How Valuable Are You?

If someone asked you the question,”How valuable are you?” – what would you say? Would you list off your degrees, jobs, and accomplishments?

While these have their place, there is something more. Your worth is a combination of things you can easily measure (like your compensation) AND your attitude and behavior. In today’s world, opportunities are given to those who display both competence and warmth. Competence will open a door and warmth make others want you to stay.

How do you show competence and warmth in your life?

Have a wonderful weekend,


How to Remain Undefeated

It’s always exciting when our favorite team is undefeated. Yet, to me, the more important consideration is how you, me, and each person on earth can remain undefeated in this lifetime?

Some people believe that never having a defeat is impossible. I would disagree. Pause and remember what “undefeated” actually means. It is not that you never have a setback, obstacle, or even a failure. It really means not quitting, giving up, or giving in to doubt, fear, or discouragement.

Defeat begins in your mind and so does winning. You get to choose.

Have a great day,

Better Than Good

Whenever you are working to master a new skill, striving for good is a wonderful place to start. Yet stopping at good is a disservice to you and those around you.

Instead, when you come to one level of achievement look at what is required to get to the next level – and stretch. In the process, you will increase your capacity, confidence, and credibility – and edge your way to great.

Oh yea, you’re likely not going to have great be the end game. You can invariably grow a bit and become even greater.

Have good, actually greater and greater day,

Be an Elevator!

There are people when you see them, you want to run in the other direction because you know you will be trenched in negativity.

On the other hand, there are people that make you smile just thinking about them. They are the best!

You get to choose how you want to be with others. My suggestion: elevate first, next, and always.


Finish What You Start

It’s a funny thing with the brain. When you set actions you actually achieve, your brain rewards you with neurobiological chemicals that empower you to do more. The motivation to keep advancing is internal and requires little to no sustained willpower. On top of all this, your brain doesn’t really even care about the size of the action – as long as its achievement is important to you.

So set an action you can finish and reap the rewards early and often.

Have a great day,

What’s Right in Front of You

I was with a group of friends recently. There was a lot of complaining about the state of the world, how big the problems are, and the impossible nature change. As I was about to get sucked into this vortex of negativity, I made myself pause and say a few things. “Guys,” I said. “Could we go down a different track? My mentor says this again and again, ‘Who is right in front of you? Help that person!’ This might not seem like a big deal, it is. Start with one and go from there.”

While there might have been some eye rolls, I felt better – and it was a reminder to me that when I feel I can’t make a difference, it’s just not true. See the person in front of you and smile and wave, say thank you, or go out for coffee and listen more than you speak.

Enjoy the day,

Super Success Strategies

Over the years, I have read my fair share of books, articles, and more on how to succeed – with each expert talking about how “perfect” his or her approach is. Yet, whenever I didn’t achieve my goals and dreams employing a particular strategy, I viewed this as a failing on my part. Not an encouraging way to view the world.

Then, several years ago, I decided that the criteria for a super success strategy for me was: did it work for me? Was I inspired by the outcomes? Could I keep it up?

While I took responsibility for my actions and the outcomes, I decided that no one approach was right for everyone. If something didn’t work for me, it wasn’t my failure or weakness. Instead, I customized the approach  with much greater positive results.

Have a great day,

Self-Generated Motivation

It’s a funny thing about motivation, you don’t often notice how motivated you are until your motivation goes down or even stops.

So how can you prevent these lapses in forward motion? It’s simple, even if not easy:

  • Know why you want to achieve a specific goal. Pile on the reasons now as you will likely need them later.
  • Take actions that are big enough to be interesting and absolutely doable regardless of your time, energy, and commitments.
  • Count everything you start, complete, and take off your plate as a win.

With this as a solid beginning, you can start and keep your momentum going. Then your motivation is self-generating and self-sustaining.

Have a great day,

Handwritten Happiness

I will admit that I was not the best thank you note writer as a child. It was a bit of a tussle to get me to put my words of appreciation onto cards, put the cards into envelopes, and address them.

Yet that all flipped a number of years ago when I read a chapter in a book on writing that celebrating note writing. This actually changed my life forever – for the better.

From that point forward, I started writing cards, letters, and postcards – more than a thousand every year. I love, love, love to write them. My spirits rise, I feel more connected, and my confidence soars. What’s even better is that my appreciative feelings are felt by the receiver of my notes. They tell me in person, by phone, and in email.

It’s a small thing and the positive ripples are wonderful and far reaching.

Write! Bet you can’t send just one.

Have a great day,

Generous Success

Success ebbs and flows depending on your generosity and appreciation. So if you are currently in one of those ebbs in the cycle, amp up your gratitude, kindness, and value of others.