I have noticed that many, many people are worried about something (me, too) – and the topic doesn’t even matter. That said, what’s the point? If we can do something about what is worrisome, then take even a small action. If you don’t have control over the thing that is troubling you, consider expending the energy on something more productive and fun.
I was talking to someone recently who believes that it’s hard to have a mentor in the old school sense of the word – a person who is there for you for a long time and as much as you want / need. I certainly agree. It’s tough and not even the best thing for you or the other person.
Another way to view the dilemma of having the right mentor is to diversify your risk (just like you do your investment portfolio). Instead of one, have multiple mentors. Some may guide for a moment and others for a life-time. Regardless of the length of the relationship, you (and the mentor) can both benefit.
Enjoy your week,
There are many things that can drain and discourage you – from the evening news to the latest internet rant. They can zap your power and leave you not pursuing your goals and dreams.
Yet there is an anecdote, and it is something over which you have control. That is: what you decide to put in your head and heart – and the people with whom you interact.
My suggestion is to choose wisely. When you do, you will increase the Power Three: Courage, Hope, and Resilience – and you will be able to pass these on to others.
Enjoy your weekend,
This may seem like a no brainer. Have fun. Who wouldn’t?
Well, I can tell you that from my point of view, fun doesn’t come naturally to me.
So, I experiment, experiment, and experiment even more.
I encourage you to have fun today – and I will do my best to have a bit of fun, too.
Success is a funny thing. It sends signals. If you chase it, it will run away. If you envy and/or disparage another person’s success, yours could easily disappear.
So what is a person to do? I would recommend a couple of things:
- Treat others’ with respect and celebrate their successes (even when it is challenging to do so)
- Know what you want, take appropriate action, and remember that stress and excitement feel much the same way in your body – so go focus on being excited.
A friend sent me an amazing video: how rejection can not only change your life, but help you achieve your goals. Really, you may think? Listen and learn: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZFWyseydTkQ&feature=youtu.be.
It’s really fun, too – especially if you like donuts.
Have a great day,
I have a friend who found out earlier this year that she was pretty sick – and that she was in for the fight for her life. What is so cool about my friend is not so much that she is great person and an amazing toy designer (which she is), but that she is courageous with a quirky and endearing sense of humor.
So once she found out about her illness, she leveraged her toy making skills and created a character (“Evilina” – I hope this is spelled correctly). With the proper foe, my friend could take on the role of superhero – with the mission to transform Evilina to value for herself and others.
I am deeply happy to share that Evilina is no more and my friend is a HUGE inspiration to many others and her fanbase continues to grow (By the way, I am a charter member!).
Congrats, my friend!
Have a great day,
I was chatting with a friend the other day and she was feeling a great deal of frustration about being stuck. She has been working very hard and feeling that almost nothing has changed for the better.
As we continued our conversation, it dawned on me that sometimes there is a delay from the time we change to when it is reflected in our environment.
So if you are feeling, “when is it going to happen?” – take heart and know that your “successes” are running to catch up with you.
Have a great weekend,
I was watching The Next Food Network Star recently. One of more competent and potentially extraordinary candidates didn’t make it past the second week. How could that be? If the food was fabulous, how could a person be sent home so early in the competition?
Researchers, Cuddy, Fiske, and Glick, would say the Food Network competitor has competence, but lacked warmth. If you don’t have competence, you won’t get out of the starting gate. Yet, without warmth, you can be the most brilliant person in the world and others will actually want you to fail.
So beef up your skills, knowledge, and experience – and build your warmth. Once again, it’s the heart that trumps just about everything.
I heard someone speak today who had been unemployed and then in a relatively short period of time had six job offers. When she said this, I immediately wanted to know HOW DID SHE DO IT?
As she began to share her story, I realized that there was no magic answer, yet something incredibly powerful. At the core of her approach were three things: 1. she built strong relationships before she ever needed them; 2. she gave to others without being asked in ways that were meaningful to them; and 3. she was gracious to everyone regardless of what they did or did not do for her.
Excellent things to remember in your personal and professional lives.
Have a great day,