The Possible Versus the “Impossible”

Make a list of the big and small things that are on your mind. Now break the list into #1 – those things you feel that you can do something about and #2 – those things you feel are out of your control.

For list #1, decide what you are willing to begin doing today.

For list #2, consult with a close friend, partner, or colleague and ask him or her what you might be able to do to advance those seemingly impossible goals. Ask for assistance in seeing what is can do starting now, given your current circumstances.

By focusing on what you can do, you will achieve success which you can build on from the present moment into the future.

Much success,


How to Win With Only “Weaknesses”

Don’t think you don’t have what it takes? Think again and listen up.

There was once a child with cerebral palsy who couldn’t use his arms or one leg. He entered a wheelchair race, but his one leg couldn’t more him forward. So he turned his wheelchair around and continued in the race backwards. He won the race even though he couldn’t even see the finish line.

That’s a lot like life. You often don’t know exactly where things will end up. So do what the Special Olympic gold medalist did: decide what you want, create the desire, and build on what works.


Have a great day,


Punctuate with Action

It is terrific to say wonderfully inspiring things, yet without the action to back it up – no one will take you seriously. This is true at work, in relationships of all kinds, and especially with children. So if you want your words to have a positive impact, punctuate them with deeds that show your commitment, courage, and character. Begin today.

Have a great day,

The Mistake Dilemma

Mistakes can be terrifying thing, depending on your ability to learn from them and be in an environment that allows for errors.

While it might feel comfortable in the short term to “hide” your mistakes, it will reduce your credibility, reputation, and ability move ahead.

o do you have the courage, own your mistake? If you do, you prime yourself for larger challenges and a bigger life.


Success Fuel

I am the first to admit this – when an obstacle arises in my life, I freak out – if only for a moment.

In that moment, I may think I am failing.

As long as I take a step back and see the obstacle for what it is – a challenge to my sense of worth, courage, and confidence, I am usually able to rise to the occasion. In the moment I make the decision to overcome the challenge, it instantly becomes fuel for my success and happiness.

You can do the same.


Are You Good Enough??? Yes!!!

This past week, someone asked me if she was good enough to reach a goal that is very important to her. While I took her question seriously, I was a stumped that she asked the question in the first place. She is very intelligent, talented, and personable. Yet, there are inklings of doubt in her mind that, if left unchecked,  could distort her perceptions, limit her choices, and diminish her success and happiness.

Don’t let that happen, my friend!  By the way, this applies to anyone reading this. You deserve the best.

Have a great day,

Beyond the Obvious

Nothing remarkable occurs when we default to the obvious – often what we have done before. Even if your previous answers were successful, going beyond this is actually necessary if you want to grow, advance, and do something remarkable.

So go a tiny bit farther than you have before.

Have a great day,

The Restart

I was meeting with Jessica (a new friend) recently, who had experienced a series of setbacks that left her discouraged, frustrated, and apathetic. It’s very difficult to move ahead from a place like that, let alone achieve the goals that she wanted to accomplish.

Jessica decided to give herself a restart and while, she couldn’t begin with a totally clean slate, she was able to do the following:

Removed from her schedule anything she didn’t want to do any longer that didn’t require her action.

Attended a clothing swap where she traded her old clothing for a brand new wardrobe and a uptake in confidence.

Signed up for a class she had wanted to take as a first step toward a potential new career.

I really like Jessica’s approach. She made changes within her control that while important to her were not disruptive and were low risk.

What can you do beginning today to give yourself a restart?


Break Through a Key Barrier to Success

It’s a very funny thing about missing a target – whether personal or professional. While the barriers can sneakily appear to be external – often others not doing what we want and need – the biggest obstacle is usually internal.

You may think, “Here we go again with that internal stuff. I really just wish others would change.” Well, I actually agree with you. I, too, “hope” that the person in my way – who may not even show me respect – will change his or her frustrating behavior toward me. Then my world would be so much better.

When I am honest with myself (which I intend to be every day), I know that the only possible source of change is within me – and within you. Anything other than that is a fantasy, a distraction that leads to less than what you would want.

You deserve the best, so start with internal change – which can be in your thoughts, words, and/or actions. Do this and your life, success, and happiness will positively expand.

Happy 2018!

Why Are People Annoying?

I will admit that some individuals annoy me. A little, a lot, or somewhere in between. At times, this negative disturbance takes me by surprise, which is unsettling.

I have come to realize that there is a quick, painless, and highly effective way to turn this around. It is taking a step back and looking at the other person with compassion, empathy, and appreciation. While not always easy to do, the rewards are great. When you create space to listen to (and hopefully help) the individual, you will expand your own capacity as a human being in the process..

When we build positive bridges of understanding with others, everyone benefits.

Have a great day,