Do you ever wish that others would change – family members, colleagues, or neighbors? Or, do you think that if you could only move to a new job, town, or relationship that life would be grand? While these external adjustments can make life better for a time, the annoying people and circumstances follow you – even if the names and specific events are different.
Many years ago as I complained about this dilemma to a friend, she leaned over and whispered in my ear, “Anita, you take you with you wherever you go. Why would you expect anything to improve unless you improve yourself first?”
While not as “easy” as blaming, complaining, or feeling sorry for myself, improving from within is way more effective. So if you find yourself facing people or situations you don’t like, ask yourself the following: “How can I polish my character?” Do this and one of three things will happen – the person or circumstances will get better, you or the other person will be removed from the environment, or that individual won’t bother you anymore.
So if you notice a little complaint or a bit of blaming creeping into your thoughts – STOP! Instead of crafting a plan to improve others, start with yourself first.
Have a great weekend.