of where you want to go? Look for your weakest link. What is the one thing that derails you at the point of victory or that makes you want to give up before you even get going? That is your greatest opportunity.

Know that you don’t have to change all at once. Start with one tiny action that is under your control. That’s good as your base that you can build from there.

Have a good day,
Anita

How to Be Victorious

I am often asked the question about how to be successful. Most of the time, the question they really want to know is how to be victorious when facing a challenge.

While it’s common sense, individuals find the following helpful (and I hope you do as well): NEVER allow you to defeat yourself. Victory and defeat start in your heart – and if you need support remembering your value, ask. There are people around – count me in.

Have a great day,
Anita

Set a Bigger Goal

Recently, I was struggling to achieve a specific goal I had been working on for a long time. I couldn’t for the life of me figure out what was wrong. I blamed myself – too lazy, not committed, missing something to carry things through to the finish.

While my self-assessment may have been accurate, it wasn’t the whole story. I soon realized that my goal was too tiny and didn’t inspire me. So I made my goal bigger – not impossible, but enough of a stretch to drive me ahead.

Updates to follow.

Have a great day,
Anita

Value and Victory

I was chatting with someone recently who wasn’t achieving her goal, despite the fact that she was exerting tons of effort. She was stuck in (what seemed to her like) an endless loop of doing, doing, doing with little to show for it. Then I asked her a question that “shocked” her: “What value are you providing to the people you are asking to help you?”

She actually never thought about it and when she did, my friend made a shift. As she began to bring value, she received much more.

Have a great day,
Anita