Success = A Unified Purpose

I was working with someone yesterday who is not getting the traction that he wants – and he is a talented, competent, and engaging person. As we talked, it became clear to me that he doesn’t have a solid direction. As a result, he sets a new goals nearly every week and his progress is fleeting at best.

In the end, he agreed to take a step back and explore the thread, theme, and why of his ambition. With this understanding, we are both confident he will accelerate his growth, advancement, and success.

So if you aren’t making the progress you would really like, what action can you take today to begin to build your unifying purpose?

Warmly,
Anita

Do You Prefer Success or Defeat?

On the surface, this could seem like a silly question. Who wouldn’t prefer success? Yet there are people (myself included at times) who create an environment that doesn’t support victories in one or more areas of life. This can include:

  • Not setting concrete goals or having actions accessible, doable, and repeatable – given the reality of your life.
  • Having the people closest to us bringing out your weakness rather than your strengths.

So, first decide if you want to succeed and if you do, dig down to know why.

From there, set supportive goals, create actions under your control, and develop relationships that benefit you and the other person.

Have a great day,
Anita

The Encouragement Multiplier

I believe that each of us needs encouragement and I am at the front of the line. For me, I find it in books, podcasts, and, most importantly, people. Yet I learned several years ago that (for me) encouragement is most powerful if I give it first – sincerely, specifically, and often. When I do, I am instantly encouraged. What a wonderful virtuous circle!

Enjoy your day,
Anita

The Push Away Boomerang

It’s very “funny” about people, things, and circumstances we push away. The more we disregard or even reject someone or something, the more it shows up in our lives.

Instead of pushing something you don’t want, do this. First, embrace it (okay, I suspect, not what you hoped for). I am not saying love whatever it is, just pause and acknowledge the person or circumstance. Second, find the gift or learning and make the most of it.

When you do these things, you will accelerate through the less than pleasant time and get a better and better understanding of what you want. Then, focus on THAT – the good stuff.

Have a great day,
Anita

The Next Impossible

Each time I face something I haven’t achieved before, my brain goes to “it can’t be done” mode. Then I think of a myriad of reasons about how that goal is impossible. Just before I have totally convinced myself that I might as well do something else, my mentor’s voice booms in my head, “Impossible, Don’t tell me that. Focus. Develop wisdom to know what do. Then do it.”

“Ah yes,” I think to myself. I make myself recall a time when I truly believed something was impossible (like that I would ever be happy again after being crushed by a multi-ton elevator car). Then I remind myself of my victories – especially the tiny ones that seemed insignificant – and how each one was an essential part of my transformation.

So when you face your next impossible, remember when you made something that appeared impossible absolutely possible – with your focused vision, commitment, and tenacity.

Warmly,
Anita

Small Counts Too

I have this friend who is invariably looking for the next big breakthrough in his life – and when it doesn’t “happen” he gets discouraged and gives up.

Big breakthroughs rarely appear out of the blue. My experience is that big breakthroughs come through a series of tiny actions that take me closer and closer to my goal. This is good for you for a couple of reasons:  1. You won’t overwhelm yourself with what needs to get done as you are taking it one babystep at a time and 2. If you make a misstep, the course correction is small.

Over time, you can have a big breakthrough – the result of a whole bunch of small wins.

Have a great day,
Anita

Your Difference is Your Advantage

Some people try to hide their differences and just blend it. They might change their style of clothing, voice, and more. Yet, it’s the things that make us different that give us an edge in work, relationships, and general happiness. The real you can lead you to what you want in each area of like.

So be your special self.

Have a great day,
Anita