Be the Sun

Be the Sun. Please don’t stop reading even though you may be rolling your eyes.

What I mean by this, is bring your best, your ability to add value wherever you are.

Today is the day!

Warmly,
Anita

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Stand Up and Act

Each of us has talents, skills, and experience. Along with these gifts is the responsibility to use them – I believe to create value for yourself, your family, your community, and potentially way more. Do it – start now!

Warmly,
Anita

Courage When You Don’t Have It

I get scared at times and I suspect that you do as well. Yet fear doesn’t mean that you should let being scared stop you. While this isn’t easy, it is essential that you move forward – for your health, success, and happiness.

So how can you do this?

What I do is find one teeny tiny action that I can take – a subset of the thing I fear that doesn’t seem so scary. When I do this, I open up the pathway for a bit more confidence, courage, and success. Then I build on this. Eventually, what I feared has been broken into so many actions that I have completed that the fear “disappears” This approach opens up my opportunities, relationships, and my next goal and actions.

Have a great day,
Anita

Be (a) Present

Often when someone is struggling and wants someone to just listen, I want to jump in and problem solve. I want to help the person fix whatever is at issue. While this can be useful (as I have been told), it’s not always what’s needed by the other person.

So listen first and be (a) present with no strings attached.

Warmly,
Anita

Revolutionary Gratitude

Gratitude can be easy. Think of a gift that a friend gave you, a compliment from the love of your life, or a bonus when you completed a big project. You receive good stuff and “thank you” bursts forth with almost no effort. Keep that easy gratitude coming all the time. It’s awesome to have obvious, wonderful rewards coming from every which way. While this type of gratitude may be easy, you get “points” for acknowledging what you have received. Yet easy gratitude has its limits.

Next there is revolutionary gratitude. This is the type of appreciation that is nearly impossible to find because it is buried under negative people, circumstances, and other yucky things. What I am referring to are times when you think (and even say), “why me?” I experienced this when I was crushed and nearly severed in half by an elevator. On top of this, the elevator repairman went home and left the elevator on. His behavior nearly killed me and I was not happy with him – to say the least.

Yet, as long I couldn’t find some gratitude for him and the nightmare of being trapped in an elevator shaft and severely injured, my life was irrevocably stuck and miserable. I had to discover gratitude somewhere in my situation – my life depended on it.

In the end I did find gratitude – little by little. This gratitude was revolutionary – it took me through unbelievable pain into a place that was better than I ever could have imagined.

I wish you the ability to feel gratitude every day. Then share it!

Have a great day,
Anita

The Danger of Doubt

Doubt may not seem so bad at first – a little gnawing in the back of your mind prompted by a small mistake, a slightly nasty comment, or comparing yourself to another person. Yet if you don’t find a way to question the validity of the doubt trigger, you will build a foundation of doubt in your mind and heart. Then then next time and the time after that, little bits of doubt (if not challenged) strengthen a negative self-belief that won’t support your goals, dreams, and aspirations.

In the end, the real danger of doubt is that it could ultimately derail your career and life.

So don’t let it. Please refuse to take doubt triggers at face value. Counter each and everyone of them with the ferocity of a lion – as if your life depends on it because it actually does!

Have a great day,
Anita

Beyond the Past

I was working with someone this week. He spent the first 15 minutes telling me about how bad people treat him and how this has happened again and again. This individual is someone I know and like. However the more I listened to him, the more I believed it would be hard for him to change anything in the foreseeable future.

Oh my gosh. I actually stopped myself. If I  believed his negativity, I knew I wouldn’t be able to help him come up with a solution which would help him be victorious.

So I took a deep breath (but not a noticeably deep breath) and began to see him as someone who already is victorious.

We spent the rest of the time looking at very practical, tactical, and progressive actions that he can take now and into the future. While he is not convinced that he can create a more positive outcome, I am. With my own conviction that he can achieve a victory, I will help him take small steps to rebuild his confidence, create new habits, and document each and every success. What I was reminded from this experience is that it is my responsibility to help people see the best in themselves so they can live their best selves.

Have a great day,
Anita

The Flip to Yes

I am not a big fan of being told “no”. In fact, I can allow that type of rejection to shut me down and (although usually temporarily) derail me. When this negative spiral happened more often that I could tolerate, I did something about it. Double duh!

I decided that a “no” was usually, “no not now” or “no not the way you asked”. I also realized that often the “no” was a gift that helped me strengthen my idea, conviction, and resolve. When I viewed each “no” from that point of view, my energy, determination, and resourcefulness soared – and my relationships and opportunities grew. Also, much of the time, I was able to transform the “no”  into a “yes”.

So, while I don’t love the “no’s” in my life, I continue to learn how to leverage them and positively grow in the process.

Finally, remember you can flip a “no” to a “yes”.

Have a great day,
Anita

Leaving Your Mark

What is your mark on your world – with family, friends, co-workers, community, and beyond?

Some people believe that they have little or no impact with their lives.  I believe this is impossible. You, I, and everyone has influence each day. The question is: are you leaving those around you better or worse? Do you discourage or encourage?

The answer is up to you and you can start fresh as of right now. Your behavior becomes your identity and your “mark”. Make it what you want it to be.

Have a great day,
Anita

Create Victorious Solutions

We all face challenges at one time or another. Virtually all people have the inherent capabilities to develop a solution. The question is it a victorious solution or just a quick resolution that feels more like a concession than anything else.

So think about something you are facing and how can you make it a clear victory. Remember when you transform something within you, who you become is the real victory.

Have a great day,
Anita