Are you Clear Enough to Succeed?

I was meeting with a really brilliant friend who is so humble, she doesn’t truly recognize her deep talent. That said, she has so many ideas they can overwhelm her and she has a hard time actualizing her research and creativity. One thing about my friend is that she is open to feedback, ideas, and

The Power of “Let Go”

There is another piece to an alternative to being controlling (yesterday’s post). There power in letting go. I will freely admit that I am not big on this. This is no shock to those of you who know me. Well, I did let go of the original speaker who couldn’t make it for an upcoming

An Alternative to Being Controlling

I am working on a project and thought that I had everything nailed down for the speaker. Well, all of a sudden dates and times were changing, there were delayed responses to email, and more changes. Last Friday, I thought that everything was set. Control set and in place – or so I thought. As

Do You Pre-empt Great Ideas?

I was meeting with a friend the other day and him to brainstorm some ideas around a book project on which I am working.  My goal was to gain specific, clear, and concrete tips that I could implement sooner rather than later. After about ten minutes my friend smiled and said, “Anita, not to be

The Difference Between Believing and Actualizing

I was listening to a speaker yesterday who really inspired me to deeply self-reflect. A key theme of her talk was the word “Actualize”. If you look in the dictionary, the word actualize means “to make a reality”. I am all for making my goals a reality and helping others do the same. The speaker

Is Your Talent “Hidden”?

I was chatting with a very capable individual yesterday and as we began to zero in on where he wants to go next in his career, he became really quiet. While I didn’t say anything, the expression on my face must have looked like a question because he said, “I just don’t see where I

A Courageous Woman

I was with a group of friends last night and I heard a number of stories, but one really stuck with me. Picture this, a working mother with two daughters – one four years old and the other seven weeks old. She shared about how she had pulled back and taken herself out the the

The Power of Perspective

The last month has been a bit overwhelming for me – from the sub-zero weather to many people asking me for lots of stuff. Okay, I am not the biggest fan of windchills at -40 F. That said, I am fortunate to have a safe place to live, warm clothes, and much more. Then there

Above the Noise

I don’t know about you, but I have so many things vying for my attention. Part of me wants to say yes to everything and I feel guilty when I say no. Another part of me is learning to know my priorities, choose how I spend my time accordingly, and honor my decisions. I will

The Guts to Win

I was with a group of friends yesterday and I was truly amazed by the courage they displayed in turning around very challenging family and work situations. These obstacles were not of the tiny variety. They were big, complex, and overwhelming. Each person won because s/he chose not to just cope, but to transform the