To Grow Your Success . . .

It seems like a ton of people have the “one” answer on how to achieve greater success. Actually, each year experts deliver the next perfect model to do so. Do what does this tell us?

  • There is no one answer.
  • Learn what you can and then craft your own “best of” that you can implement consistently.
  • Teach what you learn to others – an excellent way to solidify what you know.

Oh yes – the biggest thing of all is to let go of a “right way” to succeed – then you will grow your success AND happiness.

Have a great day,
Anita

Winning Starts with You

You may want to reach a goal and achieve something important to you. Yet you could derail yourself if you wait for the right person to be your partner, cheerleader, and/or mentor. While is is essential to have support, an outside perspective, and people to complement your strengths, you will likely need to take the first step. Then other could jump in.

Have a great day,
Anita

Refuse to Let “No” Be Your Driver

I was working with someone recently who sat slumped in a chair in my office. When I asked the person (Let’s call him, Todd) what was wrong. Todd told me someone who he really respects told him his goal was impossible and to give it up.

While the “expert” could be right (based on his past experience), he also could be absolutely wrong. Yet Todd took the expert’s opinion as fact and was about to give up on his startup venture. I’m glad he didn’t.

Have a good day,
Anita

Find Your Success Threshold

I was chatting with a friend (let’s call her Jamie – not her name) last week and she was stressed about not having enough willpower. When I told her I don’t believe in willpower, Jamie looked stunned. It isn’t that I don’t believe it effort, work, and tenacity, it’s that I feel that finding your threshold beats willpower every time.

Here is my approach – when I have a goal, I start by finding an action that I can take – that is under my control and doesn’t stress me out. Each time I complete my task, I build up my confidence to succeed at it. In relatively short order, the action becomes a habit and willpower isn’t needed. This works for me and it could just work for you.

Something to consider.

Warmly,
Anita

The Power of Upside Down Gratitude

I find it super easy to thank individuals for good stuff like – happy times, compliments, and wonderful people. Who wouldn’t, right?

Yet, there is another untapped area of good things. This is the power of upside down gratitude. Upside down gratitude is the value you can find in the not-so-positive and embrace it as crucial to your success and happiness. This requires courage, commitment, and a desire to take the lessons and leverage this for your greater good and the best for others.

Warmly,
Anita

Be a Comeback Genius

I will say upfront my extracurricular activities tend to go more toward books that sports. In fact, my alma mater, the University of Chicago, didn’t even have a football team that was much more than a “club” team.

So for those who know me, you might be surprised that I watched the Super Bowl. Well, I watched and I am VERY glad I did.

What a comeback story – one from which we can learn a lot:

  • Leadership under pressure. How would you react if you were down by more than three touchdowns with only have the game left? Many would give up, but not Brady. He kept going, putting everything on the line, and getting the rest of the team to believe a win was possible.
  • Not letting time be the deciding factor. The Patriots kept going, knowing that there had never been an overtime in a Super Bowl. Well, now there has been.
  • Finding a bit more determination, tenacity, and guts. When it looks like the tides had turned against Brady and the team, they stayed in the game – clearly with their heads and hearts.

There are many other things you can learn about being a comeback genius from Super Bowl LI. Just don’t find them, put them into action in your own life.

Have a great day,
Anita

Transform Your Weakest Link

I welcome compassionate, critical feedback that is constructive. That said, I know that I’m not alone with this – I don’t like to be judged.

While this is all well and good, my dislike of being judged could become my limitation / my weakest link. Think of the implications for both of us – of the ginormous list of things never attempted and the loss of the good things you and I can do for the world.

I am working on finding the value in the judgment and see what I learn and make my life even better. Oh yes, and I notice when I judge others (and stop doing it!)

Have a good day,
Anita