Why Are People Annoying?

I will admit that some individuals annoy me. A little, a lot, or somewhere in between. At times, this negative disturbance takes me by surprise, which is unsettling.

I have come to realize that there is a quick, painless, and highly effective way to turn this around. It is taking a step back and looking at the other person with compassion, empathy, and appreciation. While not always easy to do, the rewards are great. When you create space to listen to (and hopefully help) the individual, you will expand your own capacity as a human being in the process..

When we build positive bridges of understanding with others, everyone benefits.

Have a great day,

Anita

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How Are You “Asking” to Be Treated?

Your behavior often “dictates” how individuals around you treat you.

Ask yourself: do you approach others from a sense of confidence or doubt?

If it is the latter, find ways to boost your sense of self worth and you may just see that others “upgraded” you with greater respect, trust, and positive acknowledgement.

Have a great day,
Anita

The “Perfect” Decision Dilemma

Wanting to make the “perfect” decision is something that many people struggle with – including me. Yet a perfect decision is an illusion and an insidious form of procrastination.

So what is a person to do?

Allocate a fixed amount of time you will devote to collecting information.
Determine and prioritize your key factors.
Pull together what you learn and decide.

While there is risk involved in any decision, having more time and information doesn’t necessarily lead to a better outcome.

Warmly,
Anita

Get Reinvigorated

I was chatting with a group of friends who seemed to be in a bit of a malaise – which is stalling out their progress. The challenge is that a lack progress can lead to frustration, resentment, and complaining. All of the those things deplete your energy and lead to more of negative emotions – a vicious cycle. Ugh!

So what is a person to do?

Here is an answer that may surprise you: reach out and help another person with his or her goals. The very act of making a contribution will boost all of those feel good chemicals in your brain, increase your confidence, and expand your sense of well-being. In the process you will be reinvigorated. If you also reconnect to your sense of purpose, you will be unstoppable.

Have a great day,
Anita

The Power of “Winter”

I was in a very interesting conversation last evening and to say the group was eclectic is an understatement. Yet, we absolutely agreed on a few things:

  • Winter, or the challenges of life, are not permanent – even if they feel that way.
  • Challenges allow us to develop capacities we didn’t even know we had.
  • When we transform our “winters”, we give hope, encouragement, and a positive example to others.

Even if it’s not how we prefer to have things unfold, winter can be a powerful source of growth, success, and happiness.

Warmly,
Anita

Manage Your Mindset

Your mindset will direct how much you succeed in your career and life. So how can you use your approach, perspective, and wisdom to guide you toward your success and happiness while using any challenges to expand your capacity, courage, and confidence?

Warmly,
Anita

Courageous Action

I was with a group of friends yesterday and one person (a cool friend) was sharing how she has a BIG goal – so big it’s scary. She questioned whether she was too afraid to take actions toward her goal.

While this surprised me, I kept listening. As she was describing her “less than bold” actions, I was more and more inspired by her. Her actions are clearly based on her purpose, leverage her strengths, and ARE courageous. By the way,size and speed really do not matter.

Way to go, Susie!!!!

Have a great day,
Anita

The Power of Small Data

Many people talk about the power of big data and while this is true, it only tells one side of the story. Small data, or looking at an individual, can help you create value immediately. When you focus on appreciating, acknowledging, and/or improving the life of the person in front of you – you can have an impact right now. What’s more, the positive influence you have on that one individual can ripple out in ways you can even foresee. So what are you waiting for? Act now.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

The Power of “Mistakes”

I work with individuals on their careers and one thing I do is help them prep for interviews. One of the most intimidating questions for them is about making mistakes. It’s funny how no one wants to admit to doing something in error and yet we all do it.

There are people who actually gain power, credibility, and confidence because of their mistakes. Here’s why – they take full responsibility, fix the issue, and use it for their growth, advancement, and greater success.

While no one likes to make a mistake, you can turn things around and win in the end.

Have a great day,

Anita

Reasonable Actions Create Greater Success

A lot of people believe that big actions yield big results – and this is true IF you are able to take so large steps.

Yet, if you can’t, won’t, and/or aren’t making progress – reasonable actions are SO much better. You score the win, feel accomplished, and increase your courage, confidence, and commitment. What’s more, you could get to your goal even faster than you even expect.

While reasonable it’s flashy, it is effective.

Thanks for the tip, Mary!

Enjoy your day,
Anita