Encouragement is Not a Selfless Act

I was just thinking about why encouragement is so important – at least to me.

When I am in need of encouragement, I am so happy and grateful to have people in my life who are willing to extend themselves and lift me up. On the other hand, when I see someone who could use a boost, I do my best to encourage that individual.

I used to think that I was either giving or receiving encouragement. Yet now, I believe there is a third option. It’s not you or me, it’s us. Both individuals gain something important.

On the receiving side, it’s wonderful to know that someone cares enough to reach out and point out good things (that can seem invisible) about ourselves and our circumstances. On the giving side, the person sharing encouragement (regardless of that individual’s challenges, capacity, and confidence) is able to make a positive difference in another person’s life – and that feels great.

On both sides, the benefits are immediate and often far reaching.

So the next time you need encouragement and it’s offered, be gracious, appreciative, and welcoming. Also, realize that in sharing a bit of encouragement, you inspire those good feelings in another person. How wonderful is that!

Have a great day,

Anita

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The Encouragizers Project – MSA 29

MSA 29: I can’t really claim that I took an active role in this MSA. It’s not like it was something completely under my control with a metric (This is the definition of an MSA.) Yet something happened today and didn’t react so well to the situation. Yet, I decided to create even a teeny tiny victory out of it. That became today’s MSA.

Thanks for reading this,
Anita

Overwhelmed With a Bit of Perspective

Okay. I will admit it, it doesn’t take a lot for me to feel overwhelmed. Now, most people who know me wouldn’t necessarily think this to be the case – given all that I do. Yet, it’s true. What I have come to realize is that I am far from alone.

This perspective helps me in a couple of ways. First, it provides me with comfort to know that I am not the only one struggling in this way. Second, and even more importantly, when I encounter someone a bit on edge – I think that person might be feeling as I do. When I move toward that individual with empathy, it makes both of us better. In the process, I don’t add to the person’s feeling of overwhelm and I diminish my own.

So the next time you feel overwhelmed – reach out and encourage another person. You will both benefit!

Have a great day,

Anita

The Encouragizers Project – MSA 28

A fun update:

MSA 28: Had an amazing conference call with two very successful individuals who have two different takes on building advocates Each of their perspectives shaped my own thinking. Thank you both!

Warmly,
Anita

The Encouragizers Project – MSAs 26 and 27

Two quick updates:

MSA 26: Made time to write specific examples that can give readers a plan of action for building advocates. Felt good when I completed this MSA.

MSA 27: Had a very enlightening conversation with a new friend who receives many outreach requests because he works for an employer that is a dream company for a lot of people. AR

Have a fun and productive day,
Anita

Stop Procrastination in its Tracks

I find that procrastination “inspires” fear in me. The longer it goes on, the less likely I will take action which reduces my confidence, courage, and forward momentum. Yet, I’m the kind of person who is  curious and that curiosity helps me ahead.

What I have learned over the years is that I can (and do) find actions that are small, not intimidating, and progressive. Also, once I get going, I keep moving because I greatly diminish the friction that created the procrastination in the first place..

So, you too can stop procrastination in its tracks. Start with actions so small, you do them easily and feel good about it!

Warmly,
Anita

The Paradox of Obstacles

To be perfectly honest, I am not the biggest fan of obstacles. That said, I do like transforming them into something beneficial. Over the years, when I face an obstacle –  I first get upset, then scared, and after some time I muster the courage, resolve, and determination to change my situation for the better. When I do, I feel stronger than before the challenge!

Have a great day,
Anita

The Elusive Nature of Courage

Courage is a funny thing. You realize you have it after the fact – once you demonstrate resolve during a difficult time.

Yet difficult times can definitely be intimidating. At least they are for me. At those times, I find a story to read or a podcast to listen to that highlights an ordinary person (like me) who solved a  seemingly impossible problem. That person’s courageous action gives me hope, heart, and enough courage to take another step. When I take step after step after step, I mobilize my strengths and ultimately access my own courage.

Mission accomplished. On to the next goal.

Warmly,
Anita

The Encouragizers Project – MSA 24

A quick update:

MSA 24: I did research yesterday to better understand how people turn challenges into something beneficial. I know how I have transformed obstacles (and working on a few right now). I heard a few wonderful stories yesterday. They gave me hope. Thank you, friends. 

Have a great day,
Anita